Christianity can involve subjects that may be "too touchy" for some people. One of those subjects is sex. It's known that people of the Christian faith believe that pre-marital sex is an appalling act that God did not want us to partake in. However, is it possible to have pre-marital sex and still follow God?
It is undeniable that the Old Testament of the Bible explains that premarital sex is a forbidden act, if one identifies themselves as a Christian. It is listed as one of the many sins that man is plagued with resisting. Speaking of sin, aren't we all guilty of it? So why would we shame someone engaging in sex if we, ourselves, are just as guilty of committing sin of other various natures?
The Bible explains that man is sinful in nature and, no matter how much we try, we will never be free of it. If this is so, how can we turn a cheek to other forms of sin such as lying, greed, pride, wrath, etc, yet condemn someone to hell for engaging in pre-marital sex?
We are all guilty of sin, there is no way around it. So why don't we all begin to focus on the relationship we have with God and his Son, rather than indulge in condemning each other for our actions? Did we forget that the only one who can judge is Him?
Personally, I believe that I can have sex before marriage. I believe that my relationship with him, while it is not perfect, is the most important aspect of my faith and spirituality. Not how many rules I can follow. I used to be concerned with how many rules I could follow and, ultimately, it made me turn away from God and hate him.
I felt like I was flawed as a human and there was no way around it. I knew there was no way for me to not have sex, but having sex would mean that God hated me. I craved sex and that feeling would never go away, no matter how much I loved Him. I thought God hated who I was, because who I was wanted sex.
Eventually, after turning away from him for months, I decided to just focus on the relationship with him rather than the specific rules. It's changed how I see things and I really believe that a relationship with him is more important. If you are just blindly following rules because someone told you it was the right thing to do, you aren't going to stick with it because you don't understand why.
All we can do is keep up with our relationship with Him. I believe that we should focus on our personal connection with him, rather than trying to follow a mile long list of rules. I've always been told that once you begin a relationship with Him and invest in it, you will want to begin following His rules out of love rather than guilt.
If someone is having sex before they're married, let them make their own decisions. You are not put into someone's life to condemn their every action. Their life choices are between them and God. Rather than sending out hate and anger, try to send out love, appreciation, and kindness just like Jesus.
