Choosing yourself is the least selfish thing you can do

Choosing Yourself Is The Least Selfish Thing You Can Do

If you don't choose yourself, then who else will?


To all the strong, compassionate, bold, gregarious women out there, choosing yourself is often deemed selfish. In a world full of misogyny and gender stereotypes, women who give themselves self-love are named "High maintenance," "Pretentious," or "Self-centered." When did being selfish come with negative connotations? Well we all know those actual self-obsessed people. The ones who seem to be unable to recognize that there are about 7.4 billion other human beings on this Earth. The ones that choose themselves over everyone and everything without even thinking twice. Well unfortunately there are people like that everywhere, but that's not the selfish I am talking about.

I support being selfish. Like the confidence and the knowledge that you have to recognize that you are worth time and space. To be selfish is not only knowing your self worth, but to embody self worth. To understand that you are perfectly imperfect and to give yourself the grace to forever be in search of a better you. Because at the end of the day, you are the protagonist of your story, your best friend, and the only soul that will understand the nooks and crannies of the life you have.
I am a firm believer that self affirmation builds the most durable relationship with yourself. Because if you stand behind 110% of your thoughts and actions, then whose opinion should deter you? (You could argue this by using examples of murder, hard drug use, or other bad choices, but I'm talking about the day-to-day choices.) Why would you let someone shake you from your sturdy ground when your roots are deeply planted? Don't succumb to social pressures. Don't back down just because a malicious string of words is throw in your direction. Self affirmation is knowing you are enough as you are in this moment and believing that you are a collection of stardust and that is a miracle within itself.

If you are anything like me, I know that you have an abundance of love that gets poured out on to everything and everyone around you. I know that you fall in love with the simple things in life like puppy kisses, crisp fall days, and hot showers. I know that you and I alike are simple things too and it is time to fall in love with yourself. I'm not saying to go bulldoze over everyone in your world or aloofly presume that the world revolves around you or become a full blown narcissist. I'm saying choose brave. Because what is more brave than celebrating your flaws. Choose passion. Because you are nothing without a drive to become something better. Choose kindness, choose empathy, choose self love. Choose yourself.

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17 'Winnie The Pooh' Quotes To Remember When You're About To Have A Final Exam Panic Attack

"People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day."


Stressed AF about finals?

Let Pooh take the wheel:

1. "You're braver than you believe and stronger and smarter than you think." 

2. "Think it over, think it under." 

3. "Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day." 

4. "People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day." 

5. "It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like "What about lunch?"

6.  "Think, think, think." 

7. "The nicest thing about the rain is that it always stops. Eventually." 

8. "Could be worse. Not sure how, but it could be." 

9. "To the uneducated, an A is just three sticks." 

10. "Home is the comfiest place to be." 

11. "So perhaps the best thing to do is to stop writing introductions, and get on with the book." 

12. "I must go forward to where I have never been instead of backwards where I have." 

13. "One of the advantages of being disorganized is that one is always having surprising discoveries." 

14. "Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved." 

15. "It never hurts to keep looking for sunshine." 

16. "Sometimes, if you stand on the bottom rail of a bridge and lean over to watch the river slipping slowly away beneath you, you will suddenly know everything there is to be known."

17. My spelling is Wobbly. It's good spelling but it Wobbles, and the letters get in the wrong places."

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5 Songs to Add to Your Playlist This Month

Spring into finals week (and the summer) by "cleaning up" your playlist


Here are some fun, fresh new tracks to check out as you finish out the rest of the school year and help you get out of your "music comfort zone!"

“Patience” by Tame Impala 

Genre: Electronic/Alternative

Tame Impala FINALLY released new music (!!), and this track is absolutely stunning. With frontrunner Kevin Parker staying on brand with the band's psychedelic, seemingly ethereal style, it sounds like a combination of 70s soft rock and waves of modern-day electronica, with Parker's voice drifting in and out in a kind of otherworldly, mellowed-out manner.

“Harmony Hall” by Vampire Weekend 

Genre: Alternative/Indie Pop

Vampire Weekend is also releasing an album, entitled "Father of the Bride", on May 3rd. From the looks of it, this track relates to the theme of marriage/weddings present in the album's title, and it is a fun, upbeat song that I have been listening to a lot in the morning as I'm getting ready for class! Ezra Koenig's voice is so unique and can cover a broad range, and I highly recommend listening to some of the band's other work as well ("Step" from their 2013 release "Modern Vampires of the City" is one of my all-time favorite songs!).

“Ready to Let Go” by Cage the Elephant 

Genre: Alternative/Alternative Rock

So many great artists are (finally) releasing new albums this year, and Cage the Elephant falls into this category. This track is an absolute banger and doesn't stray much from the band's style in that it includes a lot of loud guitar and dynamic vocals. Like Vampire Weekend, Cage the Elephant has been around since the early 2000s, and I highly recommend checking out some of their earlier work as well (big fan of their most recent album, actually!)

“Apple Orchard” by Beach House 

Genre: Indie/Electronic

Beach House is one of my favorite bands of all time, as I find a kind of an ethereal, beautiful sadness in the dreamy style of instrumentalist Alex Scally and lucid vocals of singer Victoria Legrand. This track is from their 2006 self-titled debut and is probably one of my favorite songs they've ever released. The lyrics are poetic and perfect for the post-finals enjoyment of spring weather, in that they preach relaxation and restfulness, and the song's electronic rhythms echo the essence of spring as well. If you like this song, then I highly recommend checking out the band's other albums as well (Depression Cherry is one of my favorite albums of all time).

“April Come She Will” by Simon & Garfunkel 

Genre: 60s Pop

No spring playlist is complete without a little Simon & Garfunkel! This song is a classic, its timeless, poetic lyrics capturing the epitome of the coming of spring and all its glory. In fact, I consider the entire album (entitled Sound of Silence) to be perfect for the pleasantness and feelings of renewal/natural revitalization associated with the coming months, so be sure to give it a listen if you haven't heard it before!

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