Choosing Security Over Adventure

Choosing Security Over Adventure

Adventure is still out there.


This spring break, I'm not soaking up the sun in Florida, or exploring Atlanta with my friends. Instead, I've decided to spend my week sleeping and relaxing at home with my family.

Likewise, this summer, I won't be snagging an internship, or travelling around Europe. I will be serving as a camp counselor at a camp half an hour away from my hometown, and then will be with my family on my off-time.

I made the decision to stay near to home for both holidays for a simple self-care reason: much needed rest. After spending a sleep-deprived week slogging over three papers, an exam and a homework assignment, I knew that the only place that I could truly recharge for the next half of the semester was back at my house. Furthermore, last summer was one of the craziest summers I have ever experienced - I graduated from high school, went to Brussels with friends, moved across the ocean to America, visited my brother in Oregon and transitioned to both college life and life in a part of the world I've never been in. Taking a moment to breathe after such a whirlwind of activity seemed like what was in my best self-interest. Exciting plans for spring and summer can wait. For now, I need a moment to curl up with a good book, my dog and a steaming cup of tea.

Despite this, I've been spending the past few days regretting how much I've chosen security over adventure. I've always valued taking the risky decision. I attend a university across the world from where I grew up. I'm employed by a job that requires me to start work once a week at 6:30am. I even once went to the Duc in a onesie. This all goes to show that I am one to take my chances, try the scary option and live my life to the fullest. And somehow, staying in my parents' house in a small suburban town without a car does not fit this label. Even without so much at glancing at the Snapchat and Instagram stories my friends are posting of them tanning on the beach or touring New York, I feel that my staycations pale in comparison. And so, I'm left thinking that I have wasted the opportunity to do something adventurous, life-changing and memorable with my first year of being an adult.

Yet who is to say that choosing security over adventure means that adventure doesn't factor into my equation? This summer, I will do something I have never done before in a place I have never been with people I have never met. For five weeks, I will lose copious amounts of sleep, play hours and hours of games and – most importantly – change lives. My parents being near the camp I'll be serving at does not change the fact that becoming a camp counselor is a big and bold step in my life. Even this spring break, I have exciting opportunities lined up around the corner.

We're all going out to dinner as a family. We might go into Philadelphia together. My mom will watch in dismay as I buy buckets of clothes and books from the local thrift store. But the activities that I do these breaks don't have to be exciting to be fulfilling. I will bake banana muffins and watch movies with my Mom. I will spend hours reading for fun and make many new jokes with my family. I will eat non-dining food and will drink tea out of actually-clean mugs. This just goes to say that, just because I have chosen to stay at home, doesn't mean that I am bound to weeks of boredom and disappointment.

Even though, this round, I have chosen security over opportunity, I have still been adventurous in being honest and kind to myself. Although choosing security seems like the "weaker" option, it is also the strongest and wisest decision I have made to this point. Adventure may be calling my name, but I acknowledged that I may need a break from all the crazy excitement life has been throwing my way for this past year. Choosing security here is not so much a matter of being scared, but it is judging the situation and bravely choosing what is best for me at this point. And as much as I would like to contest it, spending the summer and spring at home is what is best for my mental health. By boldly listening to myself and saying "no" despite wanting to choose adventure, I can't say that choosing home is a bad decision.

So to all my fellow homebodies who are enviously looking at their Instagram feeds: adventure is still out there. Sure, it may not be in the form or jetting off to an exotic location with friends, but adventure comes in many different forms. You can still find excitement in your very own home, even if it's doing as something as simple as cracking open a new book or cooking up a new recipe. Maybe these activities won't fill you up with the buzz of doing something adventurous, but they will fill you up with warmth and happiness all the same. That summer internship and trip to Paris are patiently waiting for you – another time. For now, you get to spend precious time at home, relaxing and with your family, which can be even more valuable as a beach getaway.

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Top 50 Things You'll Hear A Southern Say


For those of you who may need a little help understanding the slang of a southern, I made a list of the top 50 phrases and sayings, along with their translations.

1. Bless your heart.

My favorite saying. It is an empathetic phrase that is usually uttered when the speaker believes the recipient to be sweet, but misguided or stupid. It can also be used if the speaker believes the recipient needs to grow up and deal with it, when the speaker says it in a sarcastic tone.

2. Barking up the wrong tree.

Means being misguided or mistaken.

3. Aren't you precious?

Mostly this saying is used in a sarcastic tone in response to someone being offensive.

4. Britches.

Pants or underpants.

An example would be, "Your britches are too short, you can't wear those".

5. Coke.

Regardless if it's Dr. Pepper, Coca-Cola, or another carbonated beverage, it's called Coke here in the South.

6. Fixin' to.

Simply means that you are about to do something.

7. Get the short end of the stick.

This phrase means that you basically got an unfair deal or cheated out of something.

8. Give Me Some Sugar.

Simply means give me a kiss.

9. Hissy Fit.

A hissy fit is a grown-up version of a temper tantrum that is as bad as one that a toddler would throw.

10. Hold Your Horses.

Be patient.

11. Holler.

When you say "holler" you are basically letting the other person know something.

Example: Holler at me when you are ready to get something to eat.

12. If the creek don't rise.

This saying simply means that if nothing bad happens, everything will go as planned.

13. You're as slow as molasses in the wintertime.

This phrase means that you are being EXTRA slow.

14. Muddin'.

Off-road four-wheeler riding with the intentions of getting mud everywhere and possibly losing control.

15. Skat Cat.

A phrase that can be used instead of saying "God bless you" when you sneeze.

16. There's Not A Pot Too Crooked That A Lid Won't Fit.

There is someone for everyone.

17. Pitcher.

We mostly mean a plastic container that holds sweet tea, not the position of a guy on the baseball team.

18. Reckon.

When you say "I reckon", you believe that something is true.

19. Hoot With The Owls, Soar With The Eagles.

This simple phrase means that if you are going to stay up all night, you should be able to get early in the morning.

20. Too Big For Your Britches.

Simply means that you take yourself too seriously.

21. Stompin' Grounds.

Your hometown or where you grew up.

22. Back In The Day.

Back in the day could be a month ago, a year ago, or 20 years ago.

23. You're A Spitting Image Of (Insert Family Member).

Yes, I know I'm a spitting image of my mother. "Spitting image" simply means that you look just like someone.

24. "Darlin, Sugar, Sweetheart"

These words are simply terms of endearment.

25. Buggy.

A buggy is a cart/basket at the grocery store.

Example: Who wants to push the buggy?

26. Quit Crying Or I Will Give You Something To Cry About.

This phrase simply means to quit crying and if you didn't then more than likely you got a spanking,

27. Where You Raised In A Barn?

If you are from the South, you have probably been asked this more than once, especially when you left a door open.

28. Close The Door. You Are Letting All The Good Air Out.

This southern heat is nothing to play with. It simply means to keep the door closed so the air (or heat if its winter) stays inside.

29. You Are Going To Make Me Lose My Religion.

When you say this phrase to someone, it more than likely means that person has done something to irritate you or made you mad. Thank goodness Jesus saves.

Example: You are going to make me lose my religion.

30. You Look Like A Chicken With Your Head Cut Off.

This is said when you are running around like a crazy person. It can be said if you are looking for something that you are searching for or if you are just really busy.

31. Y'all.

The southern way to say "you all".

32. You Can't Carry A Tune In A Bucket.

If you've ever been told this, it means that you can't sing.

33. Have Their Feathers Ruffled.

You normally have your "feathers ruffled" when you are pouting.

34. Two Peas In A Pod.

When you and someone else are "two peas in a pod", it means that either you almost always together or that you two are almost identical in the way you think and do things.

35. Well Butter My Butt And Call Me A Biscuit.

This saying can be used when you are surprised or excited.

36. Don't Let The Door Hit Ya Where The Good Lord Split Ya.

When someone say this they typically mean to get out and don't let the door hit you on the way out.

37. You're As Good As Gold.

When you are "as good as gold", it means that you are well-behaved and obedient.

38. It's Raining Cats And Dogs Out There.

This simply means that the rain is really coming down hard. It's not actually raining cats and dogs, people.

39. I'm Full As A Tick.

This phrase means that you ate too much food.

40. I'm Sweating More Than A Sinner In Church.

When someone says this, it means that they are really hot and sweating A LOT.

41. Pot Calling The Kettle Black.

This phrase is used when one person is guilty of the very same thing of which they accuse another person.

42. There's More Than One Way To Skin A Cat.

It means that there is anyways more than one way to fix something.

43. Shut Yo' Mouth.

Means to be quiet or hush up.

44. Whatever Floats Your Boat.

This saying means to do whatever you want to do.

45. Slap Yo' Momma.

This phrase means that something is good.

Example: This BBQ is slap yo' momma good.

46. She's Like A Bull In A China Shop.

When you tell someone this phrase, you are telling them that they are clumsy or careless in the way that they move.

47. Cuttin' A Rug.

Cuttin' a rug is used to describe dancing.

Example: Let's go cut a rug tonight.

48. Clicker.

A clicker is another name for a TV remote.

49. Slow Your Roll.

This also means to be patient.

50. You're A Hot Mess.

When you tell someone that they are a "hot mess", you are simply telling them that they don't have it together.

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11 Ways To Travel More And Spend Less

Airbnb is just the beginning.


Everyone wants to travel, but it can be really expensive, especially if you are in college and have a lot of other expenses. Here are a few different ways you can travel while still staying on budget. These are just some of the ways you can reduce travel costs.

1. Airbnb

A hotel that got four and a half stars in the reviews costs $245 a night in New Orleans, Airbnb has options for as low as $28 a night that has five stars rated by over 130 people. In San Francisco, a five star Airbnb costs $46 a night where a four and a half star hotel costs $199. So if you are comfortable with renting out someone's space for a bit, it's a great option.

2. Get a hotel membership

If you aren't comfortable with staying in strangers' homes, this is another great way to save money. Earn rewards and free visits by sticking to one hotel chain. This might be hard if you travel abroad but it will certainly help in the states.

3. Last minute airline deals

If you want to travel to Florida in two days, take a look because airlines often lower prices and have last minute deals. I would be okay going in two days if the plane ticket price went down to $98. And for New Orleans, the flight price dropped from $400 to $155 for a round trip ticket. If I leave for Dubai in four days, my round trip ticket is $984 instead of being around $1300. So if you can get up and go in a short period of time, look out for deals like these.

4. Round trip vs. one way tickets

Most people just go automatically into booking a round trip ticket, but sometimes it is actually cheaper to get two one way tickets. So just take a look before you book the tickets.

5 . Eating on vacation

It may not be as exciting as eating out every night, but even just bringing enough for your own breakfast and snacks will save you a ton of money by the end of your trip.

6. Eating at home

Or if you really want to go out on vacation, eat cheaper when you are home. Cook more, go out less — this will save even more money than the previous suggestion. Or even better, do both.

7. Get a credit card with points or miles

This way everything you do will help you do more things in the future, while helping pay for what you want to do now.

8. In terms of saving up, ask for money

If you really want to travel, for every holiday and birthday, ask for money or gift cards, then save it up to go away.

9. Use public transportation

Instead of taking an Uber or taxi everywhere, use public transportation.

10. Use apps

If you are going out of the country, use apps to call and text people instead of paying for a very expensive phone plan. WhatsApp is a very popular option.

11. Withdraw money, don't exchange

Many times you can avoid fees or at least minimize them by withdrawing money while in the country you are visiting rather than paying exchange rate fees.


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