Chess Is No Different Than A Game Of Tic Tac Toe

Chess Is No Different Than A Game Of Tic Tac Toe

To all those players out there.
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Really, what is love? Is it the complete trust you have with your partner? Is the quick pounding in your chest when you see your crush walking towards you? Or is it all just fate, where the two of you are Romeo and Juliet, meant to be together forever and ever. And of course, lets not forget the other type of love, *ahem* ahem *wink *wink.

Well, the hell if I know what love is. That goes for the general population on Earth as well, I mean, why do we date? Seriously. Dating is like playing chess, you carefully think through every piece your going to play, and fear that the next move that you make will cost you and eventually you will lose. That's if you panic and don't plan out your moves well. Each moves counts, taking risks are necessary to win. The end goal to winning may be different for many people, it could be just getting laid or actually winning the heart of your crush. If your really good at the game, you may think that chess is no different than playing a game of tic tac toe. When you get to this level, you become quite the player.

Everybody is insecure about the subject of dating, even the f***boys and sluts. It's just a matter of how many times they just toss/win the game and start over with a new player. Losing the compassion to win creates a crappy game; no one has fun. Playing a game with people who don't care is a waste of your time and efforts. There's nothing to gain from them but disappointment. There our plenty of players out there, it's just a matter of finding someone who is fun to keep playing with and who cares.

Finding someone to date can be hard, and being a good player is not as easy as it may seem. Each move is calculated and planned out, and when the risks get high, there is even more concentration. With great rick comes a great reward. Winning too much may label you as a top player, but people don't want to play with someone that will easily win, especially if the person that wins intends to move on to the next player. There is a requirement of care with each person you meet by flirting and going out with them. Stick to a good game plan until the very end.

To keep on playing this game of chess, (a.k.a. dating), you will become a better player over time. If your goal is to play with as many players as you can, then you will have a lot of experience and most likely keep winning; as long as you are smart with the moves you make. If your are more of an introvert and don't like playing this chess game, then you may have a more difficult time on being familiar with how to win. It comes down to sharpening your skills to be more strategic in order to win with whatever your end goal is in the relationship.

With every game, show respect and compassion to the other player; there is nothing better than having an enthusiastic player that will make your time worth while. Maybe even for the rest of your life. Good luck to all of you players out there, and remember to have fun.


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Premarital sex is not a new concept, no matter how much people like to pretend it is. You can trace scripture and historical texts back thousands of year to see that lust and fornication have been a problem since… well, since we humans have been problems.

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If you haven't even had your first kiss, you really can't imagine what it's like to develop such a complex and intimate connection with someone because you have yet to feel the butterflies in your stomach from a kiss. So you really don't know what it's like to have a whole different type of feeling in your stomach.

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You never forget that. No matter how hard you try.

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So, save those pieces for your future spouse.

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Actual Nice Guys Do Exist, But We Don't Come Easy

We are out there, but there are reasons you can't find us.

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First off, the numbers game, because if you have read any of my articles, you know I like to use numbers and statistical data to make my points and arguments. Here is one that will blow your mind: as of 2017, the last time they actually processed the numbers, we had 7.53 billion people on Earth. 7.53 BILLION! That's a real number-look it up! Google it! I promise it is there and let's face it, Google is so advanced now, it finds everything and practically knows everything. Dig a little deeper in this and you will find that 49.5% of the world are females. That means that there are more guys than girls on planet Earth and the numbers game is actually more in your favor than ours.

So, what's the problem? Well, there are a few avenues we can take in asking why. First and foremost, the standards you have set might not be the same kind of standards that are truly in your heart. It's true: girls like bad guys for whatever reason, but c'mon you don't marry the bad guy if you really want it to last. Secondly, you might be settling with that kind of attraction and you're better than that and you probably don't even realize it!

That is a truly scary part because chances are, you're worth way more than that and you just haven't realized your self-worth, at least on the surface. That's not bad though, that's part of life. Finally, it isn't all about you and your faults, nice guys have them too.

We've been burned by girls we've adored, and we've been hurt by them too.

We have experienced toxic relationships just like you have and you're not wanting to see guys like that. Chances are, you've already friend zoned a guy that has always wanted to date you or is really worth your time and you just didn't pay attention.

Timing is everything and if he isn't shy, he hasn't asked you out yet because he either has reservations that he's not the guy you're looking for at the moment or he's got his own stuff going on trying to better himself. These guys love being your friend, but chances are have wanted something better because he's already seen you on the other end of being in the same position he has. It's not that he isn't trying to be assertive, he would be. However, he's thinking "well even though she's my type, I'm clearly not hers" and that's a real thing, ladies.

Nice guys may not be jerks but that doesn't mean they are betas. Some of us like to hunt, fish, go to the beach, drive really fast, ride rollercoasters, shoot guns at a range, or going to the bar to have a couple of beers. There are a lot of alpha males that do mainly things (such as grow a beard and listen to metal music) and still are just genuinely nice.

Here's a huge disconnect in relationships: many women consider a nice man, is a weak man.

That's not true either. You cross a nice man, you'll know it and you'll see a different side of him when he's angry. He'll be temporarily the guy you broke up with before him. The difference is he'll apologize to you and actually mean it. You'll realize he was just mad and that was a temporary thing because in the back of your mind you understand that you finally achieved in getting what you were looking for.

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There are nice guys who fit both of that criteria that will adore you for who you are, spoil you in a way you've probably never experienced before, and love you as much as a boyfriend can that in some ways (not the creepy way) remind you of that care that your father has for you. Because ultimately that's what you want right — a guy you know your dad would like and an ultimately a guy that you'd be proud of introducing him to your dad? You don't want your dad second guessing your choice like when Brian Cranston gets pissed at his daughter for bringing James Franco home in "Why him."

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Unless there's something special about you, people do tend to not open up too fast and there are reasons for that. If I do, then you're extremely special and when I mean extremely special, I'm talking you're a pearl in a mountain full of empty oyster shells. Sometimes I come off bored or disinterested. That means that I'm playing my hand or I'm debating on whether this is gonna go anywhere — try harder.

Nothing worth having is easy: you gotta fight for it.

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