A Reflection On 2018 And How To Make 2019 The Best Year It Could Possibly Be

A Reflection On 2018 And How To Make 2019 The Best Year It Could Possibly Be

A new year means new adventures and taking what I learned from the past year to make this my year.

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We all know that silly saying, "new year, new me". And while it's not necessarily true that you are "new", you can make changes for yourself and how to make the present year the best one yet.

2018 was a challenge for me. Entering into 2018, I had just lost my grandmother to her long hard fight against lung cancer, and I felt a little lost in the world. I had to cope with losing one of my best friends while also trying to maneuver school, a job, a sorority, and my social life. I had a rough start to my year, and mentally and emotionally, I wasn't in the best shape I could have been in. However, not all of 2018 was bad. I took 2 amazing little with my sorority in the Spring, and Nora and Christina, you were what helped me through my tough time. I do feel like I should have been there for you more, but it's also because of you that I pulled myself out of my funk.

I got into the master's program of my dreams in April, and I proved to myself that I could do what my heart and mind had been telling me to do in my career path all along. I went home to Jacksonville for the summer, and I took me time. I worked alongside my family in our family business and really threw myself into making all of the time that I could with the people I love the most. Summer was a renewal for me. I focused on me and my mental health, and when summer came to an end, I felt like a new and happier person. In August, I moved into my first apartment with my best friend.

I planned a rush process with my sorority, and even better with that, I gained another two amazing littles, Kat and Emma, to add to my family line in my sorority. I now have the four most amazing, unique, loving, and caring young women to call my littles and I couldn't be happier. This fall semester, I learned so much about myself as a future educator and learned so much about my own abilities in the classroom. I finished out the year strong. I have a job that I love, the best of friends, and I ended the year surrounded by those who love me.

Through 2018, I learned so much about what I do and do not want to see in my future. I learned in 2018 that if you are unhappy in an employment opportunity, change it and find something you love to do. You will truly never work a day in your life if you find a career you have a passion for. I also learned that not everyone is going to like what I do or say, but ultimately, as long as I do something with the best intentions, then that is all I can do. I don't need the validation of others to be happy. The only validation that I need is my own happiness. I also learned that sometimes you just have to jump on opportunities and not let the experience pass you by. I had so many new experiences in 2018, but I also missed out on so many because I was too afraid to take the chance.

In 2019, I will be a changed woman. I will find happiness in the little things and shape my viewpoint on the good, not the bad. I will try my hardest to not seek validation in others, but to trust my own instincts and trust myself more. And I will leap at new opportunities. I will try things that I have never done before. I will go to places I've never been. I will create new experiences for myself and I will live every day to the fullest. If there is anything that I have learned, it's that we are never guaranteed each day.

So I'm going to make 2019 my year, and I hope you do the same.

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19 YouTubers You Need To Watch, Favorite And Subscribe To In 2019

Because who really watches TV anymore?

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YouTube is great for someone who doesn't have the time or desire to watch movies or full-length episodes of shows, but it can be hard to find a YouTuber you like.

Here are 19 YouTubers everyone should be watching in 2019!

1. MissRemiAshten

Remi Cruz

Remi Cruz may be the most fun-loving and positive twenty-something on the internet and if you're not watching her already you need to stop reading this article and watch one of her videos right now! Remi posts lifestyle and fitness related videos multiple times a week on her main channel MissRemiAshten and her vlog channel RemLife. Remi is a glass-half-full kind of gal and watching her will help you look on the bright side too!

2. AlishaMarie

Alisha Marie

Alisha is another ray of sunshine, who posts anything from DIY, room decor, lifestyle and collabs with her YouTube besties! One of those besties just so happens to be Remi Cruz, and together they host a podcast called Pretty Basic, where they share stories and talk about their experiences in hopes that they can help their listeners going through similar things.

3. James Charles

James Charles

James Charles quickly became the makeup Queen of YouTube! This sister posts the most stunning makeup looks ranging from everyday wear to total glam, perfect for special events. James collaborated with Morphe Cosmetics to create his very own pallet that inspires everyone to unleash their inner artist. The James Charles Pallet launched November 2, 2018, and has basically been out of stock since then, it's so popular.

4. KathleenLights

Kathleen Lights

Kathleen Lights is one of the most honest, yet funny, beauty gurus on the internet. She's a firey Miami native who loves a good glam look! Kathleen collaborates with Colourpop regularly to create her own products. She is obsessed with all things astrology and incorporates Zodiac signs in many of her makeup products, one pallet is even titled "The Zodiac."

5. Safiya Nygaard

Safiya Nygaard

You may recognize Safiya from her days at Buzzfeed when she starred in the popular series "Ladylike," but since leaving Buzzfeed in March of 2017, Safiya has accumulated 6.8 million subscribers of her own on her YouTube channel. Safiya is most known for testing new products, following hacks and reporting back to her subscribers with the honest results.

6. Meghan Rienks

Meghan Rienks

Meghan is like that brutally honest friend that some people think is mean, but really they just haven't gotten a chance to get to know her. She's a busy lady as she's a working actress in L.A., has her own apparel and accessories online store called "Martie" and hosts her own advice podcast called "Don't Blame Me." After watching Meghan you'll wish she was your best friend.

7. Gabbie Hanna

Gabbie Hanna

Formally known as "thegabbieshow," Gabbie Hanna got her start on Vine years ago and fans followed her when she made she made the jump to YouTube. Gabbie is mostly known for her outrageous storytimes and near-death experiences, but she is also an amazing singer and has released half a dozen singles in the past two years.

8. Nikki Glamour

Nikki Glamour

She's your best friend, big sister and favorite cousin all wrapped into one! She gets so into the stories she tells it's like you are right next to her when they were happening. Nikki keeps it real and always has, she's hard working and lives her life to the fullest. Her family is growing so be sure to check out her family channel GlamourFamily to grow with her.

9. Sarah Baska

Sarah Baska

Sarah Baska is the funniest person on the internet! She's not afraid to make fun of herself, and others but she means no harm. She's the happy hippie we all need in our lives to remind us not to take life so seriously.

10. Kendall Rae

Kendall Rae

Kendall's channel is great if you want to think! Her channel is full of interesting topics like true crime, unsolved mysteries, space and ocean exploration, world travel, astrology and a little paranormal activity. If you're open-minded and want some thought-provoking content in your life, Kendall channel is the best for you!

11.  Mr. Kate

Mr. Kate

Think of Mr. Kate's channel as Extreme Home Makeover-YouTube Edition, follow her as she transforms your favorite social media influencer's spaces into gorgeous works of art. If you're an avid HGTV watcher, you'll love Mr. Kate.

12. Sierra Schultzzie 

Sierra Schultzzie

Sierra is a body-positive confidence building queen who stands by the notion that every body is beautiful. Her channel is full of look-books, Disney, DIY and lifestyle-related videos. She also has her own online clothing line called "The Curvy Crew."

13. Josh Peck

Josh Peck

It's like "Drake & Josh," but better. Josh Peck is all glown-up and even funnier than he was on the Nickelodeon show that we all know and love. Josh is also BFFs with YouTuber David Dobrik and he can be seen in many of Josh's videos.

14. Lily Marston

Lily Marston

Lily is not your average L.A. influencer, she's down to earth and lives off In-N-Out and Dr Pepper. Lily used to be a producer and host on "Clever Style" but decided to go her own way, shortly before Clever shut down. Lily posts lifestyle and beauty related videos, even though she definitely doesn't claim to be a beauty guru. She's hilarious, sarcastic and a little pessimistic, but an all-around good time.

15. Simply Nailogical 

Cristine

Cristine is the crazy nail lady on YouTube, but if you're even a little into nails you'll love her channel! She's hilarious and has so much knowledge to give on taking care of your nails. She posts seasonal nail tutorials and fun videos like Polish Mountain where she paints her nails with over 100 different coats!

16. Natalia Taylor 

Natalia Taylor

Natalia is a storytime YouTuber who has some of the craziest stories. Her stories range from paranormal activity to almost being on "America's Next Top Model" and faking her own death, Natalia will always expose herself before anyone else can.

17. Lindsey Hughes

Lindsey Hughes

Lindsey makes lifestyle vlogs and videos her travels, music festival experiences and beauty and fashion favorites. Lindsey has grown up on YouTube, first joining the platform in 2010, and though she's grown and changed she's always been real with her audience.

18. Bella Fiori

Isabella Fiori

Bella is an Australian YouTuber who posts anything from beauty videos to unsolved mysteries and vlogs of her daily life. She's cruelty-free and passionate about leaving the world a better place than when she found it.

19. Shane Dawson

Shane Dawson

Last but certainly not least, the King of Youtube, Shane Dawson! Shane has 19 million subscribers and has been active on his channel since he joined in 2005. His content has evolved with him over the years but he is best known for his conspiracy theories and mini-documentaries investigating other well-known YouTubers. As long as YouTube is around, Shane Dawson isn't going anywhere!

I hope this article helps you find your new favorite YouTuber!

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This Year, I Will Stop Worrying About Situations That Have Not Happened

Worrying about every negative outcome is a dreadful way of protecting yourself.

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I remember crying in the airport, ridiculously anxious and scared of a horrible situation that had not even happened, for one instance. I typically make myself sick over the fear of a bad outcome in the future, but this toxic way of thinking is no way to live a healthy life.

In short, it is anxiety, but instead of just classifying it as anxiety, I have found that most of the times I am upset or worried is when I am depicting a horrible outcome in my head of what life could spin in to. It is my way of protecting myself, thinking of every upsetting scenario and going through the ways of how I will handle it in my head prior to it happening. It can sound somewhat logical, but my mind got carried away with it.

It didn't end up being a thought-out method with plans of reaction for negative outcomes, I would end up worrying about things so bizarre and so unlikely to happen and it would completely consume me. It robbed me of happiness. Worrying about unreal and unlikely situations sent me into spirals of crying and anxiety, and not for any real or plausible reason. I would spend the whole day staring at the wall, unable to speak to anyone because my worry was so consuming, or finally meet my breaking point and just erupt in tears and have to explain to the people around me that I am basically crying for no reason.

There is too much life to live to live every day by the lingering thought of "What if something bad happens?" I have too many good days ahead of me to be spent worrying, and a handful of bad ones that should not be made worse by worry or fear. Life is good, and it is almost frightening because it has been very good for a while, perhaps this is why my mind wants to prepare for the worst, as the daunting thought of things being "too good" comes into play.

Even when bad days come, and they will, I will handle them. I have noticed that when life is so hard, I get through it, and I look back thinking "Damn. How did I ever get through that?" I take pride in the fact that when bad days, situations, and periods of life do occur, I always, always handle them. But, in the meantime, I would like to savor my good days instead of worrying about not-yet-existent bad days.

So, this is a big step for me, but I am going to try and do this. I know it will bring peace to me, and a lot of people who surround me. This year, I will stop worrying about situations that have not happened.

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