Please, Don't Call Me Pretty

Please, Don't Call Me Pretty

Because I'm so much more than that.

Of all the things there are to be called in this world, "pretty" seems to be the go-to compliment towards women. Almost nobody understands why I hate that word. I don't want to be called pretty because there's so much more that. I'm smart and funny and talented. I want to be told that someone likes the way I think or that I'm good at telling stories. I don't want a man thinking I'm cute before he knows what makes me laugh and I don't want to be called beautiful before I'm able to have an intellectually stimulating discussion. There's such a pressure and desire for young women to want to be beautiful that we're forgetting to want to be anything else.

For some reason, so many girls simply aspire to be beautiful. From an early age, we're taught to play dress up and play with makeup and other products deemed "feminine." Girls grow up wanting to be princesses, but settle for second best as a trophy wife. If we don't feel beautiful, we feel worthless, because beauty and excellence go hand-in-hand. We're stuck fighting this unrealistic beauty standard each and every day set by the world around us. Beautiful is what we're striving to be. Not interesting, or charming or nice, just beautiful - that's all. And what is beauty going to get us, exactly? Someone maybe mildly interesting to find us attractive for a little while? A drink or two at a dive bar? While there are so many things we can be doing with our skills and knowledge, we're worried about the way we look. We're not going to cure cancer if we're too worried about flyaway hairs.

You see, society has women constantly wanting validation that they're beautiful. So much so, that we only compliment her appearance, not her quirky sense of humor or take charge attitude. And I've heard far too many times the phrase, "ugly but nice," as if they're mutually exclusive. As if to be a decent person you have to look good as well. Often times, if we find a person unattractive, we're actually less inclined to socialize with them, as if only pretty people are worth our time. Is it because we just don't notice them, or because we subconsciously only want to surround ourselves with "pretty people?" Instead of talking about how great of a leader a woman is, we're talking about her outfit (cough, cough, the 2016 presidential election). Everyday Feminism writer, Erin Tatum, reminds us, "Every women's identity extends so far beyond the superficial, and they deserve for others to start recognizing that." Basically, beauty is only skin deep, so dig a little deeper, because women are people with thoughts, feelings and opinions.

Rupi Kaur, writer of milk and honey summed it up in just a few lines...

And she's absolutely right. As a woman, you are so much more than that. Women are the most exquisitely strong creatures on this planet, yet for some reason, we're reduced to "pretty," "beautiful," "hot," and other adjectives to describe our physical attributes. SO many people will try to say "beauty is only skin deep," but Societal values have put such a pressure on us to look a certain way that none of us are really focusing on what we should be - ourselves, who we actually are; not what we see in the mirror.

Beauty is completely irrelevant; compliment someone's confidence, enthusiasm, or work ethic. Not only is it demeaning, but beauty is a predictable compliment as well. This isn't to say to never accept a compliment on your appearance or tell someone else they look nice, but we need to keep in mind that our looks shouldn't be so prevalent in our society because in all honesty, they really aren't all that important in comparison to who we are as individuals. Because we are individuals, not just a pretty face.

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Welcome to the first post of 2018! I feel so rejuvenated and ready to conquer this year. I cannot wait to share all my new projects and adventures with you all!

During the holidays I love sticking with the classic red, white and green color scheme; naturally I love occasion dressing. However, now that the holidays have come and gone I'm back in my favorite color: PINK.

I snagged this fab fur jacket during Asos' Black Friday sale and it is easily one of my favorite buys from 2017. I literally never get tired of wearing this soft blush color and the huge fur collar bumps the glam factor up quite a few notches.

I paired this with my new spiffy white go-go inspired booties and I was ready for the day.

Jacket (It's on an even bigger sale now!): Asos // Top: White House Black Market // Booties: Steve Madden

Vivre dans le luxe,


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11 Ways To Be A Savvy Thrift Shopper

Good things come to those who thrift.

Thrift shopping is great for the environment — as well as your wallet.

After working at a thrift store for over a year, I did a lot of shopping. I got some great pieces and some that had broken zippers and stains. I got some things I never used, and others that I use time and time again.

It is important to remember that there’s always a reason something was donated — whether someone changed their mind or the item really is damaged. Here are some tips and tricks for determining if your latest find is a must-buy or a big bust.

1. The smell test

It sounds weird, but some smells just don’t wash out. Clothes that smell like smoke will likely always smell like that.

2. Check for holes

Put your hands in the pockets, the crotch, and armpit to look for holes and tears.

3. Check the zippers

Make sure these work!

4. Check the buttons

See any missing buttons?

5. Plug in electrical items

Find an outlet in the store to check lamps to make sure these turn on and work correctly.

6. Check near the end of the rack for sale items

The newer items are put near the front of the rack and storefront. The oldest product will go on sale before it’s taken off the racks.

Stores sometimes strip sales tags before sale day hits — but if you know where to look, you can find more sale items.

7. Donate your old items for coupons

This will help to make room for new stuff while also saving you some extra bucks. At some stores, the more you donate, the more you save.

8. Shop early in the week

Most people drop off donations on the weekend. That means that the production team will start sorting through and pricing products on Monday and send them out to the sales floor throughout the week.

To have the best selection, avoid weekends when everyone shops!

9. Senior, military, and student discounts

Different stores have special days for discounts while others offer daily discounts. Check with your local stores to find out their schedule.

Take your grandparents shopping and take your student I.D. card!

10. Shop off-season

Most people don’t think to look at sweaters during summer — so with less shopper competition, you can find some great pieces.

11. Remember that you can’t return items

Most stores give you seven days to exchange your purchase for something else, but don’t expect to get cash back.

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