You know what’s shitty? Losing your BFF to her BF.
At this point, we’ve all experienced the painful process of losing our best friend once she/he gets a significant other. The group chat is no longer lit AF, your weekends are no longer a shit show. In fact, your bestie is completely MIA. But thanks to social media, you know she’s not dead (thank Goodness), but she might as well be because that girl is no longer your bestie like she once was. That girl is gone.
I’ve been on the other end of the spectrum where I got a boyfriend and completely lost all of my friends. It kind of just happens. You’re so wrapped up in your new relationship that you forget about the people who’ve gotten you to this point in your life. Without us, she wouldn’t have landed this dude anyway. Who else was there to write up those cute texts to bae? Who told you the amazing advice of waiting at least two hours to respond to anyone you find remotely appealing? Yeah, that wasn’t all you, girlfriend. Give credit where it’s due and take your BFF out to brunch.
Since day one of meeting this girl, we were attached at the hip. Our friendship can’t really be explained, we just have this bond – that’s my homegirl. She made me a better me. She called me out on my shit, told me when I was being a bitch, gave me the best advice, was there for me (countless times) when I needed her most. Because of the incredible friend she was to me, I will always have her back until the day that I die. I don’t care if we haven’t talked in two years, if she called me & needed me, I’d be there in 5 minutes (damn traffic).
It's hard to see that you're still living your life without me, your sister, your partner in crime. I don't hear from you at all, except when you post something on Instagram, which I will never 'like' because I don't want to give you the satisfaction. You dropped off the face of the earth, and took all of our memories with you.
The sad part is that it's not like I'm not happy for you, I'm so happy that you found someone you love and who loves you back. I'm just not happy with how I've been cut out of your life for your relationship to thrive. I miss my best friend. You made me a better me, now you're a better you for your new boo.
It wasn't like this when you first started dating. We went out on group dates, we got to know one another. But some aspects of our lifestyle - drinking, going out, (blacking out), hot boxing some dude's car, dancing until 3 AM, taking shots with randoms, stuff like that, he can't deal with. He made you completely change your lifestyle. I'm not saying it's a bad thing you're not getting f*cked up anymore with your friends, but damn girl, don’t you think that leash is a little too tight? I'm all for getting your shit together, but when you can't even have a girls' night without getting harassed by your boyfriend (with serious trust issues and insecurities) then I think it's time to re-think your "amazing" relationship.
I was stubborn for a while about losing you. I didn't want to be the only one reaching out, so I just didn't anymore. You got too busy for me, so I had to continue to live my life. But I'm over the pettiness. Our friendship was the best friendship I’ve ever had. You're still my sister. I still have just as much love for you as before. I miss you - let's get lunch soon. Call me.
