Alright ladies listen up, 2018 is the year where we are working on building each other up. Beyoncé once said, “Who run the world? Girls!” It’s time that we follow her blueprints and settle this once and for all. Below I have listed a few tips, follow these and all of us will prosper this year.
1. Realize that you are that B****
Excuse the profanity, but it needs to be known. You are enough. It doesn’t matter what anyone else has said, or what you believe to be true, you are perfect. If he, she, or they can’t see it then they obviously don’t need to have a place in your life. Like Drake once said, “know yourself, know your worth.”
2. Realize that you don't need a man by your side
Who is he to stop you from thriving? If he can’t get with it, then you’ve got to kick him to the curb. That being said, don’t be afraid to be single!! Sometimes, we all need time to grow and build a foundation for ourselves, before letting someone else have a special place in our lives. If you can’t be happy single, how do you expect to be happy in a relationship? Learn to love yourself, before trying to love someone else.
3. Understand that you are beautiful with or without makeup
Don’t let anyone tell you different. No more leading women to believe that they’re only beautiful with makeup on. It’s okay to wear makeup and it’s okay to not wear makeup. No more saying “she’s only pretty, because she’s wearing makeup,” because we’re all beautiful either way. If we bash on other women than that gives guys the idea that it’s okay for them to do the same. Let’s break that stigma together.
4. Stop comparing yourself to other women
It can be very challenging, and sometimes we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. There’s always going to be someone who is prettier, skinnier or have the qualities that you wish you had. Imagine being able to see the same qualities in yourself that you see in others. Stop focusing on what you wish you could change about yourself and start focusing on what you love about yourself.
5. Hype yourself up, who else is going to do it?
Let it be known, scream it to the heavens. If you don’t believe it then how do you expect others to? I always thought hyping myself up would lead to people thinking I was conceded or self-centered, but every woman needs to be able to stand firm in her beauty every once in a while. So, go ahead and post that selfie for that special boy to see, or just to let everyone know that you won’t be slept on this year, you deserve it.
6. Don't rely on social media to define your beauty
Whether Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, most of us constantly seek the approval of others. Personally, it took me a while to realize that the number of likes that I received on a post didn’t have any control over the outcome of my life. But, in my mind I always let it control the content that I posted on all social media platforms. Don’t post to please others! Post because you genuinely had fun going out with your friends, or traveled somewhere cool! Share your experiences or selfies with your followers, but be careful not to rely solely on their opinions.
7. Surround yourself with people who don't tear you down
Take a step back and reevaluate who your friends are. If your friends don’t make you feel good about yourself then why are they your friends? Besides the occasional, “omg I look terrible in that insta photo you just posted,” if they don’t bring out the best in you, they aren’t the best for you.
8. Repeat steps one through seven
Even when you think you’ve mastered it all, you haven’t. In order to truly run the world like Beyoncé wants us to, it’s our duty to make sure every girl masters these rules. That means being less judgmental and more understanding. NO MORE SLUT SHAMING. I myself have struggled with my own self confidence for years, and it has forced me to hate myself at times, but I have declared that 2018 is not only my year, but all of ours. We can do this.
