Because Boys Will Be Boys

Because Boys Will Be Boys

Women have started to learn to accept and condone the behavior that boys will be boys and us as women do not have a say.

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Boys will be boys or so they say. Girls have grown up in a culture that has been completely normal for men to roam and do whatever they want. That it is okay to be pushed, shoved and treated like nothing. How he talks to you, how he hits you, how he degrades you. It is okay because boys will be boys. So stand up a little taller and take it. You have to conform to a man, it is fine if he gets what he wants all the time.

If he wants to have sex then he will get it. He just has to ask a little longer, beg a little longer, say it over and over and over again and then you cave. You say yes because it will make him shut up faster. But then you lay there hating yourself a little more because you allowed him to get what he wanted. But boys will be boys, right? Boys get what they want because we as women we live in a man's world.

We have been valued as objects since the day we were born. That it is okay he hit her, he is only showing her that he likes her right? It is okay for him to push you to the ground because you are just an object and he likes you. We are told to sit this way or that way, do not wear this or that, because we have to look perfect to be under that man's arm. He pinched you in preschool because he liked you.

He tripped you because he has a crush. He had sex with you while you were intoxicated and unconscious but we will only get six months. Because "A prison sentence would have a severe impact on him"

But the victim says "I don't want my body anymore, take it off like a jacket and leave it at the hospital with everything else." But how dare the criminal justice system ruin the rich, white, swimmers dreams.

Women have started to learn to accept and condone the behavior that boys will be boys and us as women do not have a say.

He is allowed to be possessive and controlling because guess what? It is okay. Women get blamed, they get beaten, they get told to stay because that man will take care of you. That is what you need right? A man to take care of you. He is allowed to treat you how he wants to and you just have to accept it.

Because being a strong independent woman, that is not okay. Women to stand up and support themselves physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially that is not okay. You have to have a man do that. Because boys will be boys. But why can't we end that stigma, that it is okay to condone the behavior of a man treating women how they do. When we go to women we expect the support, the love and hope, they would do that. To be able to vent and get advice but instead, you get diminished like you are nothing, you are worthless, you are alone, you are a nobody. Because "get over your attention-seeking self."

How he treated you? Possessive, controlling, and made you feel like shit for denying sex when you were too tired and just wanted sleep. You are to blame because you are the psycho not him. But guess what hun boys will be boys because we are living in a man's world.

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To The Congress Members Of Ohio: Birth Control Isn't Abortion

It's called birth control for a reason!

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To the Congress Members Of Ohio: birth control isn't abortion.

But before I go further: what am I even talking about?

As of May 7th, 2019, there is an Ohio bill up for debate. In the article about the bill on www.thestatenews.org, written by Jo Ingles, it states that "The bill would ban non-therapeutic abortions that include "drugs or devices used to prevent the implantation of a fertilized ovum". What this means is birth control could be not covered by insurance companies because it is considered a non-therapeutic abortion.

First, let's start with the definition of birth control itself.

According to Google, the definition of birth control is "the practice of preventing unwanted pregnancies, especially by use of contraception". Is there any mention of abortion in that definition? I don't think so.

Birth control is for prevention against pregnancies.

The key word here is prevention. In order to combat abortion rates, the answer isn't to outlaw abortion. It is to prevent pregnancy in the first place. One of the ways we can do that is birth control.

How is this done? There are three methods of birth control. Medicinenet.com says that "Birth control methods can be broadly classified into barrier methods (that prevent sperm cells from reaching the egg), methods that prevent ovulation such as the birth control pill, and methods that allow fertilization of the egg but prevent implantation of the fertilized egg inside the uterus (womb) such as the IUD (intrauterine device)".

With all of these different ways to use birth control, it is extremely helpful for women to have safe sex without fear of contraception. Although the failure rate isn't 100%, it is better than not using any birth control method at all. The goal is to limit unintended pregnancies, and birth control is one of the most effective ways of doing so.

Birth control isn't just for protection against pregnancy.

Women across the country use birth control for other reasons other than fighting against pregnancy. It is beneficiary in aiding many other diseases and ailments. WebMD states some other reasons why women use birth control. They use it to help with "premenstrual syndrome (PMS), premenstrual dysphoria disorder (PMSDD), painful and/or irregular periods, acne, endometriosis, and polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS)."

On top of helping with these issues, birth control has other health benefits. "Because birth control pills cut back on the amount of bleeding you have during your period, you may also be less likely to get anemia, or low levels of red blood cells. They've also been linked to lower rates of ovarian and uterine cancers." There are also lower risks of ectopic pregnancy. Birth control has so many health benefits-- without it many women's lives would be negatively affected.

Without insurance coverage, birth control is expensive.

If there was no insurance coverage for birth control, it would be unattainable for many women, especially those struggling with finances. Birth control pills on average cost "up to $50 without insurance...a year's supply could cost up to $600" (Birthcontrol.com 2018). For the birth control shot "...depending on your level of coverage, the first shot can cost anywhere from $0 to $250. Any subsequent visits for follow-up shots can cost anywhere up to $150" (Birthcontrol.com, 2018).

What about the IUD or implant? For the implant it ranges from $300 to $800 (Birthcontrol.com, 2018). The IUD costs between $500 and $858 (Birthcontrol.com, 2018). Would you rather have to fork $500 to purchase an IUD, pay this month's rent, or put food on the table? This would be the harsh reality for lower-income women if they were denied insurance coverage.

Ohio Congress Members, do your research first before you make bills.

Republican John Becker who sponsors the bill seems to believe that the bill will not affect birth control, but it will. He states "'When you get into the contraception and abortifacients, that's clearly not my area of expertise but I suppose, if it were true that what we typically known as the pill would be classified as an abortifacient, then I would imagine the drug manufacturers would reformulate it so it's no longer an abortifacient and is strictly a contraceptive," Becker says'" (Birthcontrol.com, 2018).

A word of advice: if you do not know how birth control works, don't make a law that possibly prohibits its use. I would do my research before even thinking that a bill like that would even fly. The more you know about the field of interest, the more credible your bill will be. Along with this comes integrity as a member in office. We need to stop electing those who are uninformed.

Long story short, Congress Members, look out for your fellow women. Don't ban birth control, that's not cool. It's a violation of women's bodily autonomy and rights for health care.

How can we stop it? By being informed and voting!

Living in the United States gives us the privilege as citizens to be able to vote. Our founding fathers made this country a democracy for a reason: don't waste it. Your voice matters. Your opinion matters.

It's not possible to be in the dark about politics anymore because it's on our social media platforms, websites, television screens, and what we read. It's not okay to hide from it and pick and choose when to participate. Silence is acceptance; silence is tolerance. Wake up before it is too late. Do your research and do your duty. You can be part of the change to bettering politics.

Here are the links to the articles I took information from, feel free to check them out!

Article about Ohio Abortion Bill

Other Reasons To Use Birth Control

How Much Birth Control Costs Out-of-Pocket

Birth Control Methods

The Definition of Birth Control

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