As an average girl on a college campus, I am not a stranger to catcalling. I cannot count the number of times that I’ve heard some random guy yelling at a girl in passing, or that I’ve watched a guy follow a girl across campus trying to coax her into thinking he’s a nice catch despite the fact that he tried to pick her up with a pick up line that would make anyone in their right mind cringe. So, if you’re that guy, this is for you.
1. You’re not smooth.
I’m not sure what compels you to think it’s attractive to yell at me out of your car window, or relentlessly call after me as I’m walking across campus, but it’s the exact opposite. As someone who relies heavily on first impressions, your incessant annoyance is not getting you any brownie points. It’s not cute to shout obscene things at a girl that you think is attractive, and trust me, when you ask me where I’m headed for the night, it is most definitely not with you.
2. Do not call me baby…
Or sexy, or sweetheart, or anything. You don’t know me, and I’m willing to bet you’re not trying to get my attention for a good conversation. Not only is this creepy, it’s kind of degrading. Those names are only cute when they come from my boyfriend, whom I'm sure would love for you to cat call me again when he’s around.
3. Girls don’t find this attractive.
Whether you’re just brave because you’re drunk, or you’re arrogant enough to think that your stupid one-liner and a wink is enough to get you a girl, you’re wrong. We’re more likely to laugh about this with each other than even think about giving you the time of day. No, it didn’t hurt when I fell from heaven, but it might when I sock you in the face for not leaving me alone. Please rid yourself of the thought that every girl is out here to get swept off her feet, because you’re definitely no Prince Charming. Remember, girls talk, so you might think you can get off hitting on every girl around but pretty soon you’ll just be the creep that won’t get a hint.
4. Being rude when you’re shot down doesn’t help.
You can drop your “I’m a nice guy why don’t girls like me” act, because your true colors definitely show when I don’t just give in to you and suddenly I’m ugly and a slew of profane things. Learn to respect women and it may get you farther in life. Would you want someone to talk to your mom/sister/future girlfriend that way? I don’t think so.
5. Learn how to handle rejection.
Relevant to number four, don’t be butt-hurt when you get shot down. I’m sure that you’ll be hearing no a lot with the tactics you have, so get used to it.