Going to school at a conservatory can be both a time to embrace your passion for music as well as an eyeopening experience as to what you would like to do with your future.

People are always asking students, “Well, what are you actually going to do with that degree?” or “But what are you going to do for a real job?” There are a slew of responses that follow, but for some, this time in a musician’s life may make them realize that music is in fact not the path for them.

As with any college program, not all students you entered with will graduate with you, though at a conservatory program, the ratio can be drastic, especially for the number of students who attend the school. The programs are mentally, emotionally, and physically rigorous. Whether due to injury, monetary, or emotional reasons, some students do not make it through. If you have these doubts, which we all do, do not let people fool you, but rather know that you are not failing if you decide to take a different route.

A certain book resonated with me; it touched on topics regarding music, frustration, feelings of failure, lifestyle change, travel, and rediscovery of the self and environment. It’s called The Good Girl’s Guide to Getting Lost. The title threw me off a little bit, but I promise what is inside is real, relatable, and utterly genuine.

I attended the Manlius Pebble Hill School in Dewitt, NY, as did author Rachel Friedman. I found many similarities in my own musical path as Friedman, and the differences that separated us deeply resonated with me. When deciding to go to a conservatory program, I felt as if this book only solidified my decision. Personally, I knew it was what I wanted to do, but also the book gave me an extra burst of confidence. Why? Friedman provides her own personal accounts, while advising readers that there is always another option, and it is important to believe in what your heart tells you.

Maybe that is cheesy, and I know that she can prove it much better, but it's definitely the next book to put on your list. It is an appropriate length, not too long or short, and Friedman uses language that sets every aspect of the stage, careful as to not overly ornament her language. You feel as if you are directly speaking with her while accompanying her on the journey. Try it…I think it could change your outlook.

The book is available for sale at various locations, including Amazon.