A Blue Christmas

A Blue Christmas

To those grieving this holiday season.
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It’s the Holiday season, the most wonderful time of the year as they say—or perhaps for you it’s the most heart-wrenching time of the year, as it becomes a mirror to everything you’ve lost. Maybe you too have experienced deep, huge, devastating losses this year. Maybe it’s been a year full of sorrow, pain, grief and anguish. If that’s the case for you the Holiday season may only be causing the losses to weigh heavier and heavier on your heart.

The holly, jolly cheer and constant glee and joy that seems to perpetually surround us, can seem to amplify our lack of cheer, as our losses are simply magnified during a time of the year that is supposed to be all about family and loved ones, joy and excitement. You may feel as if you can’t muster up a single ounce of Holiday cheer, you may want to shut off the Christmas carols every time they come on the radio and if you’re honest you may simply want to just fast forward past this holiday season. Feeling as if you can no longer keep holding it together or plastering another fake smile on your face as you wish someone a “Merry Christmas”, while inwardly you struggle to hold back the tears.

The Holidays can be hard when you’re in the midst of grief and missing a loved one. But you know what? If you don’t feel your normal cheery self that’s okay. If you don’t want to join in all the festivities or can’t decorate your house like you usually do that’s okay too. Give yourself grace in this season. It may be hard this year, but it won’t be this hard forever, so during this extra hard time allow grace for your grieving.

But even if you’re not excited about the Holiday’s and don’t feel festive or have any Holiday joy to give, remember that you can still celebrate Christmas. How? Because the story of Christmas is what gives us hope in the midst of our sorrow and pain. Christmas is about God seeing all of the problems in the world including your grief and sorrow and creating a way to restore, redeem and ultimately end all suffering. God has promised to fix all our problems and he has done this by sending Jesus to be born as a baby in a manager to end all suffering, this is what Christ’s entrance into the world is all about. Christ came to offer us life, to defeat sin and redeem the world so that one day there will be no more tears.

He will swallow up death forever, and the Lord God will wipe away tears from all faces, and the reproach of his people he will take away from all the earth, for the Lord has spoken.

-Isaiah 25:8

‘… There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.’ He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’”

-Revelation 21:3-5

So this Holiday season as there may be an empty chair at the table, a missing stocking hanging in front of the fireplace, one less person in the family photos and a deep unrelenting ache in your heart, remember that there IS hope this Christmas because Jesus has come to end all suffering. So one day, there will be no more disease, no more tragedy, no more suffering no more death. That’s a reason for hope and celebration!

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

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Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.


7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Christmas Of Remembrance Series: My Last Letter

Christmas time is not about the gifts... It is about something far, far more special.

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Dear Reader,

Thank you for your time.

This is a series that I have dedicated to those I have loved and lost. It was merely a thought, then an idea, and now a realized creation. Christmas time… all winter really is a hard time for me. It holds this duality in my life of being both my favorite and also my least favorite and difficult time of year. It has been that way for years now.

In a way, this series aids my closure and healing further, and it allows me to tell my story in a way that, to me, is less scary (one of the many great facets of this platform). It was never my intention to write this in order to reach people, or encourage people, or serve as an inspiration to anyone. This was for me and only me. No one else. But, if these pieces of writing do impact someone, somewhere, or make them feel encouraged or inspired in some way or another, or just simply make them feel, then I hope you have enjoyed them. If I can make someone feel, then I guess I have done my job.

The life of an artist is often an uncertain one. The life of a human is a trying one. But life is a journey, and all journeys have their trials. Their tests. Their triumphs and rewards. And they all have their losses. What matters most is what you make of all of it. What lessons you learn. What changes you make. What life you create for yourself. What art you create because of it all. It can be very, very hard. But it can all be glorious at the same time.

At the heart of this series, my words, there is this deep and valuable belief of mine: Christmas (or the Winter Holiday that you may celebrate) is so much more about presents and cooking and shopping and all that other bullshit… it is about family.

The family that is related by blood. The family that surrounds your heart. Your Mom. Your brother. Your dearest friends. The bonds that make life valuable. Worth living. These bonds are soulful bonds, ones that are far more special than any mere trivial object. So… be with them. Forgive. Forget. Heal. Mend what is broken. Reassemble what has been shattered. And stop worrying so much. Laugh together. Cry together. Heal on another. Heal together. And may your new days be better, brighter, and full of love.

Happy Holidays.

Ty


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"Sense of Home" — Harrison Storm / YouTube

If you liked this series, I invite you to check out my previous article below…

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