A Blue Christmas

A Blue Christmas

To those grieving this holiday season.

It’s the Holiday season, the most wonderful time of the year as they say—or perhaps for you it’s the most heart-wrenching time of the year, as it becomes a mirror to everything you’ve lost. Maybe you too have experienced deep, huge, devastating losses this year. Maybe it’s been a year full of sorrow, pain, grief and anguish. If that’s the case for you the Holiday season may only be causing the losses to weigh heavier and heavier on your heart.

The holly, jolly cheer and constant glee and joy that seems to perpetually surround us, can seem to amplify our lack of cheer, as our losses are simply magnified during a time of the year that is supposed to be all about family and loved ones, joy and excitement. You may feel as if you can’t muster up a single ounce of Holiday cheer, you may want to shut off the Christmas carols every time they come on the radio and if you’re honest you may simply want to just fast forward past this holiday season. Feeling as if you can no longer keep holding it together or plastering another fake smile on your face as you wish someone a “Merry Christmas”, while inwardly you struggle to hold back the tears.

The Holidays can be hard when you’re in the midst of grief and missing a loved one. But you know what? If you don’t feel your normal cheery self that’s okay. If you don’t want to join in all the festivities or can’t decorate your house like you usually do that’s okay too. Give yourself grace in this season. It may be hard this year, but it won’t be this hard forever, so during this extra hard time allow grace for your grieving.

But even if you’re not excited about the Holiday’s and don’t feel festive or have any Holiday joy to give, remember that you can still celebrate Christmas. How? Because the story of Christmas is what gives us hope in the midst of our sorrow and pain. Christmas is about God seeing all of the problems in the world including your grief and sorrow and creating a way to restore, redeem and ultimately end all suffering. God has promised to fix all our problems and he has done this by sending Jesus to be born as a baby in a manager to end all suffering, this is what Christ’s entrance into the world is all about. Christ came to offer us life, to defeat sin and redeem the world so that one day there will be no more tears.

He will swallow up death forever, and the Lord God will wipe away tears from all faces, and the reproach of his people he will take away from all the earth, for the Lord has spoken.

-Isaiah 25:8

‘… There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.’ He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’”

-Revelation 21:3-5

So this Holiday season as there may be an empty chair at the table, a missing stocking hanging in front of the fireplace, one less person in the family photos and a deep unrelenting ache in your heart, remember that there IS hope this Christmas because Jesus has come to end all suffering. So one day, there will be no more disease, no more tragedy, no more suffering no more death. That’s a reason for hope and celebration!

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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I'm Keeping My Christmas Tree Up All Winter And There's Nothing You Can Do About It

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I think that my tree would not be considered Christmas-y if the ornaments are taken off and the lights are kept on. I think to just looks wintry. I am also keeping up decorations that say "let it snow", and I am keeping up any snowman without holly berries or presents in their hands.

The tree looks wintry in my opinion. It looks pretty with the lights and brings the room together. It gives off a warm ambiance, unlike that of fluorescent lighting.

I've taken all ornaments off except for gold snowflakes and I've left the silver tinsel garland on as well as the lights. It looks wintry to me still. I will probably be taking the whole tree down by the end of this month to prepare for Valentine's Day decorating. (Yes, I pretty much decorate my apartment for every holiday—sue me).

There's nothing like coming downstairs and seeing those lights sparkling.

Or coming inside from a dreary, rainy day outside and seeing them light up the room in a calm, warm, and comforting glow.

Or having a bad day, looking up, and seeing them shine.

It sort of makes me upset when I come downstairs and see that someone has unplugged them, to be honest.

I guess they don't see it as I do.

Pretty, twinkling lights forever!

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