Better Options for Us All in Greek Life

Better Options for Us All in Greek Life

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Every college student knows a Greek. It's your roomate, your suitemate, your best friend, your RA, maybe even your teacher. You see them in the student center, around the library. They're literally everywhere.

For black students on PWIs (Predominantly White Institutes) Greek life is an essential means to many of our white counterparts on campus. But not really us. Why is that?

Partially because we don't see our selves in these sororities and frats. You know what, I cant speak for every black person out there but I can speak for many of my friends if not all.

IF WE CAN'T JOIN A DIVINE 9, WE'LL SIT ON THE REST OF THEM.

Again, let me reiterate that this is a personal preference of me and my friends. When we tell others who are not black of our desicion they always say "Well can't you bring it to the campus?"

HELLO! Don't you think we tried?! We were told that there were more than enough sororities on campus and that we should join one of them. Two months later a multicultral sorority showed up.

I gritted my teeth and smiled at my classmates as they talked about how excited they were about joining. While on the inside I was fuming!

BACKSTORY: When I was in the 6th grade I did a lot of community service and hands on uplifting girls projects with memebers of a specfic Divine 9. (I'm going to keep the name confidential). I loved going to the meetings and on the trips and meeting new people.

I told myself that at this young age that when I went to college I would pledge this sorority and become a sister. My sister is also in the sorority and I figured it'd be something both of us could bond over.

Imagine my shock when I came to college and my dream sorority wasn't here. Neither were any of the Divine 9s. Where was everyone?!


Why wasn't anyone stepping? What is a mixer? Where are the frat houses? Why isn't anyone chanting?

It was a cultural shock to the highest degree of confusion, but I did not let it deter me from my dream. I along with some friends went to talk to a Greek life organizer where we were told that my dream was not going to happen.

Okay girl we get it. Ya sorority isn't on campus. Why are you writing this article?


BECAUSE DIVINE 9s NEED TO BE ON ALL PWIs.

Everyone is always talking about how we all need to be inclusive and accepting of others. Sorry to break it to you folks but that's not going to happen over night. Black kids don't fit into white sororities because they weren't made with us in mind. THAT'S WHY WE HAVE OUR OWN!

Now I'm not saying it's nothing wrong with the white sororities but those sisters can't be my sistahs! You get what I'm laying down.

We need a sisterhood. Not a museum. If I need help with haircare or skincare I know that they would have the best advice becasue we share the same culture.

Divine 9s are needed on PWIs because when walk out of our dorms and walk out of our classes we don't have sisters and brothers who can relate to us. Though many black students do join the white sororities if they had better options they may not have to.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!
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After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...


This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...



What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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8 Confessions Of An Ex-Sorority Girl

It's not all singing and small talk...

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When I began my first semester at East Carolina University, I looked for every opportunity I could to make friends, as this would be my new home for the next year. I knew all about different clubs and organizations, but Greek like never stood out to me. I was convinced by some of my friends to give rushing a try, and this is what I've gathered from a week of rushing, and three months of being in a sorority before I dropped it.

DISCLAIMER: This is not an article intended to bash my former sorority, this is an article to inform girls of things I failed to realize before joining a sorority and to give them an idea of what sorority life is like to see if it's for them.

1. Rush week is just as stressful as everyone makes it out to be.

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Think about it: seven days, hours of making small talk trying to impress every girl you encounter, all while trying to walk like a normal human being in your 5 inch heels.

2. Rush week is not for the thin-skinned.

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Going into rush week, I had no idea that sororities could drop me in the blink of an eye. Remember that if your favorite sorority drops you on one of the nights, it is not the end of the world, and another sorority will want you and all your amazing personality traits.

3. Being in a sorority is a much bigger commitment than TV makes it out to be.

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While sororities do hold fun events throughout the school year such as socials and grab-a-dates, there are many obligations that girls fail to realize before joining a sorority. Philanthropy events, weekly chapter meetings, etc.

4. It can leave a huge financial dent in your wallet.

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While you do get insight before actually joining the sorority on how much it will cost, many girls, including myself, looked past that during rush week. Once the dues come in, they add up quickly, and can really leave a mark in your bank account.

5. These girls will be your new friend circle, and you might forget about some of your old ones you made before rush week.

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During my time being a sorority girl, I did feel an obligation to make a lot of friends in my sorority. While I was wrapped up in spending so much time making my new friend group, I failed to realize I was leaving some of my non-sorority friends behind. While I do encourage you to make as many friends as possible in your sorority, remember to keep in touch with your old ones. Maybe invite your non-sorority friends to one of your socials!

6. You have a new reputation to maintain.

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You and your sorority don't want to be known as, "the (insert sorority name here) that threw up everywhere at the party." When you join a sorority, there is a positive image you have to maintain in order to hold a good name for the sorority, and the girls in it.

7.There is a GPA requirement for every sorority.

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Some people do tend to stereotype sorority girls as dumb, but in every sorority there is a GPA requirement to remain in good standing. If you do not meet these, there will be consequences.

8. If sorority life isn't for you, there are other ways to make a lifelong group of friends.

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While many people revert to Greek life as their one and only option of meeting girls on campus, there are so many other clubs and organizations every school has to offer that will get you just as close with people. While some girls love Greek life, sorority life is not for everyone, and nobody should feel like it is.

Wrapping up, I did not hate my sorority at all. I had other reasons for dropping my sorority that had nothing to do with them, but one big one was that it was just not for me. I am still in close touch with some of the girls in my sorority, and I do not blame my sorority for my feelings towards it.

Greek life truly is an acquired taste. Some people will love it for life, and for others, it's just another club on campus.

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