Okay, I'm going to start this off by saying this is nothing against relationships. As a matter of fact, having a relationship in college can also be pretty dope, but my intention with this is to give you reasons why you don't NEED one. You should never feel like you need to be in a relationship in order to be happy, and at this age it is important to explore yourself!
A lot of people I come across in college always complain about being single, and why they really want a relationship. Myself included in this, but why do we do this? A lot of people that I know tend to feel this way. I feel like college is a huge learning process, and learning self love is something that comes with being on your own.
I feel like there are many things that you learn about your own likes and dislikes in all aspects of dating when you are single. You get to experience different people and different things, while still being able to do what you want and focus on yourself. It is nice to be able to explore your own interests in hobbies in college, and just meet as many people as you want. It is really relieving when you don't have the stress of a relationship to do this, and find yourself.
There are so many red flags that I have learned from guys I have had things/relationships with while being at college, and I was able to pick up on these things and walk away before i was roped into something too serious. Being able to have bad experiences with people you date also sucks a lot, but at least you learn what to stay away from, and how you DO NOT want to be treated. These four years are not worth wasting your time on relationships that hinder your growth, and damage your mental health.
Being in a relationship also takes a ton of work. That work is something that not a lot of college kids are willing to do. I have noticed from my experiences, that guys are VERY immature at this age. It's like they never know what they want because they aren't sure if they really want to settle down in college. Which is fine, but dealing with this indecisiveness can cause a lot of stress and insecurity for the people they involve themselves with, especially if they aren't communicating very well. You deserve somebody who is sure about you, and will do whatever they can to be committed to you. All of the excuses at the end of the day shouldn't matter if it means losing out on you.
I just think it is a lot healthier to have the mindset of always just focusing on yourself, and not focusing on looking for a relationship. I always hear the phrase that "good things come when you least expect them". If you go searching for a relationship, you are more likely to settle for whatever you can get just so you get a relationship, and that isn't healthy nor good for your own mental growth.
It sucks to feel alone, but it sucks even more to be in a relationship where you aren't being treated the way you want and deserve to be treated.
