My Existence Is Your 'Political Discussion,' So Yes, Politics ARE Personal

My Existence Is Your 'Political Discussion,' So Yes, Politics ARE Personal

The personal is political.


For many Millennials and those belonging Generation Z, their coming of age story aligns all too well with the blooming of the Trump era. During a time of entering adulthood, learning independence, and finding ourselves, we have also been thrown in the fire of a rapidly changing nation. Now, more than ever, our nation is explicitly divided.

Perhaps this division is not a bad thing. Perhaps Trump's flames have shed light on beliefs and actions that had lurked in the shadows for too long. Regardless, this abrupt change caused and continues to cause an abundance of inner turmoil for millions living in the US.

For me, my self-realization has been coupled with being labeled "too political."

As a young adult, I have watched the ways in which the political climate has affected my relationships with others. For many, it has caused strain amongst romantic relationships, familial relationships, professional relationships, and friendships. Those like myself have been told to stop bringing up politics, to stop playing the "race card," or that "it really isn't that deep."

Well, it really is that deep.

I do not choose to "make everything political." For me, my existence and the existence of my loved ones is a political statement. When each day is filled with racist, sexist, homophobic, ignorant comments, the personal quickly becomes political. When my scars are being minimalized and my story is suddenly the punchline of jokes by those in power, I hurt deeply.

It seems that each day there is a new hate crime, a new act of terrorism (terrorism done by those of our own nation). And so I live my life in fear. When I walk to my car at night I often a fear flows through my veins stemming from more than being a woman. When an older white man walks a little to close to me on the street my heart races. In those moments I see my face in the headlines, my name among the others killed because they simply existed. But those images only stay for a moment because in reality those names also dissolve within seconds upon arrival of the latest story.

I cannot expect those who live very different lives than me to understand what I am feeling. They will never know the discomfort of fear becoming normalized. I cannot be bitter for that because just as I didn't choose the realm in which I exist, neither did they. But I do refuse to accept the label of too political. It is absurd that discussing matters that directly impact my life, aspects of my being, are off limits.

But from my seat, I am not discussing politics. I do not equate my determination of seeing humanity to a political agenda. The really sad thing is that my persistence to value all life makes others uncomfortable. To those made uncomfortable, just think how uncomfortable I feel knowing my existence is a controversial issue.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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