Again and again, I see girls fighting over who’s actually better. Is it the hipster girl who wears her hair in a braid, reads in quiet coffee shops, and goes for walks in the woods? Or is it the party girl who has a lot of sex, goes out every night, and wears excruciatingly intricate makeup? Or, maybe it’s the girl who makes sure all her homework is done before going to sleep, who wears the bare minimum of makeup so she still looks ‘natural’, and doesn’t kiss and tell?

News flash: It’s none of them.

All I ever here is “I’d rather a date be going to sit under the stars and talk for hours, rather than going out to a club and drinking”, “Oh, I don’t need to alcohol to have fun”, “At least when it rains my eyebrows don’t wash off”, etc. etc., so on and so forth. But honestly? None of these make you either a good or a bad person. Just because a girl fills in her eyebrows and goes to parties doesn’t mean she’s better or worse than anyone else. Just because a girl reads a lot and would rather have a small, sober get together with friends doesn’t mean she’s any better or worse.

This superiority that some girls have over another is damaging. In media, women are demonized because of how they like to live their lives. The young woman who looks up to them, who try to emulate them, are demonized by their peers as well. If a girl wants to go for a night out on the town, let her. If a girl wants to stay in and relax by herself, let her.

People are always going to be different. But just because you don’t agree with someone else lifestyle, doesn’t mean you get to act superior and look down on them. If you don’t want people judging you and telling you how to live your life, don’t go around doing that exact same thing to others.