Being A Passive Person Can Destroy You On The Inside

Being A Passive Person Can Destroy You On The Inside

You have a voice, speak your mind.


Too often I am meeting people left and right who express that they don't feel like they speak their mind in fear of others' feelings. However, they don't realize how much it affects them inside when they are constantly holding all of their thoughts or feelings inside.

Well, guess what, I used to be one of those people.

I found myself staying quiet often. I found myself going with the flow. I found myself accepting anything anyone did to me. I found myself forgiving easily in fear of others getting angry (even if they were in the wrong). I found myself allowing the world around me to rule my life.

I wasn't speaking my mind. I wasn't sharing my thoughts or feelings. I wasn't choosing which restaurant I really wanted to go to. I wasn't sticking to the morals I wanted to. All of these things became apparent. I wasn't using my voice. I wasn't expressing what I wanted, I was focused on pleasing everyone else around me.

If you do not find your voice, you will live a very unhappy life. You will wake up at 50 and wonder why you allowed the world to take over your voice. Every individual in this world has their own voice, and that is the beauty of being a human being in America.

Why have a voice if you don't want to use it?

Next time you are with your friends, speak your mind. Offer advice to a friend or even share a personal story. Give feedback for a restaurant your friend wanted to try and be honest, even if their opinion differs. If you aren't comfortable with something, speak up!

When you think about it, we are faced with choices and decisions each and every day. If you spend 24/7 listening to others and never speaking out, you will eventually destroy yourself.

Keeping emotions, thoughts, or feelings inside is not helping you or others. It is detracting the "real" you that is inside. When people are too passive, they begin to live their lives through others. They do not face their problems head-on. They do not face their challenges each day. They do not face their voice inside their head. And honestly, they don't gain anything out of it.

Now that I have a voice, my life has changed for the better.

I stand up for who I am. I am not afraid to speak my mind. I am not afraid to give my opinion. I am not afraid of telling someone what they have done wrong. I am not afraid to use my voice. And I feel that this is one of the most important things in life.

Speak up. You have a voice for a reason.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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