You don't have identify with the LGBTQ+ community to be an ally. You can be as straight as a washboard and still show support for the community. The only prerequisite is that you're a compassionate human being that believes in equality. That being said, you don't need to do something drastic or extreme to become an advocate. You can do simple things while creating a big impact.
1. Listen to our problems and concerns.
I don't mean just hear our problems; actually listen and try to understand where we are coming from. It's easy to ignore an issue when it is assumed that the issue requires a simple fix. Take marriage equality for example. Just let same-sex marriages happen. Easy, right? No. We had to wait until 2015 for same-sex marriage to be legal nationwide. Keeping up to date with current issues and voicing opinions will help the LGBTQ+ community be heard during rallies, protests, and elections.
2. Take some time to learn about the diversity of identity and sexuality.
We are all unique individuals, and we all express ourselves in different ways. The LGBTQ+ community isn't just a group of people with random letters thrown together to create an edgy name for the group. Sometimes the idea that there are identities and sexualities can be confusing or overwhelming, but a true advocate does not defend certain groups while ignoring the rest. Taking the time to understand the community and the diversity within it makes you a stronger ally.
3. Stand up against the hate.
Some bullies are direct and unashamed to be hostile face to face, while some are indirect and like to make fun of others behind their back. Either way, standing up to the intolerance shows bullies that certain words and actions are not okay. Don't be afraid to shut down statements and jokes that are disrespectful to the LGBTQ+ community. Hate arises from ignorance. Setting the record straight and fighting back with the truth is more effective than ignoring the issue. In fact, showing that you do not approve of certain statements and actions can be effective in changing people's attitudes.
4. Get involved with your local LGBTQ+ groups.
Being open about your support towards the LGBTQ+ community means more than you think. It's more than being a part of an event; it's about your willingness to show you support the community in public. Showing solidarity through involvement sends a strong message to the local community while supporting the LGBTQ+ community at the same time.
5. Be there for the LGBTQ+ people in your life.
If you want to be an ally, it's likely because a family member or friend identifies with the community. (If not, kudos to you for being a kind, loving person.) It would be strange to advocate for the entire community but shut out members of the community in your personal circles. Lend an ear to someone having a bad day. Comfort someone that is suffering. Celebrate their successes with them. Treat them as you would anyone else.
6. Prepare yourself.
Being an ally means exposing yourself to potential hate despite not personally identifying with the group. The sad truth is that assumptions are made about people based on who they associate with. Staying strong and unwavering in your support helps change things one day at a time.
