The past is the past, but it's also our past. Things happen in our past to make us who we are, which is why I always say it's so important to embrace where we come from and our past choices because they were or are lessons for our future. Our past sets us up for the next move in our life, the next decision and how we choose to make that decision. What can be hard is explaining these decisions and stories to someone who hasn't always known us and our intentions.
When you're getting to know someone who hasn't always been in your life one of the most important things to be is honest. Be honest about everything because with honesty comes true feelings. You won't be holding anything back or hiding anything because it made you who you are today that brought you to this place. Truthfulness is key in any relationship. With this, we are able to whole heartedly express ourselves and our goals to someone who really matters to us. Don't try to hide anything, I mean in all reality if you're to the point where you're sharing details of your past with them they're already interested in you and you shouldn't be worried about honesty.
If you have parts that are harder to share, it's okay. Everyone has something they aren't totally proud of from their past but it brought them to where they are today. It brought you to one another and the rest just worked. At one time all of these things were what you wanted or thought you wanted, as cliché as it sounds, it's still true. There's no denying the truth in that.
There are points when you may think ignorance is bliss but that only lasts for so long. To get to know someone you have to know the little things about them and accept those things. I'm not saying dig up every little thing from their past, no, but with time together and deeper conversations things pop up. That's just how it happens the more you get to know someone and the closer you become.
Avoidance doesn't build a relationship, it builds walls. You can only avoid certain conversations for so long because you're constantly growing closer. Building walls against someone you love will hurt a relationship. With honesty comes a blooming relationship. Love the people that are worth it all to you, be honest with them about yourself because you want them to do the same to you. Find people who you're willing to be your whole self with and when you do, appreciate it for all it is and all they are. Everything makes sense when you're brought to the people who are meant to make your life full of life.
