Everybody makes assumptions about each person that passes through their lives. On a day-to-day basis, how often do you pass somebody in Wal-Mart and make a mental note on their appearance? How they are dressed, what color their hair is, how old they might be. Maybe you even compliment them on the things you like about how they look. It’s just natural to make assumptions based on physical observations. Yet we usually don’t ponder about people's current moods. We don’t go up to people and say things such as the following:
“I really like your happiness.”
“Your depression is really nice!”
“Where’d you get your anger from?”
These statements sound absolutely ridiculous to think about saying to a person in any real-life interaction. But think about it: We compliment complete strangers on certain aspects of their appearance, yet we seldom tend to point out people’s attitudes.
Moods, attitudes and dispositions are critical traits in individuals. We want to acquaint others that exhibit positive aspects of common personality traits. Happiness, gaiety, joy, lightheartedness; the list could go on.
We tend to push people away if they display certain negative traits that hinder our own positive traits. Sadness, depression, anger, resentment, jealousy; again, there is a multitude of negative traits people can propose as parts of themselves.
Observing selectively the positive characteristics of an individual leaves one to see just the sugar-coated personality of that person, and seeing only negative character traits of somebody results in the ability to only be dismissive of their opposing personalities. But, in order to fully appreciate an individual, you must allow for every aspect of themselves to be observed by your assumptions. Each person on Earth deserves to be fully appreciated for who they are and what creates them.
Assuming is the framework of social interaction.
Acceptance is the algorithm to manifesting associations.
