Believe it or not, I really love science. I love it because I love being able to just understand how things work and why they are the way they are. I am the same way with people. I like asking questions and putting pieces of information together so I can figure people out as best as I can. Now, this little habit of mine sometimes makes me come off as a bit nosey (which I can be, but with good intentions – I promise).

The reason why I am that way, though, is not to be “all up in your business.” I just can’t stand having all my relationships be superficial. I like people I can have every day conversations with, but I also like people I can have deep, intimate, vulnerable conversations with.

But it’s not just about some deep cosmic connection. Sometimes it’s just about the basics. I think sometimes we get so caught up in drama and stress and having a good time that we don’t really get to know people anymore.

So I start asking questions. I love asking people simple things, like: what’s your favorite color? It seems simple but I think it can be very revealing. Plus, it’s just a nice detail to know and to remember – a little bit of your friendship that can keep coming up in gifts, and cards, and conversations.

I think that there is something special about even silly questions like this because when someone remembers a tiny little detail about you – it feels nice. It’s nice to know we have someone who listens and remembers even the tiniest details of our lives.

Not everyone likes this approach. Some people feel like it’s silly or like you’re prying – especially when the questions get deeper. I think we’ve been so conditioned to having people flake on us or betray our trust that anyone asking questions makes us nervous.

Yet, not everyone is here to betray you. Yes, some people only act like they care because they want to spread drama, but sometimes people just have a genuine interest. It may be hard to tell who is who and sadly it’s a trial and error thing, but it can really be worth it.

I love the people who have answers to all my questions. People who can tell me what color they like, what they hope to get out of life, or what their favorite word is. I think I’ve developed deeper relationships with people who have taken the time to indulge my annoying little habit and have answered my questions.

I swear, I don’t mean to invade your privacy and space – I just want to get to know you. I want to sort you out, to understand you – to piece you together. So let me ask you questions and you feel free to ask some to me. Start with this, ask me what’s my favorite color.