Politics During Thanksgiving

Around The Kitchen Table

Dealing with those in-laws and extended family that are not even a little bit politically correct.

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Thanksgiving is one of those few times a year in which all of your family finds itself sitting around the table. For the day to day you are used to eating with your immediate family, and maybe even your grandparents, but not those family members that you probably see only three times a year. Yes they are family, and yes you love them tons, but you know that when it comes to anything slightly political, blood suddenly isn't as thick as water.

For some, the solution for these political disagreements is to avoid talking about politics at all simply. Most families ban them, stating that they do not want to fight on one of the few days a year when everyone is together, and I agree with that sentiment. Thanksgiving for me is one of my favorite holidays, and I know that the worst thing would be if it got ruined with a petty fight over politics or controversial topics.

But, I do not think that completely avoiding politics is something that really does any good for anyone and I believe that there are ways to be able to discuss something without it becoming a full-blown fight. Being able to discuss with someone who has an opposing view is an opportunity to understand better why they believe in what they believe, and Thanksgiving works as a place that brings people together.

My biggest advice for people who are going to be facing people with opposing political views is to simply stop and listen to what they have to say and to go into it with the mentality that you aren't going to be able to change their mind. Knowing that the point of the conversation isn't to convince the other person of your beliefs will allow emotions to be dampened so that you can actually listen to the other person.

The only caveat to this is that if a person says something that is racist or homophobic or just blatantly wrong, call them out on it. Yes they might be family, and yes they might be older than you, but that does not make it ok to say things that are offensive. These are points in which you cannot allow someone to talk like that, even if they have "always been like that."

So for any of you who are brave enough to engage these topics this year at Thanksgiving here are my three biggest takeaways:

1) Do not try to go into the conversation to change their opinion

2) Listen to the other person and their ideas

3) Call them out if they are offensive

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Deadlines Are Not Important

The Deadlines Of Life Do Not Mean As Much As You Think

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Deadlines are not important; the deadlines for work, school, and things related to that, those are important. Life's deadlines are not important. Society tells us that we must be married, have the perfect job, and have children by a certain age. A lot of the times we end up believing that if we do not do certain things by a certain time, we have failed or we are not doing as good as everyone else. The truth is, society's and life's deadlines are crap. There is no specific time to be married by, no specific time to have your perfect job by, and no specific time to have children by. These things should not be accomplished until you are ready and capable to accomplish them; this means that if you are not 50 until you have your perfect job, you are not 30 until you are married and you are not 40 until you have children, that is okay. There is nothing wrong with waiting, experiencing life, growing in who you are, and doing what you need to do first. A lot of people do not have their perfect job until later in life because if we are all honest here, that is one of the hardest things to figure out and hardest decisions to make. People stress so much because they have not met these certain deadlines of life that they have been told their entire lives they need to meet by a certain time. So often, the important things like a job, a marriage, and children are rushed and people end up miserable. There is no sense in rushing if you are not ready for it yet. When it comes to finding the perfect job for you, look around, find your interests, and figure out what you can spend years of your life doing; take your time and be patient. When it comes to marriage and having children, do not rush it, it is one of the worst things to rush; do it in the time frame you want to and make sure it is what you want. Take a deep breathe and stop freaking out; you have plenty of time. Instead of going by society's and life's deadlines, go by your own and base that off of your capabilities and your wants.

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You Know You're From Trumbull, CT When...

The best memories are made in this boring, little, Connecticut town.

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1. The majority of places you will consider to eat at are in Fairfield or Westport... Colony, Shake Shack, Country Cow, Playa Bowls, BarTaco

2. But if you find yourself too lazy to get on 95 for food, Panchero's is the go-to... never Chipotle. If it is past midnight, the choice always comes down to the McDonalds in Monroe, where you are almost guaranteed to see a group of people you know, or Merritt Canteen.

3. Once you got your license, your Friday night plans consisted of picking up friends, driving up and down Main Street, and, somehow, always finding yourself at the THS parking lot seeing who's car is there because there is nothing better to do.

4. In the Fall, you couldn't wait for Friday so that after school you and half of your grade could walk to Plasko's Farm for ice cream and apple cider donuts... and hope you could get them before the owners would yell at you to leave. (This one only applies to Hillcrest Middle School kids, AKA the inferior middle school in town).

5. You couldn't wait to be a senior so you could officially lead the BLACK HOLE at football games... if you were even willing to go in the cold.

6. You looked forward to the annual Senior Scav, the last week of summer before your senior year where a list of tasks is passed down by the recently graduated class... the official kickoff to senior year.

7. You pass by Country Club Rd. and get flashbacks from the worst Cross Country practices ever. Driving up Daniels Farm Rd. in the Fall and Spring, you are conditioned to yell "hi" out the window to your friends at practice.

8. You knew someone who worked at Gene's gas station... and found yourself spending more time there on the weekends than you would like to admit.

9. You are convinced Melon-heads are real after frequenting Velvet St. to see the abandoned insane asylum with your friends, IF you didn't want to drive all the way up to Fairfield Hills in Newtown.

10. You have had/have been to at least one middle school birthday party at the Trumbull Marriott.

11. You know that the 25mph speed limit on Whitney Ave. is way too slow... and can't help but hit a little air going down the huge hill at the top.

12. The guy at Towne likely knows your name.

13. You never find yourself turning right out of THS... that side of town is irrelevant for those who do not live there.

14. You know to avoid the Merrit Parkway from 4:00-7:00pm at all costs.

15. You know more than you would like to about people you aren't even friends with... in a town so small, things get around very quick.

16. Going shopping really means going to Target, or any store in the mall, for the millionth time that week.

17. The marching band was the best in the state and you would see them practicing, literally, every time you drove by THS.

19. Depending on the side of town you lived, you spent a lot of time at Five Pennies Park or Indian Ledge Park.

20. You would say you couldn't wait to leave, but when you got to college, you find yourself excited to come back to your hometown so you can reminisce on old traditions and make new memories.

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