Are You More Of A Talker Or Listener?

Are You More Of A Talker Or Listener?

My stance can help you decide whether you're a talker or listener in any conversation!

It has been a crazy week for me here at Texas Tech University. I've had two exams this week and had to do lots of reading along with studying! I woke up this morning with the inspiration to talk about/evaluate on whether I am a talker or listener in a conversation. Maybe this will help you come to a conclusion with what you fall more under in a conversation!

Ever since I can remember, I've always personally been a listener in almost every conversation UNLESS someone is consistently asking me questions. I have always been the person that everyone likes to vent to. If you are the same way, do you ever wonder why you've always been the one everyone likes to talk to so much? Maybe it is because we are good listeners when it comes to body language or even because we are easy to approach. I always tend to maintain eye contact, nod my head, and show deep interest in every conversation just because I love communicating. No wonder I'm communications major!

You're probably wondering, "How about you Delaney? Do you vent? Who do you rant to?" Great question. The only two people I can handle myself ranting to are my loving parents. I personally hate ranting on and on to my friends or other family members because I feel like it can be stressful for them to take in so much information all at once. My parents do not count in this case. They know everything about me already so it is only my duty to vent to them even more. I don't think they mind, well, I hope they don't mind.

The whole process of one exchanging thoughts and feelings with one another is so amazing to me. I am a social bug so I thrive off of conversations, even if I only get a few words in! During a conversation, I open myself up to listen to what the other person has to say first and foremost. You never know how desperate the other person is to tell someone else something they might've been holding in all day.

Putting others before myself has always been one of my biggest flaws. I use it to my advantage though because being a listener to someone else can mean so much to the other person. I could sit and listen to a friend talk for hours and the least I can do is give them my support and advice by being a steady listener.

Let's talk about YOU now. Would you classify yourself more as a listener or a talker? Do you approach another person first with the summary of your day or do you wait for your friend to call you about their hectic life? Is it hard for you to tell someone your problems or about your day or is it a stress reliever for you? Everyone is different and there is not anything right or wrong about these positions in a conversation.

I hope this weeks article got you thinking about your stance in a conversation. It is essential to be aware of these kinds of things and if you are uncomfortable about what side of the spectrum you're on, change it! If you're a talker, try to take a breather, and listen to someone else talk about whatever they want! If you're a listener, try to open up. Ask the other person in the conversation if you can share a story with them and then go from there. You can do it! I'll try to do the same.

Have a great week everybody!

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10 Things You'll Recognize If You Grew Up In A Small Town

Those stop signs were more like suggestions.

Whether you're from the Northwest or Southeast, all small towns share basically the same characteristics.

From hanging out at car washes to eating endless meals at that Mexican restaurant, if you're from a small town, you'll probably relate to one (if not all) of these things:

1. Yes, that Mexican restaurant.

Whether you came here to eat after ball games or simply came because there was nothing better to do, you probably spent way to much money on burritos and cheese dip. (For real though, cheese dip was so worth that extra $3).

2. Churches. Churches everywhere.

There seemed to be more churches than people, and everywhere you went one of them was staring you in the face. At least you knew that the whole town was covered on seats when it came to Sunday services.

3. Yep, you hung out at the car wash.

For some odd reason, teenagers like to hang out at the car wash. We don't know why we did, we just did. No car every got cleaned. We just sat on our hoods or tailgates and talked or listened the music. What a wild night.

4. Quick stops.

Gas stations were called quick stops and thank God for those quick stops. You could fill up your tank and get a snack without having to drive 30 minutes to the nearest city. Plus their boiled peanuts were always the bomb. #blessed

5. "Stop" signs.

Those stop signs were more like suggestions. No cop, no stop, right? Same thing with speed limits - merely suggestions.

6. The football field.

Fall Friday nights were made for football games, and there was no getting out of it. Do any of you small town girls really remember going on a Friday night date? Yeah, me neither. Football games were the closest you were going to get to a date on Fridays. You either waited for Saturday or the end of the season. Honestly though, those Friday nights hold some of you and your friends' favorite memories.

7. The good ole grocery store.

Sorry bud, Walmart, Costo, and Kroger were 30 minutes away, and driving to the city was not about to happen. You either went to Shop and Save or Piggly Wiggly for your groceries.

8. "The park."

You either played as a kid, coached a peewee team, refereed as a teenager, or simply watched your siblings play here. No matter the case, you've been to the park, and you're lying if you say you haven't.

9. Those white welcome signs.

Literal *cringe* just looking at it. Passing this sign after coming home from the city meant you were once again stuck in this little town with nothing to do, but you honestly kind of love having nothing to do sometimes.

10. This view.

Sure, there's not a whole lot going on in your small town, but with views like this you can't complain. #NatureIsCool #SoAreSmallTowns

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12 Ways To Save Money During The Summer When All You Want Is To Spend It

Saving is important year round, but it's most important in the summer


Over the summer, everyone normally has more free time than during the year, and that means more time to spend more money. Saving money over the summer is important, not only so you can be prepared to pay for things in the future, but also so you can enjoy your summer and no be stressed about how much money you've spent. Saving money is something that should happen year round, but it's especially important to do in the summer.

1. Create a budget

Starting the summer off on the right foot is super important to stay on track throughout the rest of the summer. A budget is something that you should have year round, but it's important to adjust it for your summer plans.

2. And stick to it

Not only do you have to make a budget, but you have to stick to it. If you don't follow your budget, you're wasting time and money, and it's hard to keep on top of finances.

3. Take advantage of student discounts

During the summer, college students find themselves with a lot more free time than in the school year. When you're planning what to do with your extra time, make sure to look if the place offers student discounts or not. Why pay full price when you don't have to?

4. Don't always go out to eat

College students tend to spend time with their friends going out for food or for drinks, and that adds up fast. If you have friends over to cook dinner, it can be healthier and cheaper to do.

5. Sublet

If you have an apartment you're not going to be staying in, or need to stay in Columbus, it's beneficial both ways to sublet. Neither way do you have to pay full price on an apartment, and any discount, no matter how small, saves you money

6. Take day trips

Obviously, no one wants to stay in one place the whole summer, but travel is super expensive. By going on day trips you get to see more of the state or city, but you don't have to pay for lodging overnight. It's a good way to get out without eating into your budget.

7. Walk around

Columbus has great parks and trails that not enough people think about using when they're planning what they want to do. If you walk around outside, you can spend as much time you want there and you don't have to pay anything.

8. Split costs with friend

Do both of you need a Hulu and a Netflix account? Why not share the costs and the passwords with each other, so that you both can save some extra cash in the future. This doesn't just have to be with streaming services, but it can apply to food and parking costs as well.

9. Don't impulsively buy big items

Maybe you've worked a ton recently to start saving for summer, or you have graduation money flowing in. You feel like it doesn't matter how much you spend, but it does. If you hold off on those purchases, and you save your money, you'll be in a better spot financially at the end of the summer.

10. Get a job

The obvious one. If you're doing an unpaid internship or your normal job isn't offering you many hours, then getting a second job where you can work to have a little more money can help you achieve your savings goal.

11. Don't be too hard on yourself

The hardest part of setting goals is when you don't achieve them. Even if you haven't saved exactly as much as you wanted, making even a small change can help your financial wellbeing and can be enough to make small changes in the future.

12. Don't force yourself to make big changes

Everyone's saving tips to Millennials are to stop getting coffee every single day from places like Starbucks. While cutting down on spending in these ways will greatly help you save money, it's not the only thing that will help. There's no reason to make yourself miserable in order to follow the rules of someone else for a small change financially.

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