Introvert: I need time alone.
Asshole: Only my time matters.
Introvert: I promised to go out but am suddenly feeling overwhelmed. I explain this to my closest friend involved in plans. I try to go out and push myself when I can but I take care of myself when I need to.
Asshole: I cancel plans with a text and a lame excuse.
Introvert: My feelings are rough today. I ask for help when engaging with others (this includes asking not to engage with others). Even if I cannot pinpoint what is wrong, I let others know I need time.
Asshole: I sit and stew and refuse to answer why I’m (upset, stoic, reticent, etc.)
Introvert: I have hurt a friend by my actions. I explain my point of view, listen to theirs, and try to reach an understanding.
Asshole: Only my feelings matter because (social anxiety, I’m an introvert…etc). I do not listen to others needs because I am the one who has it rough.
Introvert: I was having fun at this (party, event, gathering) but am suddenly overwhelmed. I let a friend know and leave.
Asshole: I slip out as unnoticed as possible and refuse to answer texts when asked where I went.
Introvert: I sometimes need an extra (although gentle) push to go outside my comfort zone.
Asshole: You drag me kicking or screaming otherwise you don’t want me there.
If you are an introvert, there are people out there who will be good to you, they will take their time to make sure you are okay, they will be gentle with your feelings. They will not always get it right but they will try. Everyone has feelings. Everyone needs to feel loved and heard, including extroverts. If an extrovert is your friend, that does not mean it is only up to them to carry the weight of a friendship/relationship. A disregard for other's feelings because you feel that since you are an introvert, have social anxiety, etc. it somehow makes you entitled to be the only one taken care of…that makes you an asshole.
