Earlier this year I went on an adventure to a coffee shop of course and talked about a new tradition. Well, I quickly said that I would have "Me Dates" on Saturday. Honestly, I haven't stuck by that since that day (mostly because I forgot). My motives for that day were good, but I got into this certain vibe sometimes. It is my Ms. Independent/A Strong Independent Woman That Don't Need No Man vibe.

The last time I went there I became pretty bitter and it wasn't a good place. It was after a terrible relationship that still leaves a bad taste in my mouth. (I promise I am not that bitter anymore... I think). I started a blog about that, and man, oh man was it not a good place! It is probably a good thing that those posts are somewhere lost in the depths of the internet somewhere to never be found. (Hopefully).

Looking back, it had a lot to do with the fact that I hated being single and I rushed into a relationship to get rid of it. And because of the rush, I was single again pretty quickly. I have been single since and I have to say that I have learned a lot about life during this time. It has taken a while to get to where I am. Making friendships in the most unexpected ways and going on the most unexpected adventures. This has to do with the fact that I am single and I have the freedom to do as I please. Due to that I can actually say I am not single and bitter.

And why should I be? I mean yes, I go to a school where people get married a lot, and relationships are expected. And yes, my church family and real family ask whether I am single or not every once in a while. However, I am not even 20 and relationships are not exactly on the top of my list. I would rather travel all over, watch hours of Netflix, and treat myself to EVERYTHING I want.

Singleness isn't actually a terrible thing. It is actually a time that you get to know who you are. I mean we have not been alive for that long and a good majority of it has been our parents and otherwise people telling us what is right and wrong. Now is really the first time that we are able to truly make decisions on our own and find out why we believe the way that we do. I am in no way saying that being in a relationship hinders that because you do learn a ton (and I mean a toooooon) about yourself while in a relationship. However, why would you try and throw yourself into one quickly without much thought when there is so much more to learn about yourself.

I guess what I am trying to say in a real wordy way is that right now we need to find ourselves. We need to go on a journey and figure out or dreams and goals. We need to actually do things to attain those dreams and then be ready to succeed and fail. At times you are going to need to "Treat Yo Self" and other times you will need to work so hard that you will be begging for a break. Right now while some of us our single we need to take advantage of that and take the world by storm and do all that we want to do. Even if that is buying cashmere on cashmere on cashmere. (Is it obvious I binged watched Parks and Rec?)