An Open Letter To The Girl That Does "Too Much"

An Open Letter To The Girl That Does "Too Much"

Always find time for the things that make you feel alive.

“I can do that.” “ I volunteer.” “I’d love to do that.” Chances are, if you are reading this, you’ve said these things before. Life gives us a lot of different opportunities to do things and get involved with. Some of us in life find our niche and stick to it, while others find our niche and still continue to explore and then some of us just constantly try new things.

None of these are any better options than others; they’re all equal. It just depends on what you choose to do. Some of us choose to do a lot in the activities we do. This is an open letter to those of us that choose to take on a handful of responsibilities.

If you do a lot of things for the community and clubs you’re in, I’m sure you’ve heard people say, “you do too much." Truth is your commitment is very helpful. Here are some things to think about if you’re one of the girls that “does too much.”

Don't let people tell you that you do too much.

You do all the things you want to do! This is your life and no one else has to live it. Chances are, you do all these things because they all make you happy. Continue to let them make you happy. If someone says “ you do too much” Just tell them “I enjoy everything I do!”

It’s okay to do everything.

Know that it’s okay to do each and everything you do! You are impacting peoples' lives in ways you could never have imagined. Doing a lot means you care about a lot of things. Doing so many things also teaches you what you do and don’t want to do with your life, and what you truly enjoy over what you truly don’t.

Being involved teaches responsibility.

Doing a lot of things teaches responsibility in ways other things can’t. It teaches you responsibility because you hold a commitment to each and everything you said you would do. If you don’t do the things you said you would, you let people down. This isn't like a class where you can skip an assignment and it only hurts you. If you skip a commitment in a club, you are hurting other people. Working on a lot of things in a club also teaches responsibility because you have to complete everything in a timely manner, you can not wait until the last second to complete your commitments.

It teaches planning.

Doing a lot of things teaches you how to plan. It teaches you not only how to plan the events you are working on, but your time. It teaches you how to plan your time because when you have a lot of things to do you have to schedule your time to make all the things fit. Being active in multiple things is an amazing way to teach yourself time management. Along with teaching you how to plan time, it teaches you how to plan events. Chances are somewhere along the line, you will need to be planning things. Real life situations are the best way to learn how to plan things. These planning events experiences help you learn what does and doesn’t work for you!

People will respect you.

You are doing so many amazing things! People will respect you for all the wonderful things you are doing. Chances are people were too scared themselves to do the things you’re doing. They will respect you for all the time, effort, and planning you put into the event. You are amazing people every day! Keep doing all the things you’re doing!

It may be stressful, but in the end, you’ll look back and love it.

Being involved in a lot is no walk in the park by any means. You do constantly have so much to do and it can be stressful at times, and you want to scream and pull your hair out! BUT, after all the stress has come and gone, you will smile and laugh about all the crazy things you did trying to figure everything out. These memories of the things you accomplished and the things you planned will be your fondest. These memories will be the ones you tell your future kids and grandkids.

Doing a lot keeps you busy, but it also teaches you a lot of lessons that you will look back and love. Being this "busy body" is just the perfect life for some people. Personally, I live this busy, crazy life. I love every moment of it. Sometimes I am so busy I don't even have time to think, but every day I amaze myself with what else I can do. I make myself proud.

The busy life isn't for everyone, but some people just like to live it. It's their life choice and they are learning amazing life experiences that change them forever. So next time you go to pick on someone for doing what is "too much," think about it... maybe that's exactly how they want to live their life.

If it makes you happy, no one else's opinion should matter!

Cover Image Credit: Kendall Gatewood

Popular Right Now

The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

SEE ALSO: Finding A Husband In College

Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
Cover Image Credit: Sara Donnelli Photography

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

If Shonda Can Do A Year Of Yes, Then So Can I



A few years ago, Shonda Rimes decided to do a year of saying yes, after her sister told her she says "No" to everything. It ended up changing her life.

So, I've decided to embark on my own year of yes.

Sure, it may be easy to say yes to everything when you're a millionaire with a bunch of record-setting televisions shows, but the rest of us can do it too.

Say yes to treating yourself.

Say yes to taking care of yourself.

Say yes to saying no, don't stretch yourself too thin.

Say yes to new opportunities

The year of yes is about taking better care of yourself.

My year of yes starts right now.

Related Content

Facebook Comments