An Open Letter To The Girl That Does "Too Much"

An Open Letter To The Girl That Does "Too Much"

Always find time for the things that make you feel alive.

“I can do that.” “ I volunteer.” “I’d love to do that.” Chances are, if you are reading this, you’ve said these things before. Life gives us a lot of different opportunities to do things and get involved with. Some of us in life find our niche and stick to it, while others find our niche and still continue to explore and then some of us just constantly try new things.

None of these are any better options than others; they’re all equal. It just depends on what you choose to do. Some of us choose to do a lot in the activities we do. This is an open letter to those of us that choose to take on a handful of responsibilities.

If you do a lot of things for the community and clubs you’re in, I’m sure you’ve heard people say, “you do too much." Truth is your commitment is very helpful. Here are some things to think about if you’re one of the girls that “does too much.”

Don't let people tell you that you do too much.

You do all the things you want to do! This is your life and no one else has to live it. Chances are, you do all these things because they all make you happy. Continue to let them make you happy. If someone says “ you do too much” Just tell them “I enjoy everything I do!”

It’s okay to do everything.

Know that it’s okay to do each and everything you do! You are impacting peoples' lives in ways you could never have imagined. Doing a lot means you care about a lot of things. Doing so many things also teaches you what you do and don’t want to do with your life, and what you truly enjoy over what you truly don’t.

Being involved teaches responsibility.

Doing a lot of things teaches responsibility in ways other things can’t. It teaches you responsibility because you hold a commitment to each and everything you said you would do. If you don’t do the things you said you would, you let people down. This isn't like a class where you can skip an assignment and it only hurts you. If you skip a commitment in a club, you are hurting other people. Working on a lot of things in a club also teaches responsibility because you have to complete everything in a timely manner, you can not wait until the last second to complete your commitments.

It teaches planning.

Doing a lot of things teaches you how to plan. It teaches you not only how to plan the events you are working on, but your time. It teaches you how to plan your time because when you have a lot of things to do you have to schedule your time to make all the things fit. Being active in multiple things is an amazing way to teach yourself time management. Along with teaching you how to plan time, it teaches you how to plan events. Chances are somewhere along the line, you will need to be planning things. Real life situations are the best way to learn how to plan things. These planning events experiences help you learn what does and doesn’t work for you!

People will respect you.

You are doing so many amazing things! People will respect you for all the wonderful things you are doing. Chances are people were too scared themselves to do the things you’re doing. They will respect you for all the time, effort, and planning you put into the event. You are amazing people every day! Keep doing all the things you’re doing!

It may be stressful, but in the end, you’ll look back and love it.

Being involved in a lot is no walk in the park by any means. You do constantly have so much to do and it can be stressful at times, and you want to scream and pull your hair out! BUT, after all the stress has come and gone, you will smile and laugh about all the crazy things you did trying to figure everything out. These memories of the things you accomplished and the things you planned will be your fondest. These memories will be the ones you tell your future kids and grandkids.

Doing a lot keeps you busy, but it also teaches you a lot of lessons that you will look back and love. Being this "busy body" is just the perfect life for some people. Personally, I live this busy, crazy life. I love every moment of it. Sometimes I am so busy I don't even have time to think, but every day I amaze myself with what else I can do. I make myself proud.

The busy life isn't for everyone, but some people just like to live it. It's their life choice and they are learning amazing life experiences that change them forever. So next time you go to pick on someone for doing what is "too much," think about it... maybe that's exactly how they want to live their life.

If it makes you happy, no one else's opinion should matter!

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You May Have Worn The Prom Dress With Him, But I Get To Wear The Wedding Dress

You had him in high school, but I get him for the rest of my life.

High school seems like the best time of your life when you are in it. You think that all of your friends will be with you until the end, and that you will end up with whoever you are dating your senior year. For very few, that might just be the case. For all others, that is far from true.

You thought that you would marry your boyfriend and you thought that everything would work out how you had always imagined. I don't blame you though. He's great. You wanted everything with him, but you were just not right for him.

I wish I could say that I am sorry it didn't work out for you, but I can't. I can't because he is mine now, and I get to cherish him forever. You didn't do that right, and you were not meant to be together. You will find someone too, but I am happy that you were not the one for him.

Sometimes I have issues with jealousy, and I hate that you got all of the high school stuff with him. You got to go to games and support him. It kills me that I couldn't be there for him because I know I would have actually been there wholeheartedly. I would have done it out of love, not as a popularity appearance.

I hate that you got to go to all of the school dances with him. He got to see you all dressed up and probably told you how great you looked. I'm sure you did look great. Prom dresses were always fun to pick out and so colorful. It was exciting to match colors with your date. I am sure you had fun choosing his matching tux to your dress.

I find myself getting jealous, but then I stop. I am getting to match his tux with our wedding colors. I got to go dress shopping in a sea of white, and he doesn't get to know one detail about that dress yet. He will get to see me walk down the aisle and then every day forever. I get to love him forever.

I try to not get jealous of all of the things you got with him because it is all in the past. You had your time, and now I get the wedding. You got to dress up in high school, but I get to dress up for my wedding with him. He may have put a corsage on your wrist, but he will be putting the wedding ring on my finger.

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I Expected It To Have It All Together By 22 And I'm Still Far From That

What we expected and what reality actually is, are two completely different things...


Oh our 20s, how we expected them to be so different. We expected to graduate college at 22, have a career by 23, be engaged by 24, married with a house by 25, kids by 26-28, vacationing with the family by 30, and retired by 60. We expected college to be parties and cute boys/girls. Instead, we got late nights of studying and crying after a job that barely pays for our car, food, dorm, and textbooks. We get no social life and if we do our grades suffer for it.

Our 20s were expected to be all fun but all we got were struggles and stress. I mean I don't know about you but I expected, to have it all together and I'm nearly 23 and far from it. I had all the scholarships and great grades, and I still don't have any type of degree.

Reality hits after 18. Most of us don't have the help of mom and dad anymore. We have to find our way and make a path for ourselves. Sometimes our dreams and goals have to be put on hold for that. The 20s isn't fun. It's about discovering who you are, who you want to be, and where you want to go. Some of us serve our country, some become incarcerated, some of us parents, some teachers, others cops, others travel or study abroad, some dead, some ill, other managers, others homeless, some still living home, and some even addicts.

The weird thing about your 20s is everyone is doing something different, but yet everyone is confused and comparing themselves to others. People feel if they're not doing what others are doing, in their age group then they have failed themselves. What people forget is that with life comes obstacles and sacrifice and everyone's life and situations are different. You are where you need to be right now, for you, and I think that's something to remember in your 20s.

Another thing about your 20's is you're free to think for yourself now. No more having to follow a religion you dislike or hold back from things you love. The world is literally yours to discover and learn from. Possibilities are endless! I think your 20's are the years you create yourself to the best version of you and build the foundation for your future. Just remember, we all build at our own pace.


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