Sorry That You Are Offended, But I Won't Apologize For My Tattoos

Sorry That You Are Offended, But I Won't Apologize For My Tattoos

"Tattoos are not meaningless. There is a story behind every tattoo."
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You've already made an assumption about me before I can even speak. You assume that since I have inked on my arm that I must be a; convicted felon, loser, trash, groupie or even worse. You don't even know me but since I have decided to put my heart on my sleeve, I must be the underbelly of society.

I see you watching me at the grocery store, spending time with my Mom, and even as I work. Do I intrigue you that much that you have to practically break your neck to get a glance at me as you pass? And as you turn your head for the second time, you roll your eyes in such a way that I know I have offended you. I have offended you. My body offended you. The artwork that I chose to represent myself offended you. Now say that to yourself out loud.

How ignorant it must sound.

Like I said, you don't know me. You don't know where I've been, who I've been, or why I am. There are people in this world that have this natural tendency to progress, to experiment, to break down the walls of conformity built by society.

Tattoos are not meaningless. There is a story behind every tattoo. Even if it was spur of the moment, Spring Break tattoo, there is a story behind it.

I don't expect you to understand. I mean, you have such a closed mind why would you understand? But since we are both here, I might as well attempt to talk to a brick wall. We've all lost a game, a battle, our person, losing is in human nature. When we fail and heal, we find ways to commemorate. How can you look at me with distaste as I display my feelings to the world? You can't tell me I am "trashy" because I have overcame something I want to remember.

Tattoos are for life. We know this. We made the choice to get them. We don't need negative people reminding, "you know they last forever."

How blessed I am to be able to carry something that reminds me of my Grandma everywhere I go. To wear something, no matter what. I will always have something that reminds me of her spirit.


You pity me because I have ink in my skin.
I pity you because your heart is filled with ignorance, malice, negativity. Yet, my skin is filled with beauty.

So what does it matter to you? How is my tattoo hurting you? How is it affecting your job, your life, or anyone else? It's on me, not you. Yet, you blast me behind closed doors and give me false labels. You look at me with pity, shame, and disgust. But when I look in the mirror; all I see is beauty, confidence, and creativity. Our views are distorted, they will never be the same. You judge me, you reject me, but most of all you don't understand me.

Cover Image Credit: Trent Scroggins

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I Blame My Dad For My High Expectations

Dad, it's all your fault.
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I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

When it comes to other people, my dad has a heart of gold. He will do anything for anyone, even his worst enemy. He will smile at strangers and compliment people he barely knows. He will strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it means going way out of his way, and he will always put himself last.

My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

Cover Image Credit: Logan Photography

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What To Expect For Your First Brazilian Wax

Be informed and do it right the first time!

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It's going to hurt like hell, you're going to swear to yourself you're never going to go through with it again, and that you've betrayed your razor. Just like the pain, these feelings will subside.

Before The Appointment.

First things first girl, you must let your hair grow out very long. Ideally, it should be longer than a grain of rice. Absolutely do not shave two to three weeks before since the wax will have a harder time gripping onto short hair, likely leaving it behind. When I hear Brazilian, I think bare. Hairs left behind defies the whole point of a Brazilian, so please just wait.

Next, you should exfoliate the area a day or two before your appointment. Exfoliation will remove the dead skin around the follicle, making hair removal a tad easier.

Right Before.

Now, it's the day of your long-awaited Brazilian appointment. Shower, which is self-explanatory and a nice gesture for your dignity and much appreciated from your esthetician, though do not exfoliate. That will irritate the area before the waxing even begins. It will help to take an anti-inflammatory like ibuprofen. Yes, it will still hurt, but it will help.

During The Wax.

During the session, relax. Your esthetician should guide you in deep breaths and knows techniques to minimize the pain.

Personally, I love going to the salon because it's like a free therapy session. You can vent and talk about anything and they'll likely listen and give you their opinion, or silently judge. They're already seeing every bit of you, so nothing seems off the table, but proceed with caution and just be yourself.

When the wax is over, they will apply a cooling crème, gel, oil, or other product to soothe the stressed skin.

After Care.

After the appointment, it's crucial to be aware that everyone's skin heals at different rates. It's also likely you will develop little white bumps from waxing. To inhibit ingrown hairs from forming, I've found that applying Thayer's witch hazel, or another witch-hazel toner without alcohol helps the healing process immensely. Then, top it with a hydrocortisone cream. It helps with redness and swelling. If you don't have witch hazel, that's perfectly fine. Just proceed with hydrocortisone cream and an ice pack if needed.

I'm aware that these after-care instructions make a Brazilian sound like a terrible self-inflicted experience, but I can assure you'll be going back for more. After the bumps subside, you will love the smooth skin, the ability to hit the pool without the worry of "Did I shave?" In a way, I'd compare the experience to giving birth, but way less painful. Yes, it hurts, but women are strong. They become pros at childbirth, and soon, you'll become a pro at Brazilians.

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