There is a stigma when it comes to a step-parent. Most of us have this image of a person who is a “step-monster.” That’s always what I thought –– until you showed up.

I'm not going to lie, the first year I wanted you gone.

I wanted mom all to myself. I hated the idea that you would start stealing her attention, taking her time, and joining our little family. I didn’t want things to change because things were already so different. I didn’t need my life thrown upside down again. But it did, and I am so glad it did.

You started showing up to every single one of my games, no matter how cringe-worthy they were in middle school. You went to every single event I had, even though I pushed you away every time. You never gave up on me, and I’m so blessed you didn’t.

You taught me how to parallel park the night before my driver’s test, you hugged me through my first heartbreak, and you were there the day I walked across the stage to receive my diploma. You and mom were the first there when I was in the car accident, there when my bowling team went to states, and always there when I needed you most.

You may not have been there for my first breaths, steps, or words, but you were there for the other important firsts. The ones that we will carry together for life. You were around for my lasts too. My last softball game, my last day of high school, and my last day living at home full time. There will be many more of each, and I am so happy to have both you and mom experience them with me.

I realize now you never wanted to steal anyone’s attention away, you actually wanted to win all of our love, and it’s just what you did. From our inside jokes, the heart to hearts, and your fatherly advice, it became exactly what we needed. You were exactly what we needed.

When I prayed for another blessing to be added to my life, I was given you to be my father and I am always going to be grateful for that.

I know I don’t say it enough, but I love you. You stepped up and raised two sassy, strong-willed teenagers. No one asked you to, but you wanted to do it. You have impacted so many lives and continue to change ours. I am blessed to call you my father when others ask and thankful to have someone in my life that just wants what’s best for me and the family.

So, thank you. For everything you have done and continue to do.

My life is forever better with you in it.

Love,

Your Daughter