An Open Letter To My Big

An Open Letter To My Big

My mentor, my big, my best friend.

Dear Biggie,

If you asked me a year ago where I would be today, I most likely would have laughed in your face. And that's because I always was the type who never thought that they would join a sorority, but joining Tri Delta has turned out to be one of the best decisions I could have made. It has taught me so much about myself, and has really been such a humbling experience seeing how much we give back to the children of St. Jude. And with all of this, came a great perk of getting a big. Someone who not only spoils me and tells everyone I'm the best little ever, but someone who I have to look up to and to show me what it means to be a Tri Delta.

Besides having you as my mentor, I have been lucky enough to have found a best friend in you. I didn't even really know you until the night of big/little reveal, and that is when I discovered that we are more alike than I could have imagined. Besides both of us being blonde haired, country loving, Reese cup obsessed people, we have similarities down to the core. And because of our bond and friendship that we had right from the beginning, I'm going to be an emotional train wreck when you graduate and leave me in a couple months.

I'm so extremely proud of everything you have accomplished and everything you continue to accomplish, and I absolutely cannot wait to see where this crazy life takes you. But before all of that, I just have to say thank you. Thank you for picking up the phone at all hours of the day and night, to listen to my exciting stories I have that I have to share with you right away, to when I'm crying and need you to be my ear to listen. Thank you for always buying me food, and not resisting when I hug you fifty times in a row. Thank you for always taking pictures with me, and being patient enough so that we can both take one on our good side. Thank you for always letting me crash in your bed or on your couch, and sharing your roommates with me. Thank you for always being down to eat nachos and drink maragaritas. Thank you for motivating me to be a better person, and never letting me get down on myself. And thank you for building me back up when I do get down on myself. Thanks for always wearing cowboy boots with me, and not caring what anyone else thinks when we do. Thanks for being my secret keeper, and supporting every choice I make whether it's good or bad. Thank you for understanding that I don't want to share you, and for being protective over me and always looking out for me. Thank you for reminding me that my happiness comes first. Thank you for being there for me through the hardest of times and the best of times; celebrating with me, crying with me, and laughing with me. Thank you for being my best friend, and for the forever friendship that we have found in one another.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs.

In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm...

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Writing Saved My Sanity

Write it all down when you can't talk to anyone.


I love writing.

I have since elementary school, and I've dreamed of becoming a published author. I started off writing stupid plays in elementary school, then it grew it almost writing a full-blown novel in middle school. I have no idea where that thing went to. It was all notebook paper and bad writing. In high school, my writing was kinda pushed to the side so I could focus on school. When I entered college, I started writing small poems about my now ex-boyfriend.

I was scared to express myself to him sometimes, the intensity of my feelings for him scared me. So instead of telling him, I wrote them down. When I tried to share them with him, he hated it. He thought writing down feelings was weird and creepy. So I didn't share anything else with him. When we finally broke up for good, everything just poured out of me. What I couldn't express verbally, I wrote or typed out.

I always have ideas flowing through my head. They never cease and I wouldn't want them to. Writing gives me an escape, from stress, work, school, or fights. It gives me a place to vent and to be open with everything. This is a reason I love writing for Odyssey, not only has this place brought me amazing friends but revived my love for writing. I'm never without my notebook anymore, I'd get distracted in class by an idea and have to write I think then and there.

I love sharing my more personal writing with close friends, especially my poems as of late. I found that I have a voice for young women who find themselves in a toxic relationship much like mine was. I want to speak out and show them that you can grow from the bullshit. It may take some time, but you will be better.

Writing saved my sanity. It allows me to express myself without having to use my actual voice. Anyone who knows me, knows I hate public speaking. I tend to psych myself out leading up to it. My current projects include writing for Odyssey every week, I'm in the process of trying to continue my short stories, and I'm excited to announce that I'm currently working on my very first poetry book!

Writing has given me so much, and I'm so looking forward to making a career out of something I love so much.

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