As Hard As It Is Sometimes, The Real You Is All You Need To Be
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As Hard As It Is Sometimes, The Real You Is All You Need To Be

I was so afraid they would judge me, that I hid who I really was.

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Ever let what other people think or say define how you think and what you like? Ever like a particular thing but when others express that they hate it, you suddenly have the need to hide that you like it and pretend you don't like it too?

You feel you must be "normal" (whatever that is) to fit in and have people like you. Like you need to hide who you truly are in order to not be rejected. This is how I have often lived and quite frankly, sometimes still do.

I have always been afraid to express the things that interest me for so long, that when people would ask me how I would describe myself, or what were my hobbies, I was unable to answer. I was so afraid they would judge me, that I hid who I really was.

I came across a quote that really sums up what we really should do instead of feeding this fear. It says, "If someone is willing to judge me, then I don't really care what they think" (Jensen Ackles). So how do we reach this point? How do we reach the point where we no longer worry or carry about others judging us?

It takes doing it. It takes action. It takes the firm decision to stop caring about what others are thinking of you. Because, once you stop worrying about what others think about you, you are free to live your life.

You are free to live your authentic life that only you can live. Maybe one day we can "live in a world, where the word 'normal' is an insult" (Misha Collins). One day, maybe everyone could learn to just be their authentic selves, and the word normal, will seize to exist.

You can be inspired to be "like" others but remember that the version of yourself where you act like you, is the best one. Those people who inspire me, I can mimic their actions, in that they are the ones who are true to themselves.

They are being their authentic selves. That is what makes them inspire us. That is what attracts us. It is their confidence in who they are and their ability to not give a care to how others are judging them. Take that first step and remember that you are not alone.

"Don't pressure yourself. Don't worry about what others think you should do or what the societal "norm" is. Do what moves you and makes you smile and the "good" will follow" (Misha Collins). Remember and truly think about that person that you want to be. Remember that you are not the only one who feels insecure.

Those people who you are afraid are judging you, I guarantee you they are wondering the same thing about you. They are worrying about what you think of them too. Suddenly we're all a mess.

Just remember that "we're all humans doing our best. No one's better than anybody else. We're all just here, we all have struggles and our strengths" (Jared Padalecki). Remember who you are, because who you are is enough. Who you are is beautiful without all the toys and whistles. Just simply you is enough.

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