Not having had like any experiencing in the dating game, I really didn't know what to expect.
There are always going to be those traits that you find attractive in someone else, so that's what you cling to while you are single. The clothes, the smile, their hair color, the color of their eye, who they hang out with, etc...
So that is how I went about picking out guys that I thought would be good for more. I mean, sure, being attracted to someone is kinda important but it's not everything. But how was poor, little inexperienced, me supposed to know that I was playing the ball game all wrong?
And now that I am on the other side and looking back at things, I did have it all wrong. Those superficial things seem to fade away, to the point where they do not exist anymore. And what is more attractive now is the other person's personality, their character, and how they treat other people.
It's kind of insane, to be honest. I have been so tired of hearing from other people that "that person" would come along and sweep you off your feet. I was so over that saying, but the thing is: it's true. Once things are in motion, it's a done deal. I think prolonged single people are just tired of hearing about the happiness that other people find in relationships.
They will take your breath away and make you forget what you were going to say. It's pretty magical, to be honest. You can finally tell yourself that the wait was so worth it. Because let's get real, you tell yourself that while you are single but the words don't really sink in.
Your person is your person because of who they are, not because of all of the superficial things. That whole saying about "don't judge a book by its cover" has a new, deeper meaning to you.
Your person is kind of amazing.