A concept I have recently come to realize is that you can show people what you have to offer, but you can’t make them appreciate what you’re showing them. Too often people find themselves strung out on constantly chasing after things and people who aren’t biting their hook. I think it’s about time that we realize our worth and we only give our attention to those things that are appreciating all we have to offer.
Worth and appreciation are significant in many aspects of life. It’s important to find friends and romantic interests who appreciate everything about you, because relationships shouldn’t be a ‘pick and choose’ situation. While you’re not going to click with every single person, the people you do have in your life should know you appreciate them, and vice versa. It’s not fair to you if you’re showing someone that you’re trustworthy and dependable, but they don’t follow through on plans or keep your secrets in return. In reality, we need to stop trying to force any type of relationships that are not meant to be. Furthermore, it’s easy to focus on a romantic interest and try to pursue them with all you have, getting to know them and showing them all you have to offer. Maybe you guys have many common interests and conversation comes very naturally. You’re ready for commitment and have shown your dedication to this one person, but they aren’t showing it back in return. Rather than tiring yourself out with constantly pursuing something that isn’t meant to be, it is important to learn to take your pride and move along elsewhere.
The people who appreciate you for who you are will make it well known. They will make it apparent that you are wanted in their lives. They will treat you with the respect and love that you are oh-so-deserving of.
The idea of appreciating those who appreciate you isn’t only significant in relationships, but also in personal advancements. Every student in high school and college knows the stress that comes with applying for scholarships and jobs. Sometimes we think we have found something that is the absolute perfect fit for us. There is no way that we wouldn’t get the scholarship, or there’s no way we wouldn’t be 100% qualified for this job. However, not everything works out in the ways we have planned. Sometimes you may be overlooked for someone else or you may not be as qualified as you think in the eyes of someone else. Getting down on ourselves is the easy and natural response to situations like this, however we need to remember that we still have so many things to offer.
The ability of other people to recognize what we have to offer does not change our self-worth. If someone cannot recognize the traits and characteristics that you possess that would be beneficial to them in any way, shape, or form, it’s not your fault. You still have the same amazing qualities that are worthy of appreciation, and there is always something or someone better out there who will be willing to always show appreciation for what you have to offer. Keep that in mind the next time things don’t pan out for you; find someone or something or recognizes and values everything you bring to the table.
