I've come to realize that relationships aren't quite for everyone, and maybe not even for me. Some people are just really bad at being in them. Those who choose to try out a relationship with this type of person are most likely incredibly brave and patient for taking on such a task. If you find that more often than not your relationships don't work out, these signs of being bad a relationships might help you to locate the source of the problem.
1. You're awkward in date situations or towards your significant other in general.
Hanging out with your significant other is often or always some level of awkward because you just don't know how you should act. However, not to be confused with being an awkward person in general. Or maybe it's a combination of both in your situation. So that's for you to decide.
2. You're not nice or sweet towards them either.
You thought that he/she knew that you were joking when you were being mean, and maybe they do. But when you find that most or all of what you say to them is not nice or sweet, then there might be a problem.
3. Or affectionate...
This cat might just be your spirit animal. Constantly holding hands when hanging out together or kissing is not your thing, like at all. Especially in public. Yeah, that's definitely not happening. Either this goes back to you being awkward, or you just really don't like being affectionate, which leads me to my next point.
4. You don't like to be touched.
You physically cringe when someone unwelcome enters your personal space. Let's be honest, you're probably not going to invite them in, either. Being touched in any fashion makes you highly uncomfortable. You like your personal space. However, this could make your relationship more than complicated.
5. You don't know how to take a compliment.
Do you just say, "thank you," or do you give them a compliment back? Or do you find yourself laughing at the compliment? Yeah, that's usually the route I take.
6. Or how to give a compliment, for that matter...
First of all, you don't know how often you're supposed to give a compliment. Is it like one a day or one a week? Or is this more on an in-the-moment basis? Surely one compliment a year is enough... right?
7. You already have a dad who spoils you.
This is ultimately my issue. My dad has undoubtably set the bar so high that there is very little chance that any other man would even begin to measure up. It's actually kind of sad how large the gap is. So who needs some other guy, who's probably not going to measure up anyway, when you have your dad who has spoiled you your entire life and still continues to?
8. You can barely make a decision for yourself, much less two people.
You can barely decide which outfit you're going to wear after going through your entire closet, let alone what to do in big, life-changing decisions. You let others make decisions for you most of the time, or at least let them strongly guide your decision making process. So when your significant other asks you what you want for dinner, you tell them that you don't care because honestly, making that decision for the both of you is too much pressure. God help you when you have to make bigger decisions in your relationship down the line.
Lord knows all of these apply to me, and I'll be the first to tell you that relationships just aren't my thing. Hopefully this will help to identify your or your significant other's problem, if you even have one. Maybe you don't! That's great news! In that case, you can appreciate even more how great your person is. Or if this does apply to you and your relationship, maybe you can appreciate how hard you work to make it work.
