7 Responses To The "Is that Your Real Hair?" Question

7 Responses To The "Is that Your Real Hair?" Question

If you've been asked, here's what to say...

I'm about to get real with you. Like extremely real. Because a woman's hair is a very personal part of herself whether she grew it or not. I don't like having to explain my hair to people just because it's different, but I have had to explain my hair at every stage of my life so far. So this article is for the girl who wears a weave and is tired of being asked "Is that yours?

1. Yes, it's mine... I paid for it.

Before you tell me that doesn't count, do the clothes you are wearing not belong to you? What about your car or your cell phone. You call those things yours because you bought them. If it's on my head, it belongs to me so back off. So what I didn't grow it, it's still mine!

2. No, you CAN'T Touch It.

I don't care how pretty it is. Ask for permission first and it is not given. Guess what... don't touch it. Maybe it needs to be redone. Maybe it's a wig and if you are too heavy-handed it will end up in your hands. Or maybe just maybe I don't want your hands all up in what belongs to me. Back off!

3. You don't need to refer to it as "Her/Your/That" Weave

I am fully aware that it is not my actual hair. It baffles your mind because you grew all the pretty hair out of your pretty head and you don't understand why I have to buy it. You for some reason feel like you have to remind me constantly that it is not mine. Guess what... I'm Aware. Calling it a weave is not the "proper" way to name it. It's hair! Call it hair. I wouldn't go up to a woman with implants and say your silicone or even your implants look great today. They are now a part of her and should be addressed as such. Same goes for my hair.


If I want to have a bob one day and long wavy hair the next I can do that because of the wonderful thing that is a wig. They are versatile and allow me to have several looks without damaging my hair. I again don't need to be reminded it is a wig or asked if it's a wig because honestly, that's none of your business. You know my hair didn't change over night. I know my hair didn't change over night. Let's take this knowledge and not ask me if I'm wearing a wig.

5. I don't need to explain anything about my hair to you.

Listen baby, You don't know my hair story. You don't know what I've gone through. You might not understand African-American hair (not that African-American's are the only ones who wear weaves cause that's not true at all. Know the facts!) and honestly, I'm not trying to educate everyone. Especially since most of you don't care. You are just asking me all these questions about my hair without the maturity to handle what I have to say and therefore you end up making me become vulnerable for no reason. If you really want to know so that you don't offend anyone in the future, I'll be as open as possible but if you're just asking to ask, REFRAIN.

6. I don't want your sob stories about how long your hair is.

This is honestly just me being bitter. The bitterness is out of love, but still bitter. But to be fair, you complaining about how long your hair is to me is kind of like a rich person complaining to a poor person about how much money they have and how great their life is. Know your audience is all I'm saying.


If I want to wear box braids guess what I will. If I want to wear a weave or wig... I will. If I want faux locks (which I have now) I will. I will do what I want with my hair because a) I'm paying for it, b) it's going on my head and c) I shouldn't have to explain further. You can give me suggestions but ultimately if I ignore you I reserve that right. I don't tell you how to style your hair because I don't know how much money you have to spend on it, or the proper way to take care of your particular hair, also you're not me so why does what I say matter? It doesn't you said? You would be correct.

I hope you all read this in a humorous tone and not an angry one because I'm not mad, I'm just tired of having to explain something that has nothing to do with the people who ask. I love you all and hope that this article helped someone. If you get bombarded with questions, direct them to this article. If you ask too many questions, read this and then ask yourself why you are so curious. If it's genuine I'd be happy to answer questions. If not... then just stop.

Love, Peace, and Hair Grease!
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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyphs means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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10 Of The Best Bath & Body Works Scents Your Nose Will Thank You For

Although favorite scents are often subjective to one's taste, there are still those fragrances that most people can't seem to get enough of.


Working at Bath and Body Works helped me learn a lot about their many different fragrance selections. When things are slow, you literally can just go around and smell everything. My first few days of work, I left with a headache from smelling too many candles and lotions.

Not only did I learn what my favorite scents are, but which ones were popular with everyone else and why. Some make perfect home fragrances while others are perfect as an everyday scent to wear to work or school. After much contemplation and some experience in the industry, these are the fragrances I feel deserve to be named the Top Ten of Bath and Body Works.

10. Vanilla Bean Noel

Vanilla Bean Noel proves to be popular every time it hits the shelves around Christmas time. It is basically a holiday/glorified version of warm vanilla sugar and definitely has a more unique and stronger scent (at least for one that is mainly vanilla).

9. Twilight Woods

Twilight woods is one of the most popular body care scents sold by Bath and Body Works. It is one of Bath and Body Works warmer scents that makes you just want to grab and blanket and cuddle up by a warm fire.

8. Japanese Cherry Blossom

Japanese Cherry Blossom is the oldest body care scent to remain in their signature collection. While other fragrances tend to retire eventually, this one always remains true for us to continually enjoy. There is just something luxurious about this scent that we can't get enough of.

7. Watermelon Lemonade

Watermelon lemonade is the perfect summertime scent, while it has retired as a body care scent, you can still get it in the home care fragrances like candles, room sprays, and hand soaps. Although if you shop their semi-annual sale, you can almost always find the retired body care items brought back out for sale for a limited time.

6. Black Cherry Merlot

Black cherry merlot is strictly a home care fragrance, but it is basically jolly ranchers put into a fragrance and who wouldn't want that?

5. Champagne Toast

Champagne toast is usually only brought out during the semi-annual sale, but since it has proven its popularity, Bath and Body Works has started to incorporate it back into their everyday products such as candles and wallflowers. If you for some reason don't personally like the scent, its packaging and popularity make for a great gift.

4. Sweater Weather

Sweater weather is both strictly a home care scent and a fall scent; it is anticipated year-round by those who are fall scent fanatics. When you smell this in someone's house, you know that fall is right around the corner.

3. Winter Candy Apple

Winter Candy Apple is the icon of Bath and Body Works Christmas fragrances. Once they finally hit the shelves, people stock up on them. And for those who can't afford to pay full price, they just wait for the after Christmas semi-annual sale to get them half off and stock up for the rest of the year.

2. A Thousand Wishes

A thousand wishes has proven to be so popular that it has actually won awards. When I worked at Bath and Body Works, there was about double the amount of a thousand wishes on the shelves compared to the rest of the signature scents, and believe me, there had to be.

1. The Original Forever Red

If there is a scent that Bath and Body Works fans have lost their minds over, it's forever red. When I worked there back in 2017, they decided to retire the scent and sell the last remaining stock during their summer semi-annual sale, and every bit of it got wiped clean. Just recently, they decided to "relaunch" forever red. Basically, the packaging is not as luxurious, but more importantly, people are not pleased with the scent, saying that it is nothing like to original and very faint. So RIP to one of the best scents ever created by bath and body works; you will 'forever' be remembered.

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