No, marriage (even at a young age) does not mean the fun parts of your life are over; it just means you have someone to enjoy them with. It also means you’ll have someone there for the not-fun parts of life as well, and aside from everyone’s typical responses of: “YOU’RE MARRIED?! HOW OLD ARE YOU?!” there are several things that are bound to happen if you get married young.
1. If you’re still in school, you’ll do homework together.
College is awesome. It’s where you meet people and learn significant things about yourself and the world. It’s also a lot of homework and stress. Being married in college can be tough, but it’s still completely doable. If both of you are still in school, it can be good to force each other to study and do your work. Just be sure not to take your stress out on your partner.
2. You’ll distract each other from doing homework.
On the other hand, there will be times when one of you just wants to binge watch Netflix or go on a hike while the other has midterms and three essays due. Inevitably, you will distract each other from responsibilities. This even goes beyond college and homework. Having a schedule and a set time for homework or other responsibilities can be very helpful when those distracting temptations come.
3. You'll still call your parents when you have car problems.
Even though you’re independent and out of the house, there will be times when you will still need your parents' help. Whether it’s because your car keeps shutting off, you’re not sure how to start a Roth IRA, or you need help forming a budget, parents are great people to go to for advice. They’ve been there before, and there’s no shame in asking for help.
4. People will ask you when you’re going to have kids. You will kick them in the shin.
But really, this is something that well-meaning people will ask you without realizing that it’s an extremely personal and sensitive topic. It’s okay to let them know that this question is inappropriate. Maybe you can even write a passive-aggressive section in an article about it to let everyone know. *wink wink*
5. You will still have sleepovers with your friends.
Even though the dynamic with your friends may change, that doesn’t mean you still can’t hang out or have sleepovers. Your spouse should definitely be your priority, but as long as their needs are being met, and they’re down with it, it’s okay. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean that you have no identity outside of the relationship. As long as there is open communication, feel free to go camping for a weekend with friends or stay the night at your mom’s house.
6. You will grow up together.
Chances are you’re still figuring out what you’re going to do with your life, and possibly even who you are. If you’re in a relationship with someone during times of growth and self-discovery, it’s important to be honest with your partner so that you can grow together and not apart. You can still maintain your independence and your identity outside of your relationship, and having a partner doesn’t mean having to limit your aspirations. Instead, it can mean having someone support and challenge you to pursue your passions and be the best version of yourself.
