6 Reasons You Should Not Text Your Ex On New Year's

6 Reasons You Should Not Text Your Ex On New Year's

"Cancel out my ex I put a line through that b****." - Drake
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Whatever you're thinking of sending don't. In case you need some extra encouragement, here are just some reasons you should do the complete opposite of texting your ex on New Year's.


1. You're probably drunk.

You pre-gamed the pre-game, downed an obscene amount of tequila shots, had one too many glasses of champagne, and now it's six minutes until midnight and you’re wondering if you should just text them: you shouldn’t.

2. They are also, probably drunk.

If you’re drunk enough that you’re actually contemplating sending that text, then chances are they are also on the same tip, if not past it. Two wrongs don’t make a right and two drunk ex-lovers definitely don’t either, so back away from the phone.

3. New year, new you.

A new year doesn’t necessarily have to mean a whole new you, but it should mean new experiences, new goals, and possibly (certainly) new lovers. That’s not to say that everyone’s primary focus in the new year should be finding romance, but it definitely shouldn’t mean hashing up old ones. A sense of pride, self-respect, and a little bit of optimism is all anyone really needs to start off the year on a clean slate, so don’t blow it all on someone who isn’t worth thinking about.

4. Unfulfilling reply.

When sending one of those risky texts you know you probably shouldn’t be sending anyway, there’s only one of three ways that it could turn out. They might send an uncomfortably nice reply that oversteps whatever boundaries you guys might have established since things ended, but boundaries seem to be out the window at this point.

Option two, they reply with an extremely dry and passive aggressive “Thanks, you too,” which just proves that fact that they should be left in the past where they belong. Or three, they hit you with the classic “Read: 12:03 a.m.”, which might be the worst one of them all. Don’t waste your time trying to find some sense of "closure" and go kiss someone new at midnight.


5. Regret hangover.

You’ll wake up at 1 p.m. in your outfit from the night before, a migraine that feels like you have cement in your brain, and 47 messages in your group chat from all your friends wishing one another a Happy New Year. You’ll start to scroll through all the gibberish you typed up and sent to people who replied with equally unreadable gibberish and laugh to yourself. That’s until you stumble upon a conversation with your ex, realize you screwed up massively, and have no recollection of any of it either. Your horrendous hangover from alcohol is now coupled with an immense regret hangover, where you wish you had handed your phone to a responsible friend rather than initiate a completely unnecessary conversation.

6. They. Are. Not. Worth. It.

You may have broken up months ago or perhaps even two days ago, but the bottom line is that right now, you are not together. The ball is about to drop, a new year is about to begin, and unfortunately (or fortunately) they didn’t make the cut this year and that’s OK. Don’t use New Year's as an excuse to start a new cycle of an on-again/off-again relationship and backtrack on any progress you’ve made towards moving on. Sending a text will only prove that you still think about them, and unintentionally boost their ego. They’re your ex for a reason, and it’s probably because they pretty much suck. Text your mom, text your best friend, honestly even text that one person you’ve always had a crush on but never told them, but please… just don’t text your ex.






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If you’re looking for the most scandalous outfits to wear this Halloween, this may not be it.
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However, when most people type in "sexy Halloween costumes" into their search engine, they might be looking for tight bodysuits or something that shows a little more cleavage. Don’t get me wrong, I'm not knocking out bunny ears or mesh tights. However, it might be time to stretch what that definition means.

I've gathered a few costume ideas that are sure to make a statement this Halloween while representing some of the most iconic women of our time. So, here are the ten best Halloween costumes for forward-thinking women like us!

1. Rosie the Riveter

Who better to show that we are equal and can do a “man’s job” just as good (or better) than Rosie the Riveter? This outfit is bold and inexpensive. You may even have this in your closet!

2. Marilyn Monroe

"I am very definitely a woman and I enjoy it.”

More proof that you can be beautiful in pants or a dress. Embrace the beauty within.

3. Taylor Swift

“I don’t really think about things as guys versus girls. I never have. I was raised by parents who brought me up to think if you work as hard as guys, you can go far in life,” Taylor Swift said in an interview with The Daily Beast.

Enough said.

4. Hillary Clinton

President or not I’m still with her. Just like feminists and activists before her, she has paved the way for modern women to stand up for themselves and have a voice.

5. Susan B. Anthony

Susan B. Anthony proved any woman could turn her dreams into a reality. She helped remove limitations and showed women to be fearless. Fast forward 97 years and women can achieve even more than. Yes, we still have more to accomplish, but we’re definitely nearing the horizon!

6. Amelia Earhart

Not only was she an American aviator, she was also the first woman to ever fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. Talk about goals. This Halloween, you can defy gender norms just like Amelia did.

7. Frida Kahlo

Surrealist painter Frida Kahlo explored the depths of her identity, culture, gender, class, love, and loss. Through her persona and her artwork, she defied feminine beauty and gender stereotypes in a time where women had few rights and were viewed as submissive. Who ever said you had to get your brows waxed anyway?

8. Birth Control

Hands off my birth control!

This might be sound a little kooky, but isn't that what Halloween is all about? This year, make it a point to express how you feel through your costume. Women need to stick together! So, let's dress up as birth control to remind the GOP we will not accept another restriction.

9. Wonder Woman

Adding Wonder Woman to our list was a no-brainer. She’s a crowd favorite, especially the way Gal Gadot represented her in the new movie.

Overall, Wonder Woman is a symbolic character that reminds us anyone can be a hero. The days when only little boys looked up to their favorite superhero are long gone. Now, kids and adults of any gender have a badass female superhero to fawn over.

10. Madonna

More than 30 years ago Madonna broke the barriers of what men wanted women to be. In a time where women were expected to follow certain rules, her attitude and bravery overcame those norms. Shoutout to "Hocus Pocus" for the inspo.

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The Spooky Start To 5 Of Our Favorite Halloween Traditions

Halloween is known for its spooky traditions, however, you may be surprised by the even spookier origins of those traditions!

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Halloween is absolutely my favorite holiday! I love the spooky movies, the fun costumes, and the tasty treats. It's the one time of the year you can be anyone or anything you wish to be. Not only do I find Halloween interesting, but I find the background of the traditions that we participate in even more interesting!

1. Halloween

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The word Halloween derives from two separate meanings. "Hallow" meaning "holy person", referring to the saints celebrated on All Saints' Day, which is on November 1st, and "een" meaning "eve" or evening before. So basically, Halloween or All Hallows Eve means All Saints' Day Eve or the evening before All Saints' Day.

Halloween itself is linked to the Celtic Festival known as Samhain. This festival celebrated the end of the summer and the end of the harvesting season in Ireland and Scotland. According to the Celtic mythology, at this particular time of the year, the veil between the "otherworld", that held spirits of the dead, and our world thins, making it possible for spirits and the souls of the dead to come through the veil and into our world.

2. Bobbing for Apples

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The origin for bobbing for apples originally came from an old courting tradition from a Roman festival honoring Pomona, the goddess of agriculture. This party game actually used to be considered as a form of divination. Men would dunk their heads into a bucket of water, trying desperately to catch a piece of floating fruit in an attempt to figure out who their future spouse would be. Women would mark apples before putting them in the bucket and men would bob them out. The thought was that the woman who marked the apple would then forever be destined to be with the man who caught it. So the next time you're sticking your head in a bucket to catch an apple, remember, you might be bobbing for your future spouse!

3. Costumes

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Even though costumes are now used as a way to force your child to dress as that cute (but honestly horrifying) clown or your best opportunity to dress as the newest (and even more horrifying) provocative cartoon character (that totally ruins your childhood), costumes used to be known as the best way to avoid being terrorized by the spirits that passed through the veil on Samhain. This was their way of faking out the ghosts and hopefully, be mistaken as one themselves.

4. Carving Pumpkins

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The tradition of carving pumpkins, or Jack-O-Lanterns, originated in Ireland. However, it was first an activity done with turnips instead of pumpkins! The concept behind this craft and spooky tradition is based on an old legend about a man named Stingy Jack.

Stingy Jack was a terrible, mischief, old drunk who played horrible tricks on everyone he came in contact with, even the Devil. One day, he tricked the Devil and trapped him in a tree where he forced the Devil to promise not to take his soul. Many years later, when Stingy Jack died, he found out that not only would the Devil not take his soul because of the promise he made, but Heaven wouldn't take him either because of how horrible and mean he had been. Now he had nowhere to go except to wander around the dark world between Heaven and Hell. He asked the Devil, his old friend, how he could leave without being able to see because there was no light. The Devil gave him an ember and Stingy Jack put the ember in a turnip that he had with him (it was his favorite food, so he always had one with him). From that day on, Stingy Jack roamed the earth, lighting the was with his "Jack-O-Lantern".

On All Hallows Eve, the Irish carved out turnips and placed a light in them to ward off evil spirits and keep Stingy Jack away.

5. Trick-or-Treating

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Regardless of where this tradition comes from, let's be honest, nobody is going to deny the opportunity to get free candy! However, there is lots of debate about where the tradition of trick-or-treating came from.

The first theory suggests that it came from the Celtic's. During Samhain people would leave food out to appease the souls, ghosts, and spirits that crossed the veil and traveled the earth that night.

Another theory is that trick-or-treating sprouted from the Scottish practice of souling. In the Middle Ages, soulers would around to local homes and collect food, money, or treats in return for prayers for the dead on All Souls' Day.

Either way, tricker-treating is a fun tradition that it great for kids and adults alike.

Enjoy your spooky Halloween traditions!

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