Five Struggles You Relate To If You're In Greek Life

Five Struggles You Relate To If You're In Greek Life

Because it's real, and a big deal!
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Pretty much every college campus in America has some form of Greek life whether it be a national or local organization, and Hollywood has given their portrayals of what they think that lifestyle is like. However I can tell you from personal experience it is nothing like in the movies, and there aren't always super glamorous moments happening everywhere. If I'm being honest, there's a lot of crap Greeks have to go through that nobody talks about.

1. We lose friends for joining Greek life

Everybody assumes that Greeks are super popular and have a lot of friends and admirers, but nobody ever discusses the friends you lose for joining an org. They may think you're trying to buy friends or that they aren't good enough for you anymore and get mad at you, offering an ultimatum, me or them. Or they may join a different org and you two never talk again There may also be the friend that feels like you're selling out and trying to be someone you're not, when in reality you're just trying to explore yourself within another group.

2. Constantly having to fight the school administration

Whether it's trying to have a bake sale or fighting being disbanded, there's always some sort of battle happening. Want to have a Greek Week event? File a formal description, a validation of use, itemized list of purchases, and copies of your social security number, birth certificate, and fingerprints. Oh, and don't forget your immortal soul, too! Another org on campus does something stupid, and everybody gets interrogated to make sure everybody is 'behaving' because each org is totally the same.

3. People say derogatory things about Greek life

...And it really hurts! Probably the thing that bothered me the most in my sorority was when people would say we buy our friends. First of all, we collect dues once a semester and that money goes to buying new merchandise and supporting events that school funding won't really cover. Also, the events covered by dues are only Greek Week, which is for recruitment and to fund bake sales for charity. Yeah, big surprise, we actually do charity and the money actually gets to the organization. That is, after the university takes their cut for money they contributed.

4. People don't want to join due to fear

Don't get me wrong, hazing is a very serious issue and should NEVER be tolerated, but people assume that all Greeks haze their pledges and that's just not true. In my org, we didn't have to do one of the activities during our process if we felt uncomfortable or that it would put us at some sort of risk. Then we would collaborate with the pledge to find an activity worth the same value as the activity she could do instead. Usually we'd let her choose from a couple of options. Another misconception is that we're super cliquey and we don't like outsiders. Riddle me this, do you think people would join an org if the people didn't try to be nice to outsiders? Also, I always sat with my friends who were in other Greek orgs during lunch and always welcomed my non-Greek friends to join.

5. We have GPA requirements to keep up

On top of all our Greek activities and meetings we still have to find time for homework. If we fell below a certain GPA, we would have to go on academic probation to improve our grades, and if more than half the org was on probation, the sorority would go under review and they'd monitor us to see if our grades improved. If you were on academic probation from the org, you weren't allowed to participate in activities and meetings.

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To The Senior Graduating High School In A Month

"What feels like the end, is often the beginning."
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It wasn’t too long ago that I was in your shoes. Just a little over a year ago, I was the senior that had a month left. One month left in the hometown that I grew up in. One month left with the friends that I didn’t want to leave. One month left in the place that I had called “my school” for the past four years. You are probably thinking the same things I thought whenever it came down to only 30 days left. You’re probably scared, nervous, worried, or anxious. Maybe you’re like me and are dying to get out of high school, ready to start a new chapter. Or maybe you aren’t so ready yet. Maybe you’re wishing for a little more time.

As scary as it is, this month you have left will fly by. You’ll blink and you’ll be standing in your cap and gown, waiting for your name to be called to receive your diploma. You’ll look back on your last four years at your school and wonder why time went by so fast. It’ll be bittersweet. However, trust me when I say that you have so much to look forward to. You are about to begin taking the steps to build your future. You are going to grow and learn so much more than any high school class could teach you. You are going to meet amazing people and accomplish amazing things. So, as scared as you might be, I encourage you to take that first step out of your comfort zone and face this world head on. Chase your dreams and work towards your goals. You are smart. You are brave. You are capable of achieving amazing things. All your life, the lessons you have learned have prepared you for this point in your life. You are more than ready.

There are times when you will feel alone, scared, or confused. There are times when it won’t always be easy. But those are the times when you will shine the most because I know you will work through whatever problems you may face. Don’t think of the bad times as a terrible thing. Use them all as learning experiences. As author Joshua Marine once said, “Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”

You might think that this is the end. However, it’s not. This is only the beginning. Trust me when I say that the adventures and opportunities you are about to face are nothing compared to high school. Whether you are going to college, going to work, or something else, this is the beginning of your journey called life. It will be exciting, it will be terrifying, but it will all be worth it.

So, as you walk out of your high school for the very last time, I encourage you to take a deep breath. Relax. You’ll always have the memories to look back on from high school. But your time is now, it begins today. Embrace it.

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10 Pieces Of Advice From My Parents That Have Helped Me Survive This Thing Called Life

I don't like admitting that they're right, but they've helped me through more than they'll ever know.

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As I've entered my 20s and have made it halfway through college, I've learned that life can be hard and challenging at times. Like many kids, when I was growing up, I could care less about what my parent's advice or opinions were. Nine times out of ten, I would do the complete opposite of what they said. Once I got older and actually started listening to their advice and put it into perceptive, I learned that they're right more often than I'd like to admit.

1. Don't take things for granted

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I've learned to cherish what I have because I might not always have it. It's easy to take life itself and many things it involves for granted. They've taught me to take a step back from this crazy life sometimes and be grateful for all that I have.

2. Don't be afraid to put your heart on your sleeve

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My parents have taught me that if you feel something, don't be afraid to say it or embrace it. If you love someone, then tell them. Don't be afraid to put your heart out there just because you might get hurt.

3. Be vulnerable

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In life, in relationships, in your work. Take risks, get shot down, and then try again. Being vulnerable is scary yet so powerful.

4. You can never have too many shoes

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Otherwise known as it's okay to treat yourself. Life is hard, so take care of you. If that means going on a shopping spree every once in a while, then so be it.

5. You're going to be okay

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Whatever it is you're going through, you're going through it and you're going to come out on the other side. It may seem horrible now, but you'll learn from it and be okay in the end.

6. You have to have friends in life

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It's important to have people to lean on, especially on your bad days, and to celebrate with on your good ones. You can't just have you or a significant other to rely on.

7. Never be afraid to share your opinion

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Don't be afraid to put your thoughts and opinions out there because they might be wrong. They could have a huge impact on someone or something.

8. Don't stress over things you have no control over

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Everyone is on their own path, which means everything will work out the way it's supposed to, even if it doesn't make sense right now. Again, you're going to be okay.

9. Happy, healthy, wealthy, wise

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My dad always says if you tell yourself every day that you're happy with yourself or your life, you're healthy and strong, you're wealthy in love and surrounded by great people, and you're knowledgable or wise, then you can achieve anything in life.

10.  S*** or get off the pot

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My all-time favorite piece of advice. Making decisions can be hard and scary, especially if the outcome could be getting hurt in the end. So, you either make a decision and roll with it no matter the outcome or you walk away.

Thanks, mom and dad for always being a phone call away when I need it! Just know that your advice and words of wisdom don't go unnoticed. For others, your parents have been on this planet much longer than you have and most likely experienced the same situations that you're dealing with. They don't have all the answers, but they are there to help.

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