5 Important Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Not Sure He's "The One"
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5 Important Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Not Sure He's "The One"

...and if you answered "yes" to any of these, he is NOT the guy for you!

5 Important Questions To Ask Yourself If You're Not Sure He's "The One"

ATTENTION: Are you and your boyfriend not connecting anymore? Are you noticing a change in his behavior? If you answered "yes," then it just may be time for an upgrade.

Summer '17 has been sizzling with hot bodies, trendy destinations, and TONS of eye candy. For some of us, this summer has been filled with passionate nights accompanied with the loves of our lives. However, some of us are experiencing dry talks sealed with an un-passionate kiss. Many relationships are experiencing a "love drought." Guy's are losing interest in their partners because of all the sexiness this summer is bringing. But as the partner, should you continue to stay in the relationship? If you are noticing any of the following signs, then you need to tell him "BOY- BYE!"

1. Does your Partner Make You Feel Like You Need To Change Who You Are In Order To Keep Them?

We all get annoyed by certain qualities that our significant other may possess, however, if your partner is constantly making you feel insecure about qualities that are unique to yourself... Honey, it's time to question if that person is right for you. If you constantly find yourself trying to change the way you look, act, talk, or even dress... you need to leave the relationship. If a guy is making you feel like you have to change who you are to stay with him then he is not the one; he needs to get with the person he wants you to be, not you.

2. Do you find yourself constantly begging for his attention?

If you answered yes, then this is a sign that he isn't into you. A guy should always give you acknowledgment no matter what. If you find yourself having to repeat his name in order for him to listen to you, or you are constantly questioning what he is doing... then the odds are he isn't into you. That boys attention is in every other place than with you, it's time for him to go.

3. Is the communication off?

The key to any good relationship, romantic or not, is communication. You and your significant other should easily be able to engage in conversation and understand each others terminology. Take, for instance, food orders...If you tell your partner to call in take-out to your favorite restaurant, he should already know your usual order. Or if it is hard to find a relevant conversation that the two of you can actively engage in, then the two of you probably don't have much in common anymore. If the communication is lost, the relationship might as well be too.

4. Do you find yourselves competing with each other?

Relationships are meant to give mutual support to one another. If you find your partner becoming insecure about his capabilities in a relationship, you may start to notice signs of competition. Your bf may start to want to out-do you in simple things such as conversations, you may notice that he starts to over talk you or make your points seem unrealistic or dumb. This is an obvious sign that he feels threatened by you. Competition in a relationship is not healthy. If your partner competes with you outside of fun, then he is not the one for you.

5. Do you find yourself questioning if you're with the wrong person?

It may seem cliche, but self-doubt can be a serious sign of a bad relationship. If the relationship causes for you to question if the two of you are meant to be, then you may want to take a break and re-evaluate things. You never have questions for no reason. There will always be actions that have occurred that will make you question yourself. Maybe the spark just isn't there anymore, and that's okay. Never feel obligated to stay with someone just for the heck of it.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. Dive into the ocean and explore all the variety's your sea has to offer. If you aren't with the right fish for you, move on to the next one. Have fun, and remember, if he is not the one... tell him "BOY-BYE".

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