Nowadays many girls are finding themselves in that awkward situation where they are involved with a guy, but the guy refuses to commit and/or put a label on it. It's like they are dating and do everything that a normal boyfriend and girlfriend do, BUT they are not officially together. This situation creates a trifecta of heartbreak, disappointment, and lack of closure because it is difficult to get over something that never really was anything. In most cases, the girl clings to the hope that one-day he will maybe commit to her and he will transform into her prince charming once he's done “doing his own thing". But in reality the girl needs to walk away from the disguised peasant because he will never be her prince no matter how long she waits.
I was with this guy, Jax, for 4 and half months and we were so happy together. I thought I had finally found my awaited prince and it was 100% him. We enjoyed each other's company, laughed constantly, were very affectionate towards each other, and I wanted to be with him so badly. We hung out often and I treated him like my boyfriend and he treated me EXACTLY like his girlfriend. We had similar interests and values and it really felt like it could be something real and long lasting. I was so ecstatic that I FINALLY found someone who wanted to be my boyfriend. Jax became my number one priority, but sadly I was only one of his options. Jax didn't want to give me the relationship I needed because he still wanted his freedom to do what he wanted, when he wanted. He told me to be patient and that “maybe" one day we could be something real because, “he didn't want to be that close to anyone". I was heartbroken and frustrated at the fact Jax didn't want me like I wanted him. He would rather lose me than commit to me. Jax gave every excuse in the book to why he couldn't commit and be with me. I was not going to let him take advantage of me any longer.
So I chose to walk away from him, despite how much I cared and wanted to be with him because I deserved better than the slim chance he may want to commit to me one day. Jax turned out to be another peasant and not my prince. And every girl deserves better than what Jax did to me. So here are 5 reasons to why every girl deserves better than a “maybe".
#1 You Deserve to be Happy.
Some people can live with the “no strings attached" relationship style and that's completely okay if that works for you, BUT 90% of the time when the girl wants something more in the relationship than the guy, it creates a indefinable reality because the relationship really can't be explained or defined due to there being two completely different definitions. Confusion between the two causes both parties to be miserable and internally conflicted. When the person doesn't feel the same as you and doesn't want to put forth the same amount of effort as you, it is time to walk away and chose your happiness as your number one priority.
#2 You are Worth The Commitment.
You deserve exactly what you are willing to offer someone and that is nothing less than a commitment. When someone genuinely cares about you and wants ONLY you they will be first in line asking to be your boyfriend, instead of putting you on the back burner like an option. If he cared about losing you, he would prove that by committing to you.
#3 Indecision is a decision.
If the guy you want to be your boyfriend cannot make a decision on your relationship with him, he is not worth it and you should move on. You should never have to beg someone to be in your life and if they do not know what they want, chances are they don't want you. You deserve better than to be chosen last because of they are too selfish to end things with you. Don't let them have their cake and eat it too.
#4 You Will Get The Whole Package.
There are SO many guys out there in the world that could be your prince charming that it would be silly for you to settle for a peasant who doesn't want to be your everything. Be patient and wait for the guy that deserves your great heart and wants to treasure and appreciate you. Just because a guy doesn't do anything wrong to you, doesn't make him right for you. Wait for the person who wants the same things as you in a relationship and it will save a lot of heartbreak.
#5 Walking away is the best choice for YOU.
Do NOT be that girl who stays in a situation where they are unappreciated and taken for granted for a “maybe" chance of being together one day. That doesn't make you “loyal" that makes you stupid. Chances are if he won't commit to you now, he most likely never will. That might be harsh, but by walking away you open up doors and opportunities for real men to step in and give you what you really want and need out of a relationship. You may like him and maybe even love him, but you CANNOT change who he really is and you most definitely can't make him want to be with you.
As hard as it may be, you are making the right decision. Because you deserve a YES from your prince charming instead of a simple maybe from a peasant.
