Online dating, its the new rave. Easily accessible and cuts out majority of the “hard work”. Online dating has become as simple as a swipe right or a swipe left. Just throw up your best pictures and a quick little paragraph about yourself and just like that, you have a dating profile. However, with the “hard work” cut out comes other downfalls.
1.) The Intentions aren’t clear.
While you would think the intentions would be pretty straight forward with a dating app. They're not. One party is searching for the obvious, Dating. The other party, not so much. Unfortunately or fortunately (depending on what side of the table you’re sitting on.) We are living in a generation of hook ups.
2.) You don't know who’s on the other end.
You may see Sara, 23 from New York on your end, or Josh, 25 from Michigan. However, until you actually meet the person face to face, you never know who you’re going to get and who is really on the other side of the conversation. With “catfishing” being such a regular thing so regular that MTV has a show about it. It throws an extra curveball into the world of online dating.
3.) Online dating “trolls”
Ah, yes. You have finally found the one. His bio is clever, her pictures are cute. Its the total online package. You swipe right and then.. You suddenly realize, you have landed in the trap of an online dating troll. You spark up small talk and suddenly the conversation takes a sharp left turn. The “hey how are you,” turns into something completely different and usually insulting in some way shape or form. Trust me, we’ve all had one.
4.) The one’s in a relationship.
Personally, I have experienced this one first hand. It sucks but before I start, let me start by saying do not feel guilty if you fell for someone who you had no idea was in a relationship. You didn’t know that he or she was in a relationship. He/She however did. Online dating apps are full of people who aren’t always honest. Unfortunately, that dishonesty comes with some people already being in a relationship and looking for their quick fix. If you’re anything like me, you automatically feel guilty because of “what you did to the other party” but for the record, you did nothing. You were just as blind as the other victim.
5.) Its just not working.
Online dating is convenient, quick and easy but its not always for everyone and it doesn't always work. You may feel as if its just not working or begin to question yourself. You may not see results as fast as your friends and online dating might just not be the right tool for you (or the right app). Don’t get discouraged. There are plenty of apps for online dating and plenty of alternatives. Just be patient and let things happen naturally. I know its easier said than done (Trust me I really do!). Just hold out a little longer and the right one will come along and you wont even remember all these downfalls later on!
