I have had unfortunate luck with relationships so far in my life. Although these times have been awful for me, it has taught me a lot about what to look out for and avoid in potential partners, and I am able to see the bad in other people's relationships. Sometimes, it is difficult to make yourself see the bad in someone you love. I found that lists like this helped me become aware of the negative traits that my relationships had. So, I've decided to make my own.
1. They have a bad relationship with their mom
If a person is mean to their mother, that is a big sign to run. They talk to her on the phone in a mean tone and avoid her at all costs. This shows that they have no respect for the person who has done everything for them, and have no respect for women. This may be how they will treat you.
2. They are mean to animals
If a person pushes there pets around and/or yells at them, this shows that they will pick on any vulnerable and defenseless being. Who is mean to animals?? Assholes, that's who.
3. They get mad if you go to parties
If a person gets mad that you go out to a party without them, they are extremely insecure and over-protective. You should be able to go out and have fun without your partner blowing up your phone, and then making you feel bad afterwards. They should be happy that you are having a good time. Jealous partners are never good.
4. They get mad over you talking to others as friends
You are able to be friends with other people of the gender you are attracted to. Your partner should not get mad at you for having these friends and assuming that you will cheat on them with friends. You can text that person in your class about homework. It's fine.
5. They need to know where you are at all times
A partner that is insecure and doesn't trust you will need to know your location at all times and will expect you to report this to them. In a good relationship, you would be able to do things without having to report what you are doing to your partner.
6. They need to spend every second together
You both need a life outside of each other.
7. They do not like your friends
Your partner constantly puts down your friends and points out bad things about them. They also get mad if you would rather spend time with your friends over them. Something a toxic partner would say is, "You seriously want to hang out with her over me? I'm always there for you and she's not."
8. They do not like your family
Like above, a partner who says bad things about your parents or siblings is a horrible person to be around. Who needs that negativity in their life?
9. They do drugs and/or drink every single day
They has no responsibility and doesn't take care of them self.
10. They do not have a job or attend school
They clearly don't have any ambition, or money. They want you to pay for everything and then gets mad if you have to work instead of hang out with them.
11. They have cheated in a previous relationship
This one is pretty obvious, but needs to be said. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
12. They pressure you into sexual activities
They should allow you to do what you feel comfortable with. If they are pressuring you to have sex or to do any other sexual act, then they feel entitled to your body and does not respect you as a person. They may also make you feel guilty for not wanting to do stuff.
13. They expect you to be affectionate at all times
If you aren't all over your partner, they get mad, and accuses you of not liking them or thinking they are unattractive
14. They are over the top with gifts
This may sound like a good thing, but a partner who buys you a million gifts is insecure and trying too hard to get you to stay with them. It also is their way of making them self feel good, when they should be doing it just to make you happy.
15. They don't express their emotions
Someone who does not tell you how they are feeling, and instead keeps it all in, will eventually blow up on you and make you feel bad about everything that has ever bothered them about you. Communication is key in relationships, and if someone can't be honest about how they are feeling, nothing will ever be comfortable in the relationship.
16. People who are close to you don't like them
If your best friends and close family see the bad in your partner, they are probably right. Sometimes when we love someone, we are blinded from their bad qualities. Mother knows best.
17. They make you delete people from social media who you knew before
If your partner makes you remove your close friends who you were already close with before you started seeing them because they feel threatened by them, they are extremely insecure and controlling. They want all of your attention to them selves.
18. They have a history of bad behavior
A history of illegal activities and/or jail time is a huge sign to stay away. If they seem to be working on it, and you feel comfortable, it is okay to keep seeing them. If the person seems to brag about these activities, that is a red flag.
19. They only compliment your physical attributes
A partner who only compliments your attractiveness does not see you as a person, but rather an object. We all like to be told we look good. But, never acknowledging your intelligence or personality traits shows that they do not deeply appreciate you.
20. They act like you are stupid if you do not agree with them
If you and your partner have different opinions on things, that is perfectly okay. You should be able to have good discussions to express your own viewpoints and not have a fight over it. But, your partner should not make you feel bad or dumb over the way you feel.
21. They purposefully hurt you
If your partner ever hits you or does anything to physically hurt you on purpose, it is important to find a safe way out right away. It is never a one time thing.
