I have no clue as to who, what, where, I want to be — not this second and definitely not ten years from now. I know one thing, I'm not the only one.

I was always the one to plan things. I am the most organized person I know. Everything has to be set in stone days prior. It's a quality other students wish they had. For me, it's something I wish I could let go of. I can't plan something if I don't know what it is I'm planning for to begin with. That's what frustrates me. I wish I had all the answers to who, what, where I would be tomorrow or a decade away, but I can't. I have trouble saying "yes" to just about anything. I need to analyze every little thing, that's what slows me down.

Instead of always saying "no" and following with 5,376 excuses as to why it would be better not to do something, here are a few things I will say "yes" to and why you should too.

1. Say yes to spontaneous adventures.

I was talking to my boyfriend the other night and, of course, we were talking about plans for the weekend. Then, he said "You're the only one I plan things with. I usually just do whatever comes up with people." I was taken aback by that because figuring out what I'm going to do five seconds before actually doing it gives me a mini panic attack and a million questions flow into my crazy brain. Who's coming? Where? What time? What are we doing? How about after? How are we getting there? It drives me insane, which is why I like to have things set in stone. Then I realized, things never go the way I planned them to anyway. After all, the best nights are the ones we never planned for. So, say yes to spontaneous adventures because those are the ones that will stay in our memories. Forget the details, and live in the moment.

2. Say yes to meeting new people!

The amount of times I've heard someone use the phrase "I have people anxiety" is crazy. If it wasn't for me coming out of my comfort zone and talking to people I would have never had the guts to talk to, I wouldn't be lucky to have half the friends I do. These are the people you make memories with. So go out, do something you never would have done, and find people who want to do the same. After all, memories aren't made alone at home.

3. Travel.

We all want to visit as much of the world as we can. Complaining about your boring suburb won't take you anywhere. Yeah, it's expensive, but think of it this way: money fills your pockets, but what's the joy of having it stay there? I don't want to spend seven decades of my life in one place, and I know I'll regret not visiting all the Earth has to offer.

4. Reconnect.

We all stop talking to some people and we have no idea why. Pick up the phone and ask a friend how they're doing. It's such a small task, yet it will make the person on the other end feel genuinely cared for.

5. Coffee dates.

I don't know what it is about drinking fancy coffee with someone else's company, but you'd be surprised as to what can come up in conversation on a coffee date. Catching up with friends over coffee is never a bad idea. So say yes to coffee dates.

6. Be healthy.

This one is what I'll have most difficulty with. "No" was my favorite word to just about anything. Whether it's joining a gym, finding a new hobby, giving sports a shot — all I could say was "no." Well, I realized that eating doughnuts for breakfast and pouring three teaspoons of sugar into my coffee wasn't going to give me abs and it wasn't making me feel any happier. People who work out and eat well feel better. So I'm going to give the rec a chance after at least 15 people tried to convince me that it actually works. Here's to change!

My point in all of this is that we may not know who we want to be now, and planning ahead will only get you so far. So many people talk about "finding happiness" and here are some ways you can start.