17 Lessons I Learned In 2017

17 Lessons I Learned In 2017

A year of reflection and lessons.
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1. Your parents are always right.

No matter what you believe, your parents are the only people in this world that truly want the absolute best for you all the time. Every rule they enforce or advice they give to you is in your best interest. It may be hard to understand when you are young and can't fully grasp that everything your parents do to or for you is because they love you.

2. It is okay to put yourself first.

In life, sometimes you have to do what is best for yourself before you put others before yourself. Not all the time, but do not feel guilty if you take a day to better your well being instead of doing favors for others. There is an level of self-respect one must have in order to be happy and with that, you need to at times put your needs above anyone else's.

3. You need to find a healthy escape from reality when things get hard.

Everyone is fighting their own battle. With that being said, you need to find a healthy way to relieve stress. Whether it be listening to music, working out or going for a long drive does not matter. Find what is most relaxing for you and when you need to escape the most, do it.

4. Start spending more money on adventures rather than material items.

Everyone loves to have nice things – that is just the way life is. However, having memories of going on vacation, music festivals, road trips, skydiving, or any other adventure you want to go on is more meaningful. I promise crossing things off your bucket list and having memories that will last forever will mean more than your designer bag in the long run.

5. People will come in and out of your life.

The truth is, not everyone you meet is meant to stay in your life. Understanding that is hard, yet important. Some people tend to fade out as time goes on, and that just means another person is coming in. Cherish the people in your life but accept that not everyone will stay in it forever. Don’t obsess the ones that didn’t work out, but never harbor negative feelings towards them, it is just what happens in life.

6. Follow your gut instinct.

If you ever find yourself in a situation where you whole body is telling you to leave – listen! You know yourself better than anyone else and if you are uncomfortable in a situation, your body will know before your brain. If your gut is telling you to make a certain decision it will very rarely fail you.

7. What goes around, comes around.

What you put out in the world will come back to you. Good things happen to good people and people who tend to constantly hurt others will eventually have it come back to get them. The timing is always different but eventually everyone will get what they deserve. Put out positive energy and you are helping your future self.

8. Live in the moment.

Life flies by. Every moment you experience will become a memory that you can never relive, simply just look back on. Become more observant and look around you everywhere you go – take it all in. Remember every detail, even if it seems insignificant at the time. Put the phone down, live in the moment. What you capture on the screen is not the same as embracing it all.

9. Every hardship you face will make you a stronger individual.

You are a much stronger person than you were two years ago, even six months ago. Every battle you have faced has made you that way, whether you see it or not. Life lessons are not taught in textbooks, they are taught by the problems you were forced to deal with, giving you more strength and courage you didn't even know you were capable of having.

10. Don’t take life too seriously.

We only have so much time in our life to goof around and be light hearted. Make sure you are carefree more often than not. Laughter is the best medicine and that means you must not take yourself or anything around you too seriously. Learn to laugh at your mistakes instead of beating yourself up for something you are not able to change now.

11. There truly is no place like home.

It is possible to make yourself comfortable in a new place, but going back to your home is always comforting. The place you grew up and grew into yourself will always be a place you treasure. Nothing feels better than a wall separating you and your siblings instead of state borders while your away. Home is home and it really is as simple as that.

12. Let things go.

Avoid petty drama. Do not allow something that will mean nothing in a year affect you. No one will care about the fight that seems like the end of the world in just two short months. You will live a much happier life if you do not allow everything bother you. Forgive easily and move on.

13. In order to improve yourself you must step out of your comfort zone.

It is so easy to gravitate towards the things you are used to, but that will not make you grow. Learn to conquer your fears and take risks. In the moment, it is scary but you will look back and thank yourself for taking the leap of faith. No one became successful from never stepping out from what they were most comfortable with.

14. You must have a positive mental attitude.

Your mind and attitude controls your feelings towards every situation you are in. If you walk into an opportunity thinking its not going to work out – it probably won't. Think positively and you can change the entire outcome. When you are upset about something, find the good in the situation and focus on that, suddenly it is not as bad! PMA!

15. Your whole life can change in one short second.

You never know what is going to happen. Life is always changing and it is so important to enjoy what you have while you have it because you never know when it could be gone. Roll with the punches and never settle for what you have, because in just one second your entire future can change. Tell the people you love them while you still have the chance.

16. A simple act of kindness can change someone's whole mood.

You never know what others are going through. A simple compliment can make someone feel so amazing on a bad day. Lend a helping hand, favors that seem to not matter much can mean the world to someone else. Say hello to people you recognize because for all you know, it could be the loneliest day of their life and that can remind them that they have others around them who care.

17. Don't go into situation close minded.

If you enter a situation only wanting one outcome, you will be disappointed most likely. Learn to be more accepting and open up to everyone's opinion. Stop judging others based off looks or social standings. For all you know, the person you thought you could never connect with may become your best friend. Be open to anything and you will see the positive outcomes of it.

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After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

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5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

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9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

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13. My guilty pleasure is...

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...


This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

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19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...



What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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If you can go out and buy a whiteboard and a few whiteboard markers, you have what it takes to make a random acts of kindness board. But what are random acts of kindness?

A random act of kindness is any sort of unexpected and selfless considerate gesture. This could be anything from going out of your way to pick your friend up from a party they don't want to be at anymore, to paying for a strangers groceries, or even just lending an ear to a friend in need.

Whether you have one roommate or five, there's bound to be some conflict in the house. Odds are you'll disagree on how often you should do the dishes or how late you should have friend over, if not some other issue. But, it doesn't all have to be bad.

A random acts of kindness board will not only reward you and your roommates for being kind to each other, but it will also encourage these sorts of unprecedented sweet gestures. Seeing who can get the most tallies underneath their name can turn into a friendly competition. You could even make some sort of incentive, like saying that whoever has the most tallies by the end of the month gets a $5 gift card or some other small but exciting prize.

What qualifies for a tally is up to each roommate's personal discretion. One roommate might give tallies just for making them laugh, whereas you might have to work a bit harder to earn one from the other. That's okay!

Another thing to keep in mind is that you don't necessarily have to get a tally from the person you acted kindly to. If another roommate chooses to acknowledge a kind act you did to a friend, a stranger, or even another unresponsive roommate, that works too! What really matters is that you all continue to be kind to one another.

But asking for tallies is a big no-no. In my apartment, if you were intending to give someone a tally but they ask if you're going to give them one before you do, you have to wait at least one night before giving it to them.

Don't let your roommates pressure you into giving them tallies. Only give them out if they really deserve them. Otherwise, they'll completely lose their meaning.

Do something kind today. Make your roommate her favorite dinner. Give her some company when everyone else is preoccupied. If she needs a ride home in the middle of the night and you're still awake, go pick her up. If your roommates get into a fight, be the mediator. Leave a note on her door reminding her of how important she is to you. Listen to her cry about whatever's on her mind and remind her that it's gonna be okay. Eat ice cream together and watch Netflix even if it's during the only free time you have all week.

Be there for your roommates and they'll be there for you. Whether you like it or not, your roommates are your second family, and it's important to give them the same love and attention you would give your family back home. Embrace the college experience. The going broke, the struggling through classes, the falling in and out of love, the losing and gaining friends, the minimum wage jobs. You might feel like you're alone, but we're all going through it. This is life and sometimes it sucks, but a little random act of kindness here and there might help make it not so bad.

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