11 Things That Happen When You Become A Mom

11 Things That Happen When You Become A Mom

Motherhood: the good and the bad
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Most moms will agree that being a parent is the best thing that has ever happened to them. They will joy you with different things that have happened throughout their ordinary day, even when these things seem so unimportant to you. It's not you, it's them. These things are probably unimportant to most people. You see, when you become a mom, life is different. You get a new set of wants and needs. There are obvious changes like no longer sporting a convertible or living on your parent's couch. Your bank account will look different. Your circle of friends will either expand or shrink. Aside from all of those changes, here are a few more that your ever so kind mom friends might leave out.

1.You naturally become a late person.


This may not be everyone, but this is definitely me and a lot of moms I know. Let’s be honest, it’s not usually my fault I’m late. I blame the kids. Shoes had to be on the right feet, the sippy cup wasn’t the right color, and there was a blowout on the way out the door. These things really happen and they usually happen all at once.

2. You develop "mom" brain.


This is a real thing, it has to be. I used to be able to do quick transactions in my head when it came to purchases. I could remember where I put my keys. Now I sometimes forget to put shoes on the kids, I have no idea where my keys are if they aren’t in the drawer and we’ve had to replace four of our debit cards since becoming parents.

3. You become exhausted.

And I mean in every sense of the word. There will be times when you literally fumble your way through a few days, just to make it to the weekend and do it all over again. Befriend coffee and join the rest of us mombies. We aren’t as mean as we look.

4. You learn to share.


Your food. Your body. Your nice home with actual blinds in the window. Your time, sanity and personal space. You learn to share literally everything.

5. You become responsible.


Most moms become responsible. You can check your local headlines to find some that aren’t, but for the most part they are. Even with all the forgetfulness and being habitually late, you become responsible. You realize that your tiny world goes beyond just you. You learn to make doctor appointments for other people.

6. You develop sensory over loads.

This also might not apply to all, but it applies to a lot. There are days when your child will not function without touching you and when someone else comes in your little bubble, you will lose your cool. Oh, and if you breastfeed, your child will go through stretches of what the doctors call “growth spurts” and be attached to you for hours at a time. I’m no doctor, but I really don’t believe in these said “growth spurts” because it seemed like the first nine months of my youngest’s life was nothing but a said “growth spurt”.

7. You will become exhausted, again.

Yes, this is included twice because this exhaustion lasts for a really long time. I actually cannot tell you how long because my oldest is only three, but I have a feeling this goes past eighteen years. Your once peaceful sleeps will become periods of restless sleeping interrupted by crying children or checking to see if they’re still breathing because they didn’t wake you up at the normal times.

8. You will become obsessed with your kids.


We all have these moments, especially with newborns. I personally blame the new baby smell on this obsession. But the obsession starts before the baby is even born. You will be amazed at how many outfits you can find in places you didn’t even know had baby things. Also, never check on Amazon for baby gadgets or clothes unless you want to go bankrupt.

9. Nothing will be about you anymore, it’s all about the kids.

Not even kidding. Sometimes people will only ask you about your kids and that will be the gist of your conversation. One Christmas my husband got a car seat and a high chair for his gifts. While he may not have been that excited, I was! That was two less things to check off my list.

10. You learn to stretch yourself.




This doesn’t refer to any of the labor process, which really is the physical sense and definitely happens, but rather the actual journey of being a mom. You will literally stretch everything about yourself from your sanity and time to your personal space and heart. Sometimes you’ll even make more hours in the day just to get a project done. Or you’ll lose hours of the day by simply enjoying your kids.

11. You fall in love over and over again.


Having kids is one of the greatest things that will ever happen to you. Yes, they are exhausting little personal space bubble-bursting beings, but they are seriously great. When they learn to say I love you, give kisses, or simply say sorry, you're going to fall in love again. When they learn something new after months of trying, you fall in love. And when you want to scream from parenting just being overwhelming, you'll look into their little faces and remember that you love them.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.
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We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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Here's Your Reminder To Let The People You Care About KNOW That You Love Them

It's so scary to think that one moment everything is fine and then something happens so out of no where and out of your control.

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Last week I stared at my phone screen, not believing what my friend had just told me. Our close friend's father had just passed. I didn't know him well, but there was still a huge knot in my stomach, obviously feeling awful for my friend. That has to be one of the most horrible things, that I could never in a million years imagine having to go through. I told my friend I was thinking of her, but honestly, I tried to push it out of my mind that entire week. It's so scary to think that one moment everything is fine and then something like this happens so out of nowhere and out of your control.

Sometimes things happen in our lives that are unexplainable. This semester has had its ups and downs for me, but it's been pretty smooth sailing overall. I usually gladly stay on campus for the weekends, surrounded by my friends and so much going on, rather than taking the hour-long train ride home. Of course, I miss my family, but I am rarely thinking about it, especially on a Friday night.

This past weekend, however, I had this overwhelming desire to be at home for the weekend, and I couldn't figure out why. Sure, I had more work to do than normal so going home would probably force me to be more productive. I had also been sick that week, so it would be easier to kick my cold in the comfort of my own home than in my dorm. And as much as I adore Brower (not really), it can never hurt to get a good home cooked meal. I kept telling myself I would be home for spring break in two weeks, so none of these reasons really added up to my wanting to be home for the weekend.

Nevertheless, after a late date night on Friday, I decided to pack up my things early Saturday morning and haul my duffel bag to the train. And by the end of my weekend at home, I realized why I needed to be there so badly. I hadn't really confronted how hearing about the loss made me feel and how it was affecting me.

Writing this sounds selfish. Why should it matter how I feel when someone I care about is over there grieving and going through such immense pain? But after a week of pushing it out of my mind, I saw these events as an eye opener for my own life. Even though I have a really close bond with my own father, we fight a lot more often than I'd like, and sometimes I need a reminder to just let things go. I don't show it enough, but I love my dad so much and need to be grateful for the important role he plays in my life.

It sounds like stating the obvious to preach the importance of cherishing every second because you don't know when will be the last, but we often forget. No one should have to suffer through loss, and it scares me the more and more I think about it. I wish there was such a thing as the perfect thing to say to help someone through such an unexplainable situation like this. I guess all you can do is be there for them, give the people you love a hug, and appreciate the little moments you're lucky enough to spend with family.

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