11 Things That Happen When You Become A Mom

11 Things That Happen When You Become A Mom

Motherhood: the good and the bad

Most moms will agree that being a parent is the best thing that has ever happened to them. They will joy you with different things that have happened throughout their ordinary day, even when these things seem so unimportant to you. It's not you, it's them. These things are probably unimportant to most people. You see, when you become a mom, life is different. You get a new set of wants and needs. There are obvious changes like no longer sporting a convertible or living on your parent's couch. Your bank account will look different. Your circle of friends will either expand or shrink. Aside from all of those changes, here are a few more that your ever so kind mom friends might leave out.

1.You naturally become a late person.

This may not be everyone, but this is definitely me and a lot of moms I know. Let’s be honest, it’s not usually my fault I’m late. I blame the kids. Shoes had to be on the right feet, the sippy cup wasn’t the right color, and there was a blowout on the way out the door. These things really happen and they usually happen all at once.

2. You develop "mom" brain.

This is a real thing, it has to be. I used to be able to do quick transactions in my head when it came to purchases. I could remember where I put my keys. Now I sometimes forget to put shoes on the kids, I have no idea where my keys are if they aren’t in the drawer and we’ve had to replace four of our debit cards since becoming parents.

3. You become exhausted.

And I mean in every sense of the word. There will be times when you literally fumble your way through a few days, just to make it to the weekend and do it all over again. Befriend coffee and join the rest of us mombies. We aren’t as mean as we look.

4. You learn to share.

Your food. Your body. Your nice home with actual blinds in the window. Your time, sanity and personal space. You learn to share literally everything.

5. You become responsible.

Most moms become responsible. You can check your local headlines to find some that aren’t, but for the most part they are. Even with all the forgetfulness and being habitually late, you become responsible. You realize that your tiny world goes beyond just you. You learn to make doctor appointments for other people.

6. You develop sensory over loads.

This also might not apply to all, but it applies to a lot. There are days when your child will not function without touching you and when someone else comes in your little bubble, you will lose your cool. Oh, and if you breastfeed, your child will go through stretches of what the doctors call “growth spurts” and be attached to you for hours at a time. I’m no doctor, but I really don’t believe in these said “growth spurts” because it seemed like the first nine months of my youngest’s life was nothing but a said “growth spurt”.

7. You will become exhausted, again.

Yes, this is included twice because this exhaustion lasts for a really long time. I actually cannot tell you how long because my oldest is only three, but I have a feeling this goes past eighteen years. Your once peaceful sleeps will become periods of restless sleeping interrupted by crying children or checking to see if they’re still breathing because they didn’t wake you up at the normal times.

8. You will become obsessed with your kids.

We all have these moments, especially with newborns. I personally blame the new baby smell on this obsession. But the obsession starts before the baby is even born. You will be amazed at how many outfits you can find in places you didn’t even know had baby things. Also, never check on Amazon for baby gadgets or clothes unless you want to go bankrupt.

9. Nothing will be about you anymore, it’s all about the kids.

Not even kidding. Sometimes people will only ask you about your kids and that will be the gist of your conversation. One Christmas my husband got a car seat and a high chair for his gifts. While he may not have been that excited, I was! That was two less things to check off my list.

10. You learn to stretch yourself.

This doesn’t refer to any of the labor process, which really is the physical sense and definitely happens, but rather the actual journey of being a mom. You will literally stretch everything about yourself from your sanity and time to your personal space and heart. Sometimes you’ll even make more hours in the day just to get a project done. Or you’ll lose hours of the day by simply enjoying your kids.

11. You fall in love over and over again.

Having kids is one of the greatest things that will ever happen to you. Yes, they are exhausting little personal space bubble-bursting beings, but they are seriously great. When they learn to say I love you, give kisses, or simply say sorry, you're going to fall in love again. When they learn something new after months of trying, you fall in love. And when you want to scream from parenting just being overwhelming, you'll look into their little faces and remember that you love them.

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Dear Mom, I Hope You Know

I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

Dear Mom,

I hope you know that I appreciate you.

You are the hardest working woman I know, continuously putting your family before yourself. Thank you for doing all of the tedious jobs that no one wants to do like keeping the house in order, cooking the food, and doing the laundry. Thank you for constantly putting up with my siblings and I. Thank you for always supporting us in our interests and hobbies. Thank you for investing in our daily lives and listening to our minor problems. Thank you for always loving us unconditionally.

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I hope you know I'm sorry.

I know I can be a big pain in the butt sometimes, and for that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for yelling at you, arguing with you, not listening to you, and making dumb decisions at times, but thank you for loving me anyways. Thank you for helping me stand back up, teaching me right from wrong, and pushing me to be the very best version of me.

I hope you know your love inspires me.

You live your life with a love that is contagious. Whether its nurturing love, tough love, friendly love, or romantic love, you have it all and you show it daily. The love you and Dad share is something I hope to find one day and the love you have for your family is evident in the way you constantly put us first.

I hope you know that you are my biggest role model and hero.

Ever since I was a little girl, you have been the person I have looked to in my life. You are strong, independent, confident, loving, supportive, and nurturing-- everything I strive to be as a woman and as a future mother. You give the best advice, even when I don't always take it. Though, I should know better by now because mothers always know best. Without you in my life, I honestly don't know where I'd be.

I hope you know that you are my best friend.

Not only are you my biggest cheerleader supporting me in everything I do, you are the person I talk to about everything, whether it's good or bad. I'm honestly so thankful for the relationship we share because I've had countless screwups and you literally give the best advice. Seriously, thank you for being the person I can count on at all times, at any time of the day or even night to just talk with. I mean we really do have some of the best conversations, best laughs, best cries (when needed), and the most fun watching cheesy chick flicks together or going on crazy shopping adventures.

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I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

I don't mean to make you cry or anything -- even though you probably already are, but I want you to know that when the time comes, I'm going to be there for you just like all of these years you've been here for me. I will be there to support you, talk with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and love you for all of my life.

Honestly, I can't really imagine my life without you -- but it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be here without you, so here's to you.

Thank you for being you.

Love you lots!

Your daughter.

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11 Things Your Mom Taught You About Adulting You'd Be Lost Without

Her advice really does make this whole adulting thing a whole lot easier.


As a 20-year-old, I'm in that super awkward life stage where I have no idea if I'm an adult or still a teen. Everyone you know is either married, has kids or is just like you. As weird and uncomfy it is to accept the fact that you're a young adult, there's one thing that seems to get us all through it: our mothers. Without our mom's advice, we would be lost and let's face it, she talks major sense into you when you aren't seeing clearly.

With that being said, here are 11 things that your mom has taught you when it comes to adulting.

1. Turn on the vent fan whenever you use the stove.

When you're making pasta, veggies, literally anything... turn on the fan, at least if it's me. I somehow manage to set the fire alarm

2. Put 10% of whatever you make into your savings.

... if this isn't the realest thing I've ever heard. When you're in college, money is tight and it's extremely difficult to budget all of your priorities and still set aside money for things you actually want to spend on. If you put 10% of every paycheck into your savings, it's a for sure way to hold onto a little bit of extra cash.

3. Close your shower curtain when you get out of the shower.

This was one of my worst habits growing up. I would constantly leave the shower curtain open and wondered why my mom always got so sassy when I left it open. Well, ya better close it, people. If you leave it open while you're in college, you don't have your mom there to tell you to close it, and you're definitely going to wish you did when you walk into our bathroom and see the curtain covered in mold.

4. Electric bills are expensive. 

Man, do I feel guilty for using up so much unnecessary electricity when I was younger. Now that I'm living on my own, I understand why my mom always wanted me to turn off the lights I wasn't using and wait to start the dishwasher until it was full.

5. Coupons are your friend.

Again, college is expensive. The key to getting through it is finding some coupons to get you some major cash-saving deals. I'm not saying you have to learn the art of coupon-clipping but I am saying that googling some while you wait in line at checkout usually results in some money off when you actually pay.

6. There's healthy ways to cope with stress.

Everybody deals with stress and nobody understands it better than my mom. She lets me know ways that I can occupy myself and unwind.

7. Everything you cook is something you got from her.

I mean this literally. I call my mom when I don't know what to cook for dinner. She explains recipes to me over and over again, mostly because I never write them down. It can be something simple or difficult, whichever ones they are, they all come from her.

8. Two wrongs don't make a right.

Whenever somebody wrongs me and I vent to my mom about it, she makes it clear to me that hurting them back is never the answer. She reminds me that what goes around comes around. Karma is real, and it does nobody any good to stoop to your level.

9. There is an actual technique when it comes to packing.

Oh, you have a lot to pack? Are you nervous it won't fit? Don't fold it, roll it. Trust me, it's a game changer.

10. Procrastinating will do more harm than good.

I am always swamped with work and my mom always encourages me to get it done. Whenever I test that theory, I realize that she's right because any time I procrastinate, my work is never at it's best.

11. You will always have a best friend waiting for your call.

No matter what, your mother is always there for you. She's waiting at home for you to call, so make sure you do it. I can talk to my mom on the phone for hours and it's so comforting to know I have a mom who misses me dearly and can't wait to hear about everything I'm doing and everything that is going on.

As we go through college, we can't forget the advice that our mom has given us growing up. I can guarantee that she is always right and you're going think of her once little things that these tips come in handy happen. Don't forget all the things she has told you because trust me, you're going to need it.

My mom is my biggest supporter and role model and I can't thank her enough for all these done for me all these years.

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