1. Self-Respect

When a guy is influenced and impacted by a Tiger parent, one of the ways he lacks self-respect is that he ends up lowering his dating standards so he can find someone to date and not be alone. A second way is by not taking the time to really care for himself because the way a Tiger parent raises her son can lead to an unnecessary need to people-please and live on his parents' (or any other person's) terms.

2. Assertiveness

It's one thing to be nice and submissive, or assertive / in-control, but it's indeed possible to be nice and assertive at the same time. Sons who were raised by a Tiger parent never see that happy medium until later than most, so more often than not, they're submissive, or "easy" because they're doing as they're told rather than following their own hearts, and won't truly understand how to be assertive and respectful at the same time, for a long time. They don't truly learn how to speak up either because the parent thinks he/she can, and will, try to convince the son to change his mind in one way or another. More often than not, sadly, the parent is successful.

3. Confidence

This ties in with the second one, where someone who is submissive typically doesn't make choices, and rather would tag along with someone else who takes the lead. A son who was raised by a Tiger parent didn't truly learn how to make choices or take the lead and be confident in such decisions since he was having others make the choice or take the lead on his behalf. Tiger parents sometimes are passive-aggressive with this behavior, which makes confidence one of the most difficult to master since a son who is raised by a Tiger parent will second-guess himself or overthink things. Moreover, he will be 'tested' by the women he meets later on, say, when dating, especially those who may see a future with him, and not having confidence in key situations will eventually drive her away. So even if he looks the part of a confident man, his mind often tells him otherwise, and it fails him, directly tied to the way he was raised.

4. Chores

Most of the time, a son who has a Tiger parent will not be doing any of the chores as a younger boy, or will be told not to do them. Based on 2 and 3, they submit to that and the parent is always in control. It takes a long time for sons of Tiger parents to start doing and enjoying chores because of this, and even be truly in control of their own lives. As a personal plug, I didn't truly start taking responsibility for my own chores until I was 22.

5. Dating

Whenever a son who has a Tiger parent goes out to eat and that parent is along with him, his parent will typically pay for his meal because the parent doesn't want the son to be the one paying (as a way to establish control) so he feels that he sucks at dating. He/She essentially uses money to control him in this context. In Asian environments, when parents are out together to get food, they'll fight over who pays, and literally argue with each other, with it sometimes getting physical, and when separated, shrug it off like it was no big deal. Their kids, when with the parents in this situation, see how this sets a really awful example of how a man should value the woman he is with. You can't win a woman over with your wallet, even though she'll certainly appreciate you covering the tab for her, and you certainly can't act arrogant around her.

Most girls/women like, and even want, a guy with some semblance of assertiveness, and it's something that a son who was raised by a Tiger parent struggles mightily to be natural at, so even if such a guy is on a date and knows he'll cover the relevant tab for the date, he's overly conscious about it despite the fact he knows what he needs to do.

6. Being Emotionally Stable

A Tiger parent will try to tell the son to "be happy" when he's sad, or to "be a man" when he is crying. Tiger parents fail miserably to understand that feelings aren't switches. Feelings more like candles than switches. So, by telling him to "be happy" or "man up" in such a situation, he/she is essentially telling him that his feelings/emotions don't hold much value or validity, if any, so he bottles them up. In other words, the parent emotionally controls him so he cannot be emotionally stable himself. That's as toxic a parent-son relationship can get and it happens all too often with the Tiger parents. There's a reason why a lot of the sons of Tiger parents don't open up to their own parents. Their constant criticisms and nagging drives their sons crazy.

7. Independence

Since the Tiger parent doesn't go out as much for his/her own enjoyment or for nights out with friends in a social context, the son feels like he has to stay at home because of parents' rules and has a more difficult time exploring his own interests outside the house, especially since he is probably living under the same roof as his parents and trying to move out. There will be times where the parent wants to join in on the activities he wants to do without him/her around, which creates a tougher environment for him to thrive in because he can't be his own person.

8. Exploring Their Own Sexuality

Tiger parents frown upon sex with a passion. It makes no sense at all because their sons need to learn intimacy, or at least understand intimacy. Worst of all, some Tiger parents will shame their kids for being intimate with others, because the parents want them to be "nice" . As a result, a son who was raised by a Tiger parent is afraid to talk about it openly and is afraid to express sexual interest to people for whom he has feelings of attraction.

9. What Toxic Masculinity Is

Tiger parents also shame crying, where they want their sons to be tough and manly. Yes, I understand that those men want to be tough, but they have feelings. It's anything but unmanly to cry and/or have feelings. Tiger parents hardly respect this enough, if at all.

10. Loving others

A Tiger parent's love is unusual because of its impact and its implementation. Sometimes it is used as a sweet nothing to him in order to keep him under parent control. It's a strong attachment between the parent and son based on the definition described in the beginning of the article, and the son will struggle to be successful in social situations because of the closeness to his parent. He wants to, and has to find a way to, detach, so the son learns that this just isn't the right way to love others. He then does everything he can to prevent others from dealing with what he goes through. This is why he isn't great at dating and relationships.

11. A balance of open-mindedness

Tiger parents are often rooted in their ways, so a son learns to be open-minded even though his tiger parent isn't the same. He learns how to listen to others and be mindful of their thoughts, because his parent would demand it out of him to the point that he's overly conscious about how he treats others. He becomes too willing to compromise.

12. It's okay to walk away

Sometimes you've had enough with certain things, and this is where he learns to set boundaries and say, "Enough is enough.". It takes awhile, since the son is usually defenseless / powerless when it comes to facing a Tiger parent head-on, as a result of him/her denying his feelings and making him feel small.