Not everyone wears their heart on their sleeve. That doesn't make you a cold person, it just means that your feelings aren't as easily accessible.
1. We don’t say “I love you” like normal people.
Those three little words just don't roll off the tongue like they should, regardless of who they are spoken to. It's not that we never say it, but it's used sparingly or it's soaked in sarcasm. When that time does come, it's usually pretty uncomfortable, so we usually toss out a, "shut up," or an, “I hate you," instead of actually saying it. And, trust me, if you get a smile with a shake of the head followed with, "You're an idiot," you're golden.
2. Hugging is a chore.
Any form of physical contact really is just too uncomfortable. We don’t understand the social obligation of embracing another person. We’re actually less comforted by it. We prefer to be left alone when we’re upset, not engulfed by someone.
3. We don’t take compliments well.
Maybe it's because we absolutely loathe being the center of attention, or maybe it's because it's hard for us to discern actual sincerity. Whatever the reason, it’s quite unpleasant to receive all the applause. Add to that the fact we don’t know how to react or how to respond in these situations and we just make self-deprecating jokes.
4. We’re not unsympathetic, we’re just not empathetic.
We can give you some solid tough love. If you need advice, we're there. Even if you just need someone to listen to you, that's what we're best at. If you're looking for someone to cry with you, look somewhere else.
5. It’s pretty much a running joke that we don’t have a heart.
To anyone outside, this probably seems pretty harsh. I mean, accusing someone of being heartless isn't a joke. Most of the time, however, we understand because, well, it's true. Obviously, we aren't really heartless, but we know people just mean that we're not really open with our emotions.
6. Meeting new people is pretty scary for us.
Our friends and family know us. They know how we are. When we find someone like us, we hold onto them because they're not so easy to come by. So when we're faced with meeting new people, we're afraid that they're not going to understand us.
7. We are led by logic, not our emotions.
To us, things are usually pretty black and white. We need things to make sense in order to make a clear decision. When we’re in these situations we usually think with our head and not our heart.
8. We use sarcasm to cover up our true feelings.
When things get too serious, we make jokes. We will say just about anything to avoid confronting our feelings. A lot of the time, we don't even know we're doing it. It's a natural reaction to uncomfortable situations.
9. But the truth is, we probably feel more than most people.
We don't express our feelings, but that doesn't mean we don't have them.
