It’s been a little over a year since I got my heart broken - one full year of racing thoughts, endless tears, and way too many breakdowns that my friends and family had to deal with. But it was also one year of finally beginning to see my worth, finding myself again, and meeting new people. Here’s a list of 10 things that happen once you start getting over your first love; 10 things that will finally make you realize that you’ve moved on:
1. Your previous hatred turns into such sweet bliss
At first, you say things like you wish you never met them or you want to get back at them for breaking your heart but that soon turns into you realizing that if you never met them, you wouldn’t have learned the lessons that you did. You wouldn’t have become the person you are today.
2. You no longer have their number saved in your phone
Even though you know the number when it pops up, they’ve become so insignificant at this point that you don’t need to put a name to the number.
3. Your heart starts to feel so full
The aching pressure in your chest dissipates until there’s nothing but love for yourself.
4. You stop questioning everything
Whatever happened, happened. You can’t change it. All you can do is move forward.
5. You hang out with your friends again
You’re finally out of the haze that comes with being in a relationship which means beginning to see your friends again as well. They should have been important all along.
6. You start focusing on yourself
Instead of always worrying about what your ex is doing and what you could’ve done differently, you finally begin to look in on yourself and fix what’s broken.
7. You start making your own decisions
You make decisions on your own instead of always asking for their opinion. At this point, whatever they say or think doesn’t matter.
8. Social media becomes a dub
That feeling of always wanting to look on their page to see what they’re doing or who they’re talking to goes away and you’re left feeling like you can breathe again.
9. You start seeing a future with other people
When you first break up, you can’t even imagine being with anyone else and once you move on, you can finally see everything that you were missing.
10. Their failed attempts to get back with you make you laugh
You lost me. You’ll have to deal with that forever.
Getting over your first heartbreak or first love is one of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to do. I never understood how people could be so attached to another human being, but I get it. At a certain point, you don’t even know if you like that person anymore - you’re just so stuck in the routine of having that person. But you have to realize that we, as human beings, are always changing. So if that person you fell in love with starts to act different and you’re wondering why they’ve changed, it’s because it's normal and maybe you just didn’t make that same type of change with them. At the end of the day, you have yourself and make the most of it.
