When dating someone, and I mean not exclusively but getting to know each other, there's certain things, or "red flags" you should always look for. I just recently went on a date that was horrible from start to finish and it only took one date, and a million red flags throughout, to easily declare that this guy was a no-go. So without further explanation here are 10 Red Flags every girl should look for when dating.
1. Punctuality
On my "divine" date, my date showed up about 10 minutes late WITHOUT an explanation which immediately sent up the red flag. Being late because of car troubles, traffic, etc. and letting the person know that you'll be late is fine, and understandable. However, being late just cause your time management skills are poor is unacceptable and gives off the impression that you're careless. Be on time!
2. Self-involved
When on a date, you need to make sure you're asking your date questions to get to know them better and not talk about yourself too much. Talking highly of yourself excessively on a first date gives the impression of being prideful and slight narcissist. Make sure, if you do talk about yourself, that its relevant and doesn't come off as braggy.
3. Manners
Manners are so important! You can tell a lot about your date by watching how he treats the waiter/waitress. You can also tell a lot by how he eats. Granted, most boys inhale their food considering they're almost always hungry, but taking a break from eating to carry on a conversation says a lot! It lets you know he's interested.
4. Door opening
Do I even have to elaborate? If you're looking for a gentleman and your date doesn't open your door, that's an immediate red flag. Perhaps that's old fashioned and traditional but I still stand by that standard highly!
5. Spirituality
Again, self explanatory. For me, the first thing I look for is Godliness and the love for God. You can't always assume that since someone goes to church that they're good to go and meet your standard. Sometimes you have to look a little bit deeper. This red flag, make-or-break, is obviously optional for some people which is okay. But for every Christian relationship, there needs to be a strong, Godly, leader.
6. Personal questions
On my recent date, my date asked me if I was a virgin or not. No joke! Extreme red flag! Personal questions like that are totally inappropriate. I'm not talking about questions like 'what are your interests and hobbies?' more like 'what are your turn ons/offs?' Totally inappropriate, and should not be asked on a first date let alone any date at all.
7. No effort
You can tell a lot about the person you're pursuing by how they present themselves. Whether its how they dress, act towards you, etc. If they don't show effort towards you or themselves, that's another red flag you should look for. Cause if they don't show effort in the dating stages, then imagine what they'll be like later on.
8. Inconsistency
He says something, does another. Claims to believe in something but doesn't. Texts you one day then not the next. Inconsistency is a big red flag when looking for someone. Inconsistency in early stages is not a good sign at all and is a sign of carelessness and laziness. Big red flag.
9. Moving too fast
When a person moves too fast, that's an early sign that that person will become possessive and controlling way too soon in the relationship. When dating, you should totally take your time. Moving too fast can result in crashing and burning. Take it easy and take your time.
10. Key words
There's key words you should loo out for when dating. If your date calls you hot or sexy, that definitely gives the impression that their intentions are somewhere they shouldn't be. Also swearing on a first date before you know the person is a little rude and uncalled for considering it could offend the person and not even know.
Anyways, these are, what I consider, the major red flags when dating! Watch out for wackos!
