There is a benefit to saying that "____ is going to be my year." And there's humor behind saying that you are going to forget the previous year and make the new year your bitch. But in spite of the joy and the instant boost of confidence of when you say it, it can be pretty toxic to put so much pressure on one year of your life.

The added pressure of making a specific year of your life inevitably puts extra pressure on you, which is undue and unnecessary. There is always going to be a moment during the year when it is certainly not going to be your time, which is unfair because that's pressure on you that you don't need in a moment of fear, distress, or weakness. You are strong for so many reasons, but there is no reason to make things more difficult on your part. In times of distress, you have to know that you are beautiful, but you are also going to be thinking about how wrong you were in claiming that 2020 is going to be your year. Every year should be your year, every day should be your day. Killer queens must rule the world. By taking things one minute, one hour, one day at a time, you are removing so much pressure from yourself.

Imagine if 2020 goes wrong. You are going to be disappointed in yourself, in others, or in the year itself. Ideally, 2020 will be your year. It'll be the year you find love, of any kind, or find your dreams. Dream big, but make small goals to reach the stars. You can't get to the top of a ladder without climbing the rungs, and you can't have an amazing year without amazing days. There are 365 days in a year (except leap years!). With the right outlook, it can be a great year with 366 great days, but I imagine that there is not going to be 527,040 minutes of good time. Lord knows, I hope that there is going to have 527,040 minutes of goodness in your year, but based on January 2020, there is a lot of bad still in the world.

By expecting so much from yourself, you are going to set yourself up for some toxicity and sadness. You are going to fall harder, and without the weight on your shoulders, you are going to be able to rise up so much higher. Without concrete holding you down, you will be able climb the ladder to your dreams faster. You will be able to break the glass ceiling. There are only so many things that you can control, so focus on making those your moments.

Putting pressure on 2020 will defeat you, even if you don't realize it. Make 2020 your year, but focus on the present moment instead of the year as a whole. Don't miss the little things when you are focusing on the big things.

Therefore, you are going to win 2020, but don't put too much pressure on yourself. Let's focus on taking this one day at a time. Make this your roaring '20s.