Hey ladies, we've all encountered that guy. The charming but insecure, joyful but unhappy, boy who rocks your world. From the very beginning, he gives you the "warning": he's not a good person; he's broken on the inside; he's going to end up hurting you. So you convince yourself (and him) that you want to help and support him through whatever is going on in his life right now. You tell him you want to talk about his past and his future and his dreams. You look at him, and you see this beautiful boy. When you look closer, you can see the cracks in his smile and sometimes the light in his eyes fade away, and you think you can help.
SPOILER ALERT: you can't
You can't fix him. It's not your job to pick up the phone on the first ring every night at 2 a.m. It's not your job to answer his every beck and call. It's not your job to love him when he doesn't love himself or you. It's not your job to convince him time after time that he's not a bad guy. It's not your job to piece him back together when you're hurting on the inside yourself. It's not your job to break pieces of yourself off to mend him. It doesn't work like that.
You deserve so much more than a guy who wants you as a therapist. As a rehabilitation center. As a mom. As a fixer-upper. You're so much more than that. You are so strong. So worthy. So deserving. There is a guy out there who is prepared to give you the whole entire WORLD on a silver platter. Wait for him. Don't waste your time.
Ladies, stop breaking yourself to fix a boy. You're just wasting your time.